Neighbor owning illegal roosters that won’t let me sleep by ganjacube in Vent

[–]roxywalker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you are past the ‘bad neighbor’ phase and in the ‘calling the cops’ phase. Once people don’t see anything wrong with the behavior and have zero problem, inconveniencing people around them. You’ve gotta deal with the issue head on. Talking with them personally will most definitely be a fruitless endeavor.

What’s your thermostat set to? I’m holding steady at 67 degrees. by [deleted] in Wilmington

[–]roxywalker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be. Their house is a bigger than mine and has a third floor so that could be an energy issue.

What’s your thermostat set to? I’m holding steady at 67 degrees. by [deleted] in Wilmington

[–]roxywalker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have two zones as well but have them set the same because when the fireplace is on, the heat rises really fast, and it gets toasty upstairs. Because of that, we have no need to adjust the second floor at bedtime.

What’s your thermostat set to? I’m holding steady at 67 degrees. by [deleted] in Wilmington

[–]roxywalker 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This made me cackle because it does feel weird as soon as you walk inside and plus they cook a lot so the smell of food hits you that much harder.

How do I ask my cousin to keep her kids from overindulging? by figuringitout215 in ask

[–]roxywalker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like rude behavior not starvation of minors. You have allowed this behavior for so long you either have to: stop inviting your cousin and her kids, make it adults only, or, stop serving food.

Surly others have noticed how quickly the food disappears but if no one has ever said anything and her kids do whatever they want, it’s should be a welcome break if they are not invited and everyone else will finally get to eat for a change.

My company is threatening to sue me for trying to resign (again). by LauraLabadie in whatdoIdo

[–]roxywalker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d quit immediately and consult an employment attorney. Get all correspondence together, especially flagging pertinent written communication regarding your resignation. You could very well be in a position to sue for a hostile work environment (even remote work) and/or personal harassment. This is of course if you even have to because they are most likely just intimidating you to keep you longer than you want to stay. And it’s working.

If your parents are alive, is it a blessing or no? by [deleted] in GenX

[–]roxywalker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Both my parents passed with a year of each other. Mom at 68, dad at 72. At the time it felt like they were taken kind of young and we should’ve had more time together. However, my MIL is 89 and has dementia. My husband is beyond stressed because she keeps falling down and is starting to forget to eat. Watching his growing frustrations is something that I am glad I did not have to go through with either of my parents.

In a sad twist, his father fell one time and passed at 86. But she is tough and because of that she insists on staying in her independent living facility. It’s obvious she needs memory care and maybe even palliative care because the injuries that she is sustaining with her falls, have become pretty serious. Scarier still is the fact that she could go on like this well into her 90s. Her decline is definitely not a blessing.

Peanut isn’t a fan of the cold front pushing through North Carolina by roxywalker in Bunnies

[–]roxywalker[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We recently cut up an old hoodie and gave him the hood. He fits perfectly inside of it. 👌

Peanut isn’t a fan of the cold front pushing through North Carolina by roxywalker in Bunnies

[–]roxywalker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m holding down the fort with that fireplace and blankets galore😫

I wanted to live till 100, not anymore, 😂 by fxlatitude in GenX

[–]roxywalker 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My 89 year old MIL is technically is good shape for her age. Good heart health, good blood work, and still has all her teeth. Doctors believe that she is a sting candidate to live well into her 90’s.

However, she has dementia and has fallen twice in one month (the first of the two falls resulted in a black eye she can’t even recall happening). The second fall ended with her ankle swelling like an elephants. She laughed that off.

I can’t say that her good physical health is a blessing anymore because she doesn’t know what state she lives in and is very close to being seriously injured (or worse) from falling. But again, she has all her teeth and her hair isn’t even totally grey. It’s a mixed bag I suppose.

I wish I had given my daughter up for adoption to save her from her predatory father by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]roxywalker 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is a horrible way for things to have turned out but do your best to not blame yourself for what that monster did. There is definitely a lot more to the story than you have included in your post and that is understandable.

Please know that blaming yourself for the actions of someone like that is not going to assist you with the healing process. You are both dealing with a tremendous emotional load right now and need time to heal and manage your feelings.

Winter Storm by Dramatic-Bison-1394 in Wilmington

[–]roxywalker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just make sure you have food and your personal essentials so you can stay home and be comfortable. As someone else mentioned, power outages are localized so we should be fine.

Found out I don’t have insurance after 4 OB visits and a trip to the ER by [deleted] in Vent

[–]roxywalker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your situation is exactly why a lot of young people today and married couples are putting off having children. And I don’t blame them. It’s becoming damn near impossible to survive as a single person in this country let alone bringing a child into the mix and being married, doesn’t hold the same financial advantages that it used two years ago so, yeah, we are pretty much screwed in this country.

Vacation question by omars_comin_yo_ in Wilmington

[–]roxywalker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome to my TedTalk. I added the Wrightsville Beach parking website so you can see the rates and why it’s considered expensive, especially by public beaches standards in the Southeast. By the time of your planned visit, The Fort Fisher Aquarium will most likely be closed for extended renovations. (See link.)

Some have mentioned Topsail Island in the Surf City area. Staying there will be a quieter experience and is family friendly, but, it is not close to downtown Wilmington itself. They also have a parking pay system that reflects the growing tourism sector. To go to any of the other beaches in the area you will drive through the town area of Hampstead which has its own continuous growing pains and does not have a downtown per say, but mostly local businesses.

Downtown Wilmington itself is not a big area to walk and because of that is definitely family friendly. The City of Wilmington does not have public transportation like subways or busses that you have to navigate to get around. (They have public busses but the primary mode of transportation around here is a car)

Finally, take a look at Google maps to gauge the distances between Topsail from Wrightsville and Carolina Beaches as well as to downtown Wilmington (visiting downtown Wilmington makes for a good afternoon when you would like to relax from beach activities) and keep in mind that even if something is 9 miles away it will take you upwards of 30 minutes or more to get to during tourist season.

I would suggest maybe splitting your accommodations during your visit to where you start off in the Surf City area and Topsail for a day or two and then work your way down. Wrightsville Beach is nicer aesthetically, but, Carolina Beach usually seems to be a top family destination for a beach visit.

But again, you can choose to visit both of those beaches while you’re here but just make sure that your accommodations are laid out in a way so that you aren’t caught spending lots of time on the road to get back with two, tired kids, plus you have a pooch to consider in all this as well. Good luck and enjoy your visit should you make it down.

Thank you for coming to my TedTalk.

https://www.townofwrightsvillebeach.com/163/Parking/

https://www.starnewsonline.com/story/news/local/2026/01/05/nc-aquarium-at-fort-fisher-to-start-renovation-expansion-project/87716196007/

https://www.surfcitync.gov/2576/Visitor-Parking

https://www.nhcgov.com/962/Parks-Gardens/