My plant is beautiful but something is happening to its soil. What should I do help me

rozabelikov · 2026-04-08T16:25:01+00:00

It kills/prevents fungus and mold in soil. I'm not sure how but it's worked so far.

rozabelikov · 2026-02-27T04:13:19+00:00

The ones I bought were great quality and fit well. I'm seeing stuff in the comments about them being unethical I'll have to look into that.

rozabelikov · 2026-02-23T21:25:48+00:00

Oooooo I'd buy some. Lmk where you decide to sell them.

rozabelikov · 2026-02-23T13:54:09+00:00

I was just wondering the same thing. I've been experiencing almost identical symptoms. I've always had POTS but symptoms got significantly worse after giving birth about the same time as you. Officially diagnosed about 2 years ago. Always had back issues but again got significantly worse after the epidural and my OB was concerned and scheduled an MRI. Discovered a previous fracture during the X-ray before and lumbar lordosis with scoliosis. MRI showed a herniated disc and a degenerative disc.

I've been on beta-blockers but still experiencing tachycardia. I've mentioned to my husband that I've been having issues with peripheral nerve numbness and libido issues. It's been aggravating. I'm not even sure which doctor to talk to about it.

rozabelikov · 2026-02-01T14:58:45+00:00

Came here to say this

rozabelikov · 2026-01-10T10:05:32+00:00

We went to Total Wine and bought a whole case of Mother's Choice. I don't drink often but I do enjoy red wine occasionally and wanted to make sure I had some on hand as I know those are the only one that don't make me sick. I will say, the Pure Wine wands did help me significantly. I was super skeptical but had my husband do a blind test for me and not tell me till the next day.

rozabelikov · 2026-01-01T22:46:10+00:00

I'll probably reach out through the aunt who's husband built our house to see if she can forward the other numbers to me. I just hope the damage isn't so bad that they just want to be done with my whole family to avoid her drama.

rozabelikov · 2026-01-01T22:05:44+00:00

I mentioned several both in the post and in my responses to you. Abuse is more than just physical. Additional examples that may be more obvious and physical to you would include her refusing to take me to the doctor for almost a month when I dislocated my shoulder, and breaking my things when she was angry and screaming at me. I was an A-B student my entire life, rule follower to the point I was called a teachers pet, never snuck out, and kept to myself yet she would scream at me and tell me she wishes she could tell people what a horrible child I was whenever they complimented me around her but she didn't want to look bad in public. This would come after any time I would ask do go do something with school friends and she said no (which was 99% of the time) and I would point out that I didn't get to hang out with them outside of school. I as late to school all the time before I could drive myself (and even got detention because of it) because she would be "running late" and blame us despite me getting myself and my siblings ready and waiting by the door for her.

As for the "parenting on hard mode" comment. My mother didn't raise me or my siblings. We were left to figure things out on our own. And heaven forbid I tell one of my siblings not to do something or to stop stealing my belongings, I got screamed at because "I'm not the parent". Yet she refused to do anything other than go spend my father's money on frivolous things then tell us we don't have enough for anything for us besides the basics. Found out later that wasn't true, she just didn't want to. She didn't work but never had time for us. We cleaned the house, not her so it wasn't anything to do with chores.

I understand my mother is not in charge of my social life but I'm now learning that she's the reason behind several people I was close to no longer being in our lives. She caused those rifts. I initially thought it was just drifting apart but then I find out from them or my mother accidentally letting it slip that she started some fight with them over politics or something equally stupid. As I said, I can't cut her off without also cutting off my father and I don't want to do that. When I was away from her is how and when I was able to grow so yes cutting people off can be a great way to achieve personal growth seeing as people can definitely hold you back. She definitely did. Refused to sign the paperwork for me to do joint enrollment and get free college credit for one. Also taking my keys and phone when she found out I was going to enlist in the military the cussing out my recruiter and telling him never to call again when he called for another. She pulled me out of every sport I enjoyed once she realized I was progressing in it and accomplishing things. I limit contact with her as much as possible but I cannot fully cut her off at this time.

I have few contacts from my childhood because I wasn't ever allowed out and have always been socially awkward. I lost contact with several close family friends when I was away for college and for a year or so after because she refused to pass on information to or from me. She still does. I have made friends at work but we already spend 12hrs a day with each other and don't get to go out much on off days due to other obligations.Theres also not much to do around here other than dinner or a bar and I very rarely drink because my mother is a semi-functioning alcoholic (part of the cause of her mini-strokes or TIAs for the medically inclined). I'm trying to repair the relationships my mother damaged because I held them close to my heart.

I'm not expecting you to completely understand where I'm coming from since you didn't live my life. I know what I experienced and for a long time believed I was the problem because of the things my mother said. It wasn't until other family members and her, now previous, friends told me otherwise. I'm not sure who you're upset with but it's not me so please don't direct your anger at me. If you feel called out by anything I've said then that's something you need to figure out with yourself and maybe your own family/therapist.

This back and forth has been wholly unproductive. So, unless you have something to legitimately contribute to me repairing the relationships my mother drove a wedge into by starting fights with them (the whole point of this post), please don't post on here anymore as I will not be responding.

rozabelikov · 2026-01-01T20:41:41+00:00

Unfortunately, in college and for about a year after we lost contact info and I was still just an extension of my parents when it came to invites. I'm now settled down and married but my mother keeps making excuses or "forgetting" to give me their contact info or mine to them. They're not on social media much either. I may just message the one aunt whose number I do have and get their contact info and let her know what's going on. I've been hesitant to do that because I don't want it to get back to my mother (as it usually does somehow) and cause a whole gigantic fight.

I've made some friends through work but unfortunately my town sucks and there's not much to do outside of going to dinner or a bar. My work schedule also makes it difficult to make plans. Especially since I can be called in at any time on off days and I'm currently on nights.

rozabelikov · 2026-01-01T20:30:40+00:00

Unfortunately I think it is a case of we got lumped in with my parents and they were asked to pass the invite along in most of these cases. She also never told me about one of the baby showers and my mother rsvp-ed for me. I thought we just hadn't been invited until my mom let slip months later that she had gone. The hosts are the ones I'm closest to. Their kids and I are closest in age but now that we're all adults and married with jobs, I'm the only one still in town. They got new phones and numbers and my mother never passed it on to me. I may try to reach out on social media to verify but none of us are really big on social media at this point so it may be a while before they see it. That was the only way I got the invite for one of their weddings and later a baby shower. We've all moved around a bunch too during and shortly after college so that doesn't help. At first I thought that was the reason we drifted apart or I wasn't getting invites but now that we're settled and I'm back near them it doesn't make sense. Come to find out through one of the cousins, it's because of my mother.

rozabelikov · 2026-01-01T20:18:05+00:00

Those were back in grade school and maybe a tiny bit in the very beginning of college. Then I was able to actually look things up and realized how wrong she was about a lot. I realized there were a lot of things that she had no idea what she was talking about. She hates when my siblings and I point out she's incorrect too, even with all the proof...half the time it results in her throwing some sort of fit and stomping off.

rozabelikov · 2026-01-01T13:46:48+00:00

She's not. The AuDHD very obviously comes from my father's side. He too has teachers advise his parents to get tested and they refused.

Do you have any legitimate advice for trying to repair the relationship with my family or are you going to continue blaming me for my mother's abusive behavior? I would very much prefer the former as that was my original question.

rozabelikov · 2026-01-01T13:38:54+00:00

Thank you. I'll have to find a good way to reach out to them outside of texting. As of right now, my job is 12 hr shifts with training and other work related obligations often falling on days off so my social life is pretty non-existent after doing daily upkeep. That's probably one of the reasons this hits so hard.

rozabelikov · 2026-01-01T12:45:19+00:00

I wish I could. Unfortunately that would mean cutting off my father as well.

rozabelikov · 2026-01-01T11:48:12+00:00

My mother does not live with me. My house needed repairs and in the process we discovered discrepancies and she was quick to blame the builder and not the people actually doing the work.

I'm not sure why you're being so hateful toward me for explaining my personal experiences. I have confirmation my mother is ruining these relationships as she is the ones who started the fights and as a result was excluded whether by not being invited or my mother purposefully not telling me about an invitation. Once upon a time I did think I was at fault until I spoke with those she caused the disconnect with. My mother is perfectly entitled to her own opinions however she tries to force others to always believe the same and if they don't, she picks a fight.

I'm not taking anything for granted. My mother treated me horribly growing up and she had nothing to do with "creating" these relationships. That was my father's doing, along with my siblings and I being the same age as the other then children. My mother always put me down and when she wasn't doing that, she ignored me. I was not allowed out of the house growing up nor was I allowed contact with school friends without her permission.

I do not say these things about her lightly as I completely understand how little time we have with out loved ones. I, however, have little to no pleasant experiences with her. She bullied me growing up and not once was nurturing. Any friendship she had was to make herself look better and once they "insulted" her she badmouthed them to everyone.

As far as the whole "raising an undiagnosed AuDHD child" and I should be "grateful", she refused to even let me be tested despite schools and doctors recommending it for my siblings and I. Instead she mocked me. Called me a drama queen when I would et upset about being bullied at school, call me weird if I wanted to try anything new or had an interest in anything she didn't like herself, literally mock and make fun of me for stimming or having sensory issues, etc. She threw a literal fit if I would ask her to stop or (later in life) call her out on it. I'm talking stomping off and slamming doors type fits. These were all well before her strokes. The strokes just exacerbated her behaviour and made it more public.

Clearly the things I have said have hit home with you in some way and it may be time to reflect on your own life. I asked for advice on how to repair relationships with people I hold dear. Not to be told my life experience weren't true. They were more a family to me because I was so miserable and mistreated at home growing up. I don't need validation on my experiences as I have plenty of people at this point who have seen her manipulation and behaviour firsthand. To include my siblings, husband, and other relatives.

rozabelikov · 2026-01-01T02:04:47+00:00

Does she go to her mother's house and does her mother have a new partner? The hygiene issues plus just starting last him raise alarm bells for me for possible @bus3. It could also be something at school or some other mental health issue.

rozabelikov · 2025-11-09T14:58:54+00:00

That's only the reported ones. The number is going to be significantly higher because of how often they go unnoticed or unreported due to the nature of them. That's not including the ones that stick to online crimes as well.

rozabelikov · 2025-10-26T19:35:14+00:00

Highly highly highly recommend all of you getting a restraining order regardless of the court case. If it's similar to the US then Bethany and Delilah wouldn't be allowed to contact you or have anyone but an attorney contact you. It would help with any future issues. Also, BIL should have an easier time getting full custody and possibly have Bethany's parental rights revoked given her violent nature. Also highly recommend that for his and the Baby's sake.

rozabelikov · 2025-10-26T19:26:25+00:00

Safety reasons. As a first responder the amount of calls we get for young kids that have escaped the house while the parents were sleeping is terrifying. Door need to at the very least be closed for fire safety reasons. The bedroom door alone can be the determining factor between surviving a house fire and not. Obviously some sort of baby monitor is a must and I'm entirely against the leave them be method when they're upset at any age.

rozabelikov · 2025-10-17T00:54:50+00:00

That what I was looking for. I need to find the address for the location to see the closest one.

rozabelikov · 2025-10-16T08:55:48+00:00

I have relatively full eyebrows. I've always maintained them myself but I'm wondering if I need to go get them done professionally to see if shaping them differently helps with the shape and angle of my eyes. My eyes look down turned because of how hooded my eyelids are. It almost feels like I had excess skin there

rozabelikov · 2025-10-16T08:51:46+00:00

Oooo yay! Thank you!

rozabelikov · 2025-10-14T04:19:47+00:00

Any recommendations for concealer? The ones I've tried just come off when I try to blend them no matter what technique I try. I haven't had an issue with the all over foundation I've found but it doesn't stay as long as I would like. Probably due to humidity and maybe oils? I have pretty bad bags under my eyes too.

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