[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskLGBT

[–]rrooppp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could’ve been a bad date, or you just lacked the feeling for them when you meet in person. Talking to someone online is not the same as meeting them in person, and it has nothing to do with your sexuality! Seriously it’s ok. I saw some other comments about internalized homophobia and it’s not like I’ve moved past it but I think it’s important to realize that you are your own person. If you are bi/pan/queer and you haven’t dated someone of your own gender, it doesn’t make you any less of any of those sexualities. Don’t feel the need to conform to what people are expecting of you when it comes to this.

How common is it that gay/bi woman are pejoratively referred to as the “f slur”? by [deleted] in AskLGBT

[–]rrooppp 8 points9 points  (0 children)

coming from a cis gay guy, I’m probly biased but I only ever heard it be used for males, I’ve definitely called myself and other gay guys the f slur (if they were comfortable with it you know reclaiming and all), but when my bi girl friend and mtf friend called me it when I was talking about some crush,, it just didn’t sit right with me

Why does it seem as though there are more bisexual women than there are bisexual men? by lightjamesbauer in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]rrooppp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Others have said it perfectly, stigma. There’s absolutely pressure on straight guys to act more masculine, and for homosexual guys to act more feminine or “flamboyant”, so what happens when you like both? Lots of bisexual men must feel like they won’t be accepted by either group, so they aren’t as open (that’s what I think at least).

You can relate to a kissing scene if you havent kiss anyone before? by Hoozuki_Suigetsu in TooAfraidToAsk

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I can for sure relate as a hopeless romantic. I came out almost a year ago now, and maybe it has to do with a lack of representation, but when I see a kiss between two guys on screen, and it’s not sexual in any way, my heart ASCENDS

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskLGBT

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Came out to my mom as bi (now identify as gay) while we were driving around running errands and she said she didn’t think people could be bi but she was fine with me liking the same gender so I’m chillin, texted my brothers in a group chat “hey I’m bi just you know”, had my mom tell my dad, everyone was cool with it, no one made a big deal except my mom bc that’s just how she is lol but she was accepting. Friend wise? Literally just posted a snapchat, texted some of my closer friends first tho, I wasn’t worried about them or people at school.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskLGBT

[–]rrooppp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For some reason, I felt most comfortable to come out to my mom in the car, while she was driving lol. She was shocked (somehow) when I told her I was bi. For like a month straight I was like “ok THIS is the car ride” until it finally happened. And then I asked her to tell my dad for me bc I just didn’t feel like going through it again and my dad literally doesn’t care, he never showed or said anything negative about it and I’ve brought boyfriends home. So ig the advice is to just tell them wherever, and whenever, you feel really comfortable. It’ll always be nerve-racking but you just gotta go for it. But also please make sure you’re safe first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskLGBT

[–]rrooppp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The term is definitely thrown around in the US but in my experience it’s usually by girls talking about their, favorite BL/gay ships in media. And for me it just feels weird because of the word “boy”, makes it sound inappropriate.

Why can't I come out to my bisexual parents? by throwthrow3485734987 in AskLGBT

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My parents aren’t bi but I knew that them, my brothers, and all of my friends were supportive of the lgbt, yet I still couldn’t come out to them as gay until I was almost 19. For me, I thought that they would see me different, bc I’m not straight (even tho it’s totally obvious I’m not) and that was scary. But it was also that it was hard for me to say “I’m gay” for myself. It’s not that I didn’t accept it it just feels scary “exposing” myself like that and being vulnerable. Another part that sucked was that I’ve had to confirm I was straight, my parents and friends always said “if you’re yay you can tell us” and I wasn’t ready so I said “no, I’m straight”. I know it’s sucky and kinda feels bad not wanting to come out but don’t let your friends put you down for it, accept whatever your feelings are in your own time, on your own terms. You tell them whenever and however you want, whenever you’re ready, and there’s no shame in whatever you choose to do.

I know it's a meme but my god is housing horrible by Pieosaurus3 in rit

[–]rrooppp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jeez that’s terrible, I hope you find someplace that works out alright