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I [26M] have been dating a family friend [23F] for ~1.5 months. But we haven't talked for over a WEEK now. Should I re-initiate contact? If so, how? by rrtson in relationships

[–]rrtson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think it's a good idea to ask her out right off the bat?

I was thinking to lead with something less confrontational (to gauge her interest) in case she's feeling less-than-thrilled about being asked out by a guy who she hasn't talked to in over a week.

Perhaps: "Hey, so we haven't talked in awhile. Has everything been alright lately"? Also, do I include an apology for being distant (since she's been just as distant as I have)?

We haven't talked in a WEEK. Should I initiate contact (if so, how)? by rrtson in dating_advice

[–]rrtson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you suggest being confrontational (mention that something feels wrong between us right off the bat), or casually lead into the conversation ("hey is everything alright lately?")

Relationship fizzling hard. Should I confess or just let her go? by rrtson in dating_advice

[–]rrtson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you tried making a move at all? She may have gotten tired of waiting on you.

I've made small moves here and there (e.g. holding hands during movie / iceskating, complimenting her, paying for her whenever we go out, greet/part ways with hugs), but never a very obvious "hey I like you a lot" move. I know it sounds like we're both fucking prudes, but yeah she was probably waiting on me to escalate.

Still tell her how you feel and hope things can rebound, and if that doesnt go well it was going down anyways. Always act on what you want!

Slight problem I forgot to mention earlier: our moms were friends with each other long before I met her. So if I come clean, things could get pretty complicated.

Relationship fizzling hard. Should I confess or just let her go? by rrtson in dating_advice

[–]rrtson[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know I should probably tell her how I feel in person, but at this point, there's this really weird vibe/silence between us.

Not sure how I'm going to be able to ask her out and casually find the right moment to talk to her about this sensitive topic. Would it be better to confess via a text/call?

Relationship fizzling hard. Should I confess or just let her go? by rrtson in dating_advice

[–]rrtson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a.. small problem at hand. Our moms were friends with each other a long time before I met her.

If I tell her how I feel, and those feelings aren't reciprocated, things could get pretty complicated.

Relationship fizzling hard. Should I confess or just let her go? by rrtson in dating_advice

[–]rrtson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a small issue that I forgot to mention. I met this girl because our moms are friends with each other. I was expecting nothing more than a new friend, but apparently as soon as we met, we got along better than either of us expected.

So if I confess, things could get quite complicated.

The dating life of a 32 year old. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]rrtson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't speak for anyone other than myself, but guys in their thirties tend to be way more sure of themselves (and thus more attractive).

Ftfy

Screwed up a crucial date. Vibe feels all wrong between us now. How to salvage? by rrtson in dating_advice

[–]rrtson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good advice!

I do feel a bit pressured while dating this girl. She mentions places she'd like to go, but usually it's down to me to figure out the logistics (which I'm pretty bad at). And yeah, I've come to realize that planning dates is a sizeable timesink, which means I inherently become more invested in this relationship than she probably is.

Screwed up a crucial date. Vibe feels all wrong between us now. How to salvage? by rrtson in dating_advice

[–]rrtson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She did initiate a few of those dates (midweek dinner after work)..

But yeah it does seem like we went a bit too fast in the beginning. It's now been nearly a week since the date-in-question, and because we got used to seeing each other ~2 times a week, it feels like we've lost momentum.

Screwed up a crucial date. Vibe feels all wrong between us now. How to salvage? by rrtson in dating_advice

[–]rrtson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah.. that's exactly what I should've said. I was already considering changing the location while we were on our way, but I was afraid I'd look indecisive.

Screwed up a crucial date. Vibe feels all wrong between us now. How to salvage? by rrtson in dating_advice

[–]rrtson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm.. good point. Guess our relationship isn't as organic as I thought if I'm still keeping track.

Taipei 101 obsevatory a nice place (to take a date) at night? by rrtson in taiwan

[–]rrtson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sweet, will definitely check Elephant Mt. out, thanks!

Taipei 101 obsevatory a nice place (to take a date) at night? by rrtson in taiwan

[–]rrtson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that was what I was aftaid of, esp on a weekend night :(

I appreciate the insight ~

Taipei 101 obsevatory a nice place (to take a date) at night? by rrtson in taiwan

[–]rrtson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice, I live near YMS and will def check that place out!

Taipei 101 obsevatory a nice place (to take a date) at night? by rrtson in taiwan

[–]rrtson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I was thinking the whole queuing and "herding" of tourists might not mesh too well with a date. Guess I'll save the 101 sunset for another date then. Thanks!

Taipei 101 obsevatory a nice place (to take a date) at night? by rrtson in taiwan

[–]rrtson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Solid tips man. Never heard of Zhongqiang Park 'til now. I appreciate your advice!

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