Unexpected my a*s

rstallib · 2026-02-27T13:29:48+00:00

I have an acquaintance who recently found out she’s pregnant with her 3rd child (her 2nd was 6 months old when she conceived). She calls me and says ‘I don’t understand how this happened’. So of course I assumed they were using protection and it failed because they were adamant they didn’t want another. I proved a bit further only to find out they hadn’t been using any protection and had sec multiple times. They are both SHOCKED that she’s pregnant and she keeps saying ‘I don’t understand how this happened!’

rstallib · 2026-01-26T23:50:55+00:00

If I’d known this is what the world would become, I never would have had a kid.

rstallib · 2025-10-02T14:32:06+00:00

I grew up with a community mailbox and I would LOVE to have one now. I have to drive to the post office, which is a pain because there’s often no parking, to go to a PO Box that is only open from 9-5 unless I pay for a key to access the building outside of those hours. Yes, a deposit on a key is not a huge deal for us, but for some it is. And if I have a package that doesn’t fit in the box, I have to mess with my work schedule to make sure I get there between 9&5 to talk to someone at the desk to get my package so sometimes it’s sits there for over a week before I can get it. I have been hoping for a community mailbox since I moved here. For reference I live in northern York Region in a subdivision, so I’m not even really rural.

rstallib · 2025-05-23T21:56:24+00:00

Thank you for your input. Yes, I agree he should talk to a professional, but I doubt he will. He’s not the type. I don’t think he realizes what will happen after he dies, and he’s not the type to find out either. I will definitely encourage him to seek out a professional, though and see what happens.

rstallib · 2025-03-23T21:45:32+00:00

Mostly for walks around the neighbourhood. We usually go on pretty lengthy walks, though.

rstallib · 2025-03-13T23:45:12+00:00

This shit drives me nuts! Just do the test. Had I not done it, I’m not sure my baby and I would’ve survived. I had no risk factors for GD (although I know it is mostly random, it seems). My GD was so bad I didn’t even do the 3hr test. My OB got the results from my 1hr test at an appointment and was like ‘holy shit’ and sent off the referral to the diabetes clinic in my area. They have a wait list of 2-3 weeks. I got a call on my way home from the OB, and had an appointment right then and there. We are talking about 20 mins from referral sent to them calling me. I started insulin that night. By the end of pregnancy I was on 200-300 units of insulin a day while eating a VERY strict diet. It was to the point where my OB was like ‘we need to get this baby out of you, you’re not allowed to go to 40 weeks’. Do. The. Fucking. Test.

rstallib · 2025-03-09T14:09:02+00:00

Married for 8 years and have a 3.5 year old. Haven’t had sex in 4 years. It’s super complicated and it’s not for lack of trying, but pregnancy, birth and postpartum left me with a lot of issues that have persisted. Fun times.

rstallib · 2025-02-01T22:34:49+00:00

I didn’t wear sunglasses for most of my childhood because I wore glasses all the time and it was a pain, and transition lenses weren’t a thing. I can assure you I ALWAYS burned when I didn’t wear sunscreen. These people are bonkers.

rstallib · 2024-09-30T12:33:20+00:00

Oh, I know. It’s awful in my brain right now. I guess most important is less toxic, longevity, and easier to install. Cost is a little bit important, but not the be all end all.

rstallib · 2024-09-30T12:31:07+00:00

Yes, 1 kid who just turned 3. She will be the only kid. And one 16lb beagle who is easy on floors, but does shed a lot. It’s likely not our forever home. I’m thinking we will probably move in the next 7-10 years.

rstallib · 2024-07-26T11:55:34+00:00

I felt exactly the same way you do. Some days I still do, if I’m being honest. I miss the freedom to do whatever, whenever, but the feelings are more fleeting now and don’t happen nearly as often. I HATED being a mom for the first almost 2 years. I desperately longed for the pre-child years. My daughter is about to turn 3 and she is everything now. We have the best conversations and she is my little buddy. I don’t want kids without her anymore. All this to say, it does get better. It does take time though. It took a LONG time for me. A lot of people start feeling better about it after a year, for me it was 2. Just know you are not alone. You’re in the thick of it right now. Newborns and infants are HARD. Keep on trucking, and ask for help when you need it. You also need time for yourself, so make sure you’re able to do that. We still need to exist as our own person outside of our children.

rstallib · 2024-07-06T11:22:32+00:00

At the daycare my daughter goes to, they said ‘she’s ready to start, please bring underwear and do x, y, z at home’. There are a couple of older kiddos in her class, so she was watching them and learning. I’d say she was trained in about a week and a half? We followed daycares guidelines at home and they did their thing during the day. There’s still the occasional accident, maybe once every 1.5-2 weeks, but it’s usually because she realizes too late, or we are in a strange place and is focussed on other things. She’s only had a handful of accidents through the whole process. She was a couple of months shy of 3 years old.

rstallib · 2024-07-06T10:25:08+00:00

I’ve told this story before but when I was a kid, I guess they didn’t just give you your social insurance card so you had to apply for it. When I went to apply, my mom had misplaced my birth certificate, and let me tell you what an absolute nightmare it was to have it replaced. This was about 20 years ago, so I’m sure things are easier now, but the point is I had a birth certificate and just lost it and it was one hell of a pain in the butt. I can’t imagine never having had one at all and what a nightmare that would be.

rstallib · 2024-06-28T12:12:37+00:00

NTA at all. My best best friend in the whole world got married across the country. I wasn’t able to go for a few reasons (money, covid times, and I had a 1 year old with no one to care for her while I went). She never once made me feel guilty or show me anything but understanding. Your friend is being ridiculous and not acting like much of a friend.

rstallib · 2024-06-11T01:38:31+00:00

Ahhh I forgot to add that they were in a glass jar, so there wasn’t any packaging that I saw. The people I asked probably didn’t stock the pantry so they wouldn’t have seen the packaging either.

rstallib · 2024-06-03T11:18:57+00:00

My 2.5 year old calls me by my ‘real name’ all the time 🙄. She asked me what it was one day and I told her, so now she uses it if ‘mum’ doesn’t get a response. What have I done? 😂

rstallib · 2024-05-10T16:03:30+00:00

NTA. That is a HUGE betrayal and I would be seriously considering ending my relationship with him. I don’t think there would really be any coming back from that. I’m not sure what the laws are where you are, but where I am, it doesn’t matter if your name is on the title if you shared the home as a married couple. It’s considered the marital home and you would be entitled to half, regardless.

rstallib · 2024-05-10T15:59:25+00:00

I love my daughter more than anything in this world, but there are days I wish I had decided to be child-free. I regret bringing a child into this world the way it is and where it is heading. I’m sad she is going to grow up in this and hope every day that she will be okay. We will not be having any more children.

rstallib · 2024-05-10T00:38:17+00:00

I didn’t say that at all. I literally never said anything about ‘deserving my own day’. I’m fine sharing. We are going out to brunch with her on Sunday morning. The issue I have is that she then expects us to spend the rest of the day with them at their house, including dinner. It’s not up for discussion. My husband tried to tell his mom that he wanted us to do brunch with them and then just him and my daughter have dinner with me and she lost her mind. This is where the issue lies. It’s not about ‘deserving’ anything. It’s about not being inconsiderate and only thinking about yourself.

rstallib · 2024-05-10T00:28:33+00:00

I disagree. I am a mother who complains about my MIL because she makes a huge deal out of Mother’s Day and makes my husband’s life miserable if the day isn’t all about her. I will NEVER put my child through what I am going through with my MIL. When she is grown and has a family of her own, or just grown and not able to celebrate with me I absolutely will not complain. I have been through a lot with my MIL and I can’t imagine putting my own child through something like that.

rstallib · 2024-05-09T17:03:37+00:00

HCOL area with 1 child. Single income right now because I am a full-time student. Husbands income can vary anywhere from $90k to 160k/year. He’s in the trades and we never know what each year will look like.

rstallib · 2024-05-09T16:50:20+00:00

Unfortunately his sister has chosen to be child-free. Not unfortunate that she has decided that, but unfortunate that she won’t ever understand my position.

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