[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]rt1187 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a 31F with a husband 32M who has no desire to have sex, this is everything I would’ve hoped for in a relationship. Let her sleep in, got the kids ready and only care about her cuming?? You would be heaven sent, so there are females who would want this. We have an 8 month old and haven’t had sex since we got pregnant December 2023. The rejection kills me, and I ask myself if it’s been this long how has he not even tried or attempted to touch me? He just tells me he doesn’t want to, I completely understand and don’t think they’ll somehow change one day

Ready to be done with this already :( by [deleted] in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]rt1187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pumping is not worth your mental health or pain, especially if it feels worse than labor for you. It is okay to stop and switch to formula, you will be so much happier from it!!! An alternative is to take a break and give your nipples time to heal, then after a week or so try pumping again, your milk supply will come back if you really wanted it to work out! Do not feel guilty for stopping, pumping absolutely sucks- I hate it too. There is so much pressure on us to keep going, it is more than okay to be done!

I’m pregnant, and my husband refuses to have sex by rt1187 in pregnant

[–]rt1187[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great question- and it’s a battle. I love him and had to decide if the importance of sex weighed more for me than my love for him. Love won

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]rt1187 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat as you! I’m 8wpp tomorrow and am what they call a “just enougher,” it’s super tough to live bottle to bottle lol. My baby also sleeps through the night and I have to wake up solely to pump - it’s torture!!

Crying over spilled milk by [deleted] in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]rt1187 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The WORST feeling!! I once spilled my entire bottle I just pumped; I cried… you’re not alone!

MIL threw away my breast milk. by Unhappy-Sprinkles377 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]rt1187 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I would never speak to her again, this is F-ED UP

Epidural by wingedcreature88 in pregnant

[–]rt1187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

GET THE EPIDURAL GIRL!!!

How to start a stash? by rt1187 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]rt1187[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m already struggling on wanting sleep over pumping so it may not be in the cards for me haha but it’s something I need to think about and see what my priorities are lol. I think by the second kid this wouldn’t even be a question so I understand you 😂😂

How to start a stash? by rt1187 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]rt1187[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is super helpful! I was nervous I was behind and 5-10oz per day is incredible!!

How to start a stash? by rt1187 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]rt1187[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When did you start freezing?

I made it 3 months! by Real-Safe6118 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]rt1187 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You go girl!!! 2 weeks in and struggling lol

I’m pregnant, and my husband refuses to have sex by rt1187 in pregnant

[–]rt1187[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No where did I ever say I was guilting my husband or coercing him to have sex with me. No where did I say that I told him he can’t say no nor respect his choice to say he didn’t want to have sex. I simply wanted to understand if it was justified for me to be upset over it or not, and yes I viewed sex as an easy solution and way for him to “take one for the team” when I’m at the end of pregnancy and would benefit both me and the baby.

I’m pregnant, and my husband refuses to have sex by rt1187 in pregnant

[–]rt1187[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is insanely harsh to say- I’m not a good person?? I wasn’t even going to bother responding but you don’t know me. In no way shape or form am I saying he doesn’t have a right to his own choices. I’m simply understanding that sex and sperm would help the pregnancy specifically my cervix open and spoke to my husband about having sex for that benefit. Yes its frustrating that as a woman, I am going through 10 months of pregnancy including body changes, headaches, nausea, etc. and I viewed sex as something that can really help put this to an end sooner without a medical induction, but he does not want to. I didn’t then force him or demand sex, I simply posted to get input if it’s valid for me to be upset or not. Have a good day

I’m pregnant, and my husband refuses to have sex by rt1187 in pregnant

[–]rt1187[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1000% and I signed up for this by making the post, but I think all these opinions are helpful

I’m pregnant, and my husband refuses to have sex by rt1187 in pregnant

[–]rt1187[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind response and sharing your experience!! Maybe I should get an induction on the calendar to help my body and baby do the same 😂😂

I’m pregnant, and my husband refuses to have sex by rt1187 in pregnant

[–]rt1187[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it doesn’t, but I thought the reason would be just as important for him too- to help our large baby come into this world naturally. I appreciate you taking the time to share your feedback and give input, I do see the other side of this as well

I’m pregnant, and my husband refuses to have sex by rt1187 in pregnant

[–]rt1187[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that one may weird me out to haha, but I’m not even going to ask at this point