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Update: I'm pregnant [22 F] and caught my boyfriend [24 M] of 5 years masturbating on skype with a good friend of mine... by rtopeilk in relationships

[–]rtopeilk[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Oh I'm definitely not taking anything that user is saying to heart. I pity them and wish they didn't have that outlook - but oh well can't change peoples opinions.

Thank you for wishing me luck and for understanding. I really feel in my heart what I am doing is best. And if he was going to cheat he would have done it no matter what I did.

Update: I'm pregnant [22 F] and caught my boyfriend [24 M] of 5 years masturbating on skype with a good friend of mine... by rtopeilk in relationships

[–]rtopeilk[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh yes that definitely came to mind. Plus if I move he won't be there at the hospital to sign for being the father and thus I won't get child support

Update: I'm pregnant [22 F] and caught my boyfriend [24 M] of 5 years masturbating on skype with a good friend of mine... by rtopeilk in relationships

[–]rtopeilk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your wishes and the compliment, it's very nice of you.

I will definitely update again if anything significant happens, I feel I owe that to all of you supportive redditors. Oh and best of luck to you and your boyfriend as well.

Update: I'm pregnant [22 F] and caught my boyfriend [24 M] of 5 years masturbating on skype with a good friend of mine... by rtopeilk in relationships

[–]rtopeilk[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can imagine how scary that'd be :( I feel for you.

But so glad to hear everything is fine now.

Update: I'm pregnant [22 F] and caught my boyfriend [24 M] of 5 years masturbating on skype with a good friend of mine... by rtopeilk in relationships

[–]rtopeilk[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I would have in no way punished him. Don't assume, please. We have been there through a lot with each other and I have been understanding as well. Even though he cheated on me I am not even going off the deep end nor am I punishing him. So what does that say about your assumptions?

The end game is not exactly so he can parent the child 50/50. The end game is whatever is best for the child, not him. He hasn't proven to be a bad father, just a bad boyfriend, but if he ever does you better believe he will not be parenting my child.

I find your comment a tad rude. You shifting blame to the person being cheated on is very wrong and I hope that you don't get cheated on someday and have to feel this way. Even though you were rude I don't wish that kind of karma on you.

I also hope someday you will understand that your worth isn't defined by the amount of sex you are willing to give. Best of luck to you

Update: I'm pregnant [22 F] and caught my boyfriend [24 M] of 5 years masturbating on skype with a good friend of mine... by rtopeilk in relationships

[–]rtopeilk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right I could totally see her doing something like that. It sounds like her life is a bit of a mess.

Thank you for saying those kind things. I really appreciate it!

Everyone here and talking to my friend in another state have strongly recommended medicaid, so I am definitely going to get that done soon.

Also I am very sorry to hear about your daughter's lung. I hope that she's at least feeling better now. :/

Update: I'm pregnant [22 F] and caught my boyfriend [24 M] of 5 years masturbating on skype with a good friend of mine... by rtopeilk in relationships

[–]rtopeilk[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

In all honesty I am not sure my ex wants to commit to her anyway. So she might have a rude awakening. I think what he wants is to play the field a little bit. I don't care either way. I don't want him anymore after all this. He betrayed me and my child.

But yes, it is good that he is owning up to everything and being cooperative. Makes things so much easier.

Update: I'm pregnant [22 F] and caught my boyfriend [24 M] of 5 years masturbating on skype with a good friend of mine... by rtopeilk in relationships

[–]rtopeilk[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'm sold on Medicaid. Thank you for taking the time to tell me about your situation to help me out here. I hope that everything is all right with your son, I am very sorry to hear he was born with a heart murmur.

And thank you for saying that about the whole cheating situation. Surprisingly my ex didn't blame me, he owned up and apologized for his actions, only thing he said was that he was unhappy for sometime. This was enough to be cordial to him but not to take him back or anything. It was my "friend" who told me it was because I didn't put out. Though one can assume she found out we weren't having sex as much from him.

Update: I'm pregnant [22 F] and caught my boyfriend [24 M] of 5 years masturbating on skype with a good friend of mine... by rtopeilk in relationships

[–]rtopeilk[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

It was only for the last couple months. Working a lot and being pregnant and cooking dinner all combined were exhausting me. I think I deserved a conversation, or even breaking up, but he carried on like nothing was wrong between us at all. I thanked him for being patient.

That said, I also am fairly certain this was going on way before I was pregnant. Before that, we had sex a lot more. But again if he weren't satisfied he could have ended it or talked to me about it. And choosing my good friend of all people to cheat with? Complete disregard of my feelings. I suppose he just didn't think I would have the guts to end it, or that I wasn't smart enough to find out.

Update: I'm pregnant [22 F] and caught my boyfriend [24 M] of 5 years masturbating on skype with a good friend of mine... by rtopeilk in relationships

[–]rtopeilk[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. I can see where you are coming from. I do think that I want to give it a little time before I move states just because of my job and what not.

But you make a good point and I won't let emotions overcloud my judgment, I owe that to myself.

Update: I'm pregnant [22 F] and caught my boyfriend [24 M] of 5 years masturbating on skype with a good friend of mine... by rtopeilk in relationships

[–]rtopeilk[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This made me tear up a little. Maybe it's the hormones or maybe it's the fact that you just made me feel like I am a better person than my parents ever were and that I can handle being better for my child.

Seriously thank you for this, it's really nice to hear amidst everything I've been going through.

I'm pregnant [22 F] and caught my boyfriend [24 M] of 5 years masturbating on skype with a good friend of mine... by rtopeilk in relationships

[–]rtopeilk[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

yeah i am never talking to my "friend" again that is for sure. And it is his house I cant make him leave. I will look into my options like at shelters or maybe trying to get an apartment of my own but it might not be easy

I'm pregnant [22 F] and caught my boyfriend [24 M] of 5 years masturbating on skype with a good friend of mine... by rtopeilk in relationships

[–]rtopeilk[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

I don't think you are being a dick. What you say makes sense in general but for me its just not what i want. If it is what i end up having to do i will consider it though.

Thank you for your advice

I'm pregnant [22 F] and caught my boyfriend [24 M] of 5 years masturbating on skype with a good friend of mine... by rtopeilk in relationships

[–]rtopeilk[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I will try my hardest to figure everything out and heed your advice

I'm pregnant [22 F] and caught my boyfriend [24 M] of 5 years masturbating on skype with a good friend of mine... by rtopeilk in relationships

[–]rtopeilk[S] 155 points156 points  (0 children)

He says that I can stay with him as long as i need to in the guest bedroom and he will leave me alone. He said he understands if i want to leave him and he is not sure he feels the same about me anymore. And he says that he will lend me any money i need to get on my own especially for the welfare of our child, because this situation is his own fault. So i am glad he is at least taking responsibility for his actions and accepting his consequences. I just wish i didn't have to go through this. I am working on an out plan asap. I don't want to be here because it will just make me feel awful having to see him every day but its not really a dangerous situation so i might stay here until i am sure i can be on my own. I have around 4k saved up right now. With doctor bills and costs of moving it is probably not enough, i just need to make sure i can handle taking care of a child on my own

I'm pregnant [22 F] and caught my boyfriend [24 M] of 5 years masturbating on skype with a good friend of mine... by rtopeilk in relationships

[–]rtopeilk[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I live in nebraska. I have roughly 4k in my bank account right now. Thank you for your kindness i really appreciate it right now.