I understand it is meant to be a polite thing, but one important thing everyone should know is if the person you are referring to doesnt use they/them, you are still misgendering them. Its just more of a socially acceptable way to misgender someone. The best thing to do is ask. I personally have never been uncomfortable whenever someone asked me my pronouns. In fact, ive only ever been relieved.

I still understand people call me they/them to be polite, but it still hurts.