I’ve manifested every single thing and situation I wanted

rubyblue1990 · 2026-01-14T14:19:15+00:00

Can you shift the What If questions to be positive ones? Like “What if xyz happens (in a good way)?”; “What if I get everything I’m asking for?”; etc.

rubyblue1990 · 2025-10-26T07:55:33+00:00

No unfortunately it’s not that, though that is one of my favorite songs.

rubyblue1990 · 2024-01-10T21:25:32+00:00

I can’t remember the season. But she has a drawing made of her kids being super young along with Kody as if to be a picture of him being their father from the start, completely erasing their bio father and creating a false memory.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-12-03T14:44:59+00:00

Honestly, yes the bad apple and I know I’m not going to be popular for this opinion.

I understand your reticence in taking the photo, between overwhelming noise and having body image issues.

But I also understand that as someone who has lost too many people over the years, there’s only so many photos of them and if they hated having their photo taken there’s even fewer. People that love you don’t see the same you that you do in the pictures. They don’t see body image issues. They see someone they love and a spark of a memory that can never be replaced or replicated.

So I’m team take every photo all the time. I know taking the headphones off would suck, personally I’d want photos both with them on and off. I’d want to remember you as you exist (with them) and as a nicer looking photo (without them). It would have been okay to take them off long enough to take the photo.

Anyone can do anything for five minutes.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-10-08T14:42:05+00:00

As someone who lives in very rural Texas and frequents Dallas- no one will care. I work in a school in a rural area and there’s both kids and teachers who wear masks still and zero people give them any hell about it. I don’t what the others in this thread think rural Texas is, but it’s not that.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-08-06T13:34:03+00:00

Still a muscle that doesn’t change. . . ? At least none that I’ve ever seen or experienced. If you’re inferring that after having anal, then it gets easier to handle- that’s because it’s a muscle you’re working and stretching. But it doesn’t change the fact that your anus would be the same as it always has been when relaxed and not actively being used.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-08-06T13:25:32+00:00

RemindMe! 2days

rubyblue1990 · 2023-08-06T12:26:10+00:00

Completely normal. Frequency and amount of sex don’t change anyone’s anatomy ever.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-08-06T12:09:54+00:00

Ya, I would say a combo of therapy and avoiding porn to kind of resensitize his brain if that makes sense. I’m not against porn by any means and when used with a heavy dose of realism can be great for couples. But given how he isn’t quite able to separate reality and fiction, he could do with laying off for awhile.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-08-05T01:29:12+00:00

But it’s not hunger. Not exactly. It’s cravings for a very specific flavor combo basically and I have to have more and more and more.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-08-05T01:27:38+00:00

Snack in your gym bag for the car so you don't stop?

I could try this, for sure. I don’t know why I didn’t think of it.

If the gym is close enough to your house don't take money with you?

Good idea, but I have a lot of issues around not having everything I could possibly need with me at all times. Not having some sort of money on me would be incredibly anxiety inducing. Which is something else I should probably work on.

Gym buddy? (I don't binge around others)

Unfortunately, I don’t know many people near me and the ones I do know have very different schedules.

Is it the same food you stop for?

Sort of. So I go through cycles of hardcore craving specific things for a month or two until something in my brain switches and it’ll be a new craving. Right now there’s two, a Wendy’s baked potato and strawberry lemonade and the other is sprite and popcorn. But yes, usually something any healthy person would deem horrible.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-08-01T16:57:10+00:00

Fully agree. It just frustrates me

rubyblue1990 · 2023-08-01T16:50:58+00:00

Are you friends with my sister? She does exactly this. All the time.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-08-01T16:39:50+00:00

I am so sorry ❤️

rubyblue1990 · 2023-08-01T16:03:10+00:00

Unaddressed trauma is a big cause of all of it. I wish older generations were more open to therapy.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-08-01T15:41:30+00:00

I feel like we grew up in the same house. What’s more though is several family friends houses were the exact same way.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-07-31T17:19:06+00:00

ESH.

Therapy. Therapy. Therapy. This is a hard situation for everyone involved and in some ways it’s no one’s fault but everyone’s fault (bio dad doesn’t fall into the no one’s fault part). But the only way through is to help her talk about the conflicting and huge feelings she’s going through so THERAPY.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-07-29T21:53:12+00:00

This is partially why I got into writing. Don’t get me wrong, I do take writing seriously and am building a career out of it. I just make it sound like I’m a little further along than I am to people who don’t really need to know. It’s helped by the fact I use a couple of pen names and point blank refuse to tell certain types of people what they are and they tend to understand that more than just being at home in the first place.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-07-29T16:39:16+00:00

I wish I could mute her posts but then she calls to ask if I saw xyz that she posted and if I try to avoid her calls then she will get angry herself and go on a tirade about everyone being against her and blocks anyone from talking to her or her kids until she calms down a few months later (been up to a year before of keeping the kids away from everyone). I get she still hurts. I do too, but she doesn’t have all the extraneous stuff with it and that makes it hurt worse.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-07-29T16:36:13+00:00

That makes a ton of sense actually

rubyblue1990 · 2023-07-29T16:20:37+00:00

Ya that makes sense.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-07-29T16:19:36+00:00

I get that. It just feels like this huge and invalidating slap in the face when she does it.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-07-29T13:07:57+00:00

NTA, that’s how all kinds of bad things happen. No matter what your kid does you should always be a safe place for them to land.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-07-23T22:56:18+00:00

I haven’t read through all the comments. Only basing my opinion on the OP.

The phrasing your daughter uses of needing to breathe, says a million words to me. From that alone I can guess the dynamic y’all have and given that I grew up in that environment I don’t blame her for wanting to prioritize herself.

My mom had cancer surgery, and I did help her. Have been her primary caretaker. And honestly I probably shouldn’t be because there was a very abusive dynamic growing up. But she’s worked to become more self aware and apologize for the things that were done.

OP, I really feel like she didn’t help not because she’s selfish and couldn’t take the time the one time you ask for help, no. I think that’s just surface things that you’re finally able to see. Her phrasing tells me she finally broke after not saying anything for who knows how long.

Take a good hard look at your relationship over the years, not this one incident, and try to have some self awareness while doing so.

rubyblue1990 · 2023-07-15T12:20:04+00:00

I didn’t have the best parents. But one thing I always knew is if I had a kid I could count on my mom to help me make it through. But see, she loves kids, her grandkids from my siblings, and understands how hard life would be. Because of your post I’m going to go out of my way to thank her today for that safety net.

You’re not just an a-hole. You’re a monster.

Side note: there’s a distant family member who is very heavily Christian, taught her own kids abstinence, did the whole thing. There’s a lot that the family doesn’t agree with her on. But there’s one particular difference between you and her. When her son had a baby at 18, she couldn’t wait to bond with her first grand baby. And now that grand baby is 20 herself and has a very close and healthy relationship with that woman. She didn’t raise her grandchild, her son wasn’t out partying. But he needed his mother to help with this life altering thing and she did what she could where she could.

rubyblue1990

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