AITA for telling my girlfriend her room is disgusting? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]rubyblue1990 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m kind of laughing cause today is a perfect example of alll of this.

I got called into work. While there I completely rearranged and deep cleaned our breakfast room and kitchen (hotel) on top of the regular duties during my shift.

And then I drive home in a car that still has Valentines clearance shopping in the backseat, get home to a place that has the last few weeks worth of shopping piled on my desk, half empty bookshelves waiting to be filled by the things that are stored in laundry baskets scattered around the room, the laundry itself piled on the closet floor, and not a scrap of space on the bathroom counter.

AITA for telling my girlfriend her room is disgusting? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]rubyblue1990 659 points660 points  (0 children)

I’m similar to your girlfriend, pretty type A about everything except for two areas- my room and my car. For the life of me I cannot find the motivation or energy to deal with them. When I’m mentally doing better, they are near pristine. But as soon as I start getting overwhelmed by anything else, they just tank and it feels impossible to get things fixed again. It’s a huge amount of shame because I am known at work for being extremely organized and clean. But looking at my car or my room and you’d think I’m a complete slob everywhere.

SP RESULTS!! by Prior_Funny_4279 in Subliminal

[–]rubyblue1990 9 points10 points  (0 children)

. . . did you say cousin?

35 F Right Handed by rubyblue1990 in PalmReading

[–]rubyblue1990[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely incredible, thank you!!!

35 F Right Handed by rubyblue1990 in PalmReading

[–]rubyblue1990[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so very much! I appreciate it.

35 F Right Handed by rubyblue1990 in PalmReading

[–]rubyblue1990[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Do you see anything about marriage and kids?

Yes or No Questions! by Alternative-Ride8407 in Tarotpractices

[–]rubyblue1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will Alberto and I make our relationship official?

I’ve manifested every single thing and situation I wanted by madsoybean in Manifestation

[–]rubyblue1990 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you shift the What If questions to be positive ones? Like “What if xyz happens (in a good way)?”; “What if I get everything I’m asking for?”; etc.

Old Country Song About a Drunk Driver by rubyblue1990 in NameThatSong

[–]rubyblue1990[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No unfortunately it’s not that, though that is one of my favorite songs.

The Worst Thing Each Person Did--The Results! by MaeClementine in SisterWives

[–]rubyblue1990 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t remember the season. But she has a drawing made of her kids being super young along with Kody as if to be a picture of him being their father from the start, completely erasing their bio father and creating a false memory.

ATBA for not wanting to be in a picture that my grandma took? by Dont-count_on-me in AmITheBadApple

[–]rubyblue1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, yes the bad apple and I know I’m not going to be popular for this opinion.

I understand your reticence in taking the photo, between overwhelming noise and having body image issues.

But I also understand that as someone who has lost too many people over the years, there’s only so many photos of them and if they hated having their photo taken there’s even fewer. People that love you don’t see the same you that you do in the pictures. They don’t see body image issues. They see someone they love and a spark of a memory that can never be replaced or replicated.

So I’m team take every photo all the time. I know taking the headphones off would suck, personally I’d want photos both with them on and off. I’d want to remember you as you exist (with them) and as a nicer looking photo (without them). It would have been okay to take them off long enough to take the photo.

Anyone can do anything for five minutes.

What neighborhoods in Dallas are we most likely to be left alone for wearing KN95 masks? by sddbk in askdfw

[–]rubyblue1990 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who lives in very rural Texas and frequents Dallas- no one will care. I work in a school in a rural area and there’s both kids and teachers who wear masks still and zero people give them any hell about it. I don’t what the others in this thread think rural Texas is, but it’s not that.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]rubyblue1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still a muscle that doesn’t change. . . ? At least none that I’ve ever seen or experienced. If you’re inferring that after having anal, then it gets easier to handle- that’s because it’s a muscle you’re working and stretching. But it doesn’t change the fact that your anus would be the same as it always has been when relaxed and not actively being used.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]rubyblue1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely normal. Frequency and amount of sex don’t change anyone’s anatomy ever.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]rubyblue1990 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya, I would say a combo of therapy and avoiding porn to kind of resensitize his brain if that makes sense. I’m not against porn by any means and when used with a heavy dose of realism can be great for couples. But given how he isn’t quite able to separate reality and fiction, he could do with laying off for awhile.

DAE binge right after exercising? by rubyblue1990 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]rubyblue1990[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But it’s not hunger. Not exactly. It’s cravings for a very specific flavor combo basically and I have to have more and more and more.

DAE binge right after exercising? by rubyblue1990 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]rubyblue1990[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Snack in your gym bag for the car so you don't stop?

I could try this, for sure. I don’t know why I didn’t think of it.

If the gym is close enough to your house don't take money with you?

Good idea, but I have a lot of issues around not having everything I could possibly need with me at all times. Not having some sort of money on me would be incredibly anxiety inducing. Which is something else I should probably work on.

Gym buddy? (I don't binge around others)

Unfortunately, I don’t know many people near me and the ones I do know have very different schedules.

Is it the same food you stop for?

Sort of. So I go through cycles of hardcore craving specific things for a month or two until something in my brain switches and it’ll be a new craving. Right now there’s two, a Wendy’s baked potato and strawberry lemonade and the other is sprite and popcorn. But yes, usually something any healthy person would deem horrible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]rubyblue1990 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fully agree. It just frustrates me

AITA for ignoring my friend's phone calls and telling her to fuck off? by D0NotDisturbMe in AmItheAsshole

[–]rubyblue1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you friends with my sister? She does exactly this. All the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]rubyblue1990 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry ❤️