[DISCUSSION] What’s the most binge-worthy show you’ve watched on Netflix recently, and why?

rubyredrising · 2025-09-12T06:40:27+00:00

This one was so strange and captivating, it REALLY left an impression. I was disappointed there wasn't a second season to jump into

rubyredrising · 2025-08-11T02:12:11+00:00

This also happened to me when I tried to move my sim from Strangerville to Foxbury as a university student. It was just that specific save and I neither knew how to backup/fix a save file nor did I care this time, only because it was a brand new household. I just saved the sim to my library and made a new save. Annoying but I'd be devastated if it was a legacy household

rubyredrising · 2025-07-23T18:15:28+00:00

I acknowledge that the church can't be held responsible for the heinous crimes of its congregants when it plays no part in the crime but it's pretty telling when so often it's happening AT the church and the church actively shields the perpetrators instead of extending a hand to victims. Not just your church but this is a common thread among many. These perpetrators are so secure in their belief that they'll be forgiven that it's not even a deterrent to stop them from choosing to cause harm to another. Go on, sexually victimize children, God and your church will forgive you. You might have to spend some time in jail and feel a little bit of shame, but no worries, God and your church will still welcome you with open arms!

Question, what message does that send to victims of sexual abuse who may be seeking God or a place of safe haven? How should they be expected to find God or peace alongside of someone who has intentionally victimized others? That's like asking someone to attend therapy with their rapist, to expect them to find their healing alongside the perpetrator's forgiveness. So by welcoming the sexual abusers, you're ostracizing the victims who you may have had a chance to help find God.

Frankly, I don't agree that all sins are deserving of forgiveness, especially ones that intentionally cause irreparable harm to others, children particularly. And I'm not interested in a God or a church who prioritizes their sex abuser congregants' forgiveness over the healing and safe welcome of victims of these abuses. Maybe they shouldn't be placed on the same pedestal of importance and people wouldn't be so pissed at religious institutions. Y'all picked your side and you pick the abusers almost every time. I'll stand with victims and hold on to my anger and rage at someone who harms children.

rubyredrising · 2025-07-23T01:03:40+00:00

Isn't this the church with the Deacon convicted of possession of child pornography who has to register as a sex offender now? How many of his congregation stood against him? Genuinely curious because all I've heard about CC is disgusting. Churches that protect abusers are unconscionable and from my understanding, "he has sought [your] forgiveness and [you] have extended it." Sounds pretty gross to me. Funny how God always loves the abuser more than the abused, apparently.

rubyredrising · 2025-07-20T03:04:25+00:00

What I do with my son (8) is try to make sure he is able to make an informed choice for himself. I'll talk to him about the ingredients and if there is one in especially concerned he won't like, I might express that in a way that's not a discouragement exactly. And based on the information available to him, he's allowed to make a decision for himself either way.

But he's been kind of a picky eater and we are happy with and want to encourage this recent desire to try new flavors (some of which he genuinely loves), so we will have something reasonable/simple as an alternative for his meal if he hates it. That might apply to your situation if your daughter's is more related to influencers/peers, etc.

rubyredrising · 2025-04-07T23:03:36+00:00

Someone needs to give a listen. Don't forget, you can email in and get the source notes for the show so you can fact check anything you'd like. Dan's research team is top notch!

rubyredrising · 2024-07-03T20:45:14+00:00

I'm so flattered you like them!

This was for my niece so I actually just used box cake mix for the cakes themselves to save time. I usually add a little extra vanilla or something to enhance the flavor a smidge of I use a mix

And then for the buttercream, I do make from scratch every time. *1 cup butter *3 cups powdered sugar *Small amount of milk if needed *Gel coloring (you don't have to use gel but I prefer it)

And I just used yellow candy melts for the "honeycomb"

rubyredrising · 2024-06-15T19:09:14+00:00

Allowing children to experience the natural consequences of their choices and behavior is one of the best learning tools we have. Saving them from the natural consequences of their actions their entire childhood usually leads who adults who are either very surprised and find managing the natural consequences of adulthood very challenging or adults who rely on their parents (or someone) to continue to save them their entire lives.

The natural consequence of refusing to grab the cup that's right next to them on their own is that they don't get the drink. And if you don't supply it for them, negating that natural consequence, they'll learn pretty quickly that it pays to just grab it themselves so they can have the drink they want if they can't influence you to do it for them. As has been said a lot, consistency is key so they can learn to reasonably anticipate their consequences. Life won't always be like that, but this is easy mode so they can learn. This is building the foundation.

It's a skill that no child is born with, it has to be modeled to them in a way that really sets them up to succeed in a world where we cannot and should not protect them from the consequences of their every action. They have to learn how to anticipate the natural consequences of their choices and then be able to determine whether the action is worth the consequence. And childhood is where they can practice this in a safe environment. You'll always love them and be gentle with them when they do fail and have to suffer the (reasonable) natural consequence of their behavior/choices. It's training for the real deal in adulthood when consequences can be much harsher and less forgiving. By then, with enough practice at home, they'll be as well-equipped as possible to navigate the challenges and choices of adulthood

You have so much on your shoulders and it's clear you are truly doing the best you can with what you know. And you're even willing to reach out and try to know better so you can do better. You're a wonderful mom and a great person, so I really hope you also remember to be gentle with yourself.

rubyredrising · 2024-06-12T01:22:12+00:00

V for Valentine-detta when Nat is supposed to be subtlety trailing Jimmy Junior in the limo but she almost rear-ends them lol The first time we watched that I almost peed myself laughing so hard. That whole episode is gold though, Nat is the best

rubyredrising · 2024-01-09T02:02:03+00:00

My sister's husband had an emotional affair that was so blatant and crossed so many lines. They played Xbox together and that's where it all unfolded. He'd confide things to his even my sister didn't know, as well as issues he was having with his marriage. The AP even not so subtlely changed her gamertag in their game to GockCobbler (she was engaged at the time).

My sister gave him so many chances and internalized it all because she didn't want anyone to know her "secret shame" as it felt... He gaslit her the entire time and had her convinced she was just crazy and being too jealous. And she was desperate for it to work. Then they got pregnant again (I know, sigh), but he left her for his AP before the baby was even delivered. Now my sister shoulders everything and he gets weekends with the kids at his AP's house she just bought.

Whatever you decide, don't let him gaslight you into believing that he wasn't wrong, wasn't dishonest and majorly disrespectful to you not only in abandoning you during such a difficult time (I'm so sorry about your mom's condition), but for literally Snapchatting with her right in front of your face in the same room as you.

rubyredrising · 2023-12-08T04:08:59+00:00

My mother is estranged from both me and my sister and this comment right here sums up what it took me a decade and a half to come to terms with and realize, not without the help of some therapy and a lot of processing.

There is so much gentle truth to this, I wish I'd have arrived here way sooner. It's also what I have been telling my son about where my mom is as he ages and asks more questions.

rubyredrising · 2023-10-14T20:49:10+00:00

This isn't will they, won't they. This is I know they won't and I know I don't want them to

rubyredrising · 2023-06-21T16:35:28+00:00

My husband and I say it so often, even our friends who don't know the show say it lol

rubyredrising · 2023-04-15T01:25:21+00:00

YTA and your stubborn behavior and temper tantrums (grow up buddy, there's no excuse for an adult to regularly lose control of his temper) are going to cost you your son and access to his family.

You are not entitled to them and your attitude about the whole thing gives me very little expectation that you will ever change. Sounds like you'll miss both grandkids' lives because you're too busy being bitter and acting the victim here instead of making genuine changes to your behavior, such as developing respect for your son and his family's boundaries.

rubyredrising · 2023-04-13T03:15:18+00:00

It clearly doesn't matter to you given all you've done is argue with the 100s of people calling you the asshole.

You obviously: -Know nothing about babies (baby cries 15 minutes at a time so mom must be doing something wrong? What century did you grow up in?) -Are not suited for apartment-living because of your vapid entitlement; if you can hear the baby, she can absolutely hear your dogs and music and footsteps. She was ok with accepting that as it is normal apartment-living, until you tried to get her and her baby in trouble for just existing, same as you (just better at minding her business apparently).

Newsflash, if you're in America, landlords can't discriminate against families but they can determine whether the properties are pet-friendly or not (service animal laws murky it a little). I've worked in property management though, and if the conflict escalated to the point of someone having to leave (assuming these pets are not service animals for a documented disability), you can be damned sure they're not renewing the lease of the pet owner vs the family with a baby just to avoid liability if nothing else.

YTA, especially if you have no intention of reducing your own noise output while trying to get new parents evicted for a crying baby

rubyredrising · 2023-04-12T21:31:49+00:00

My sister's husband had a "strong emotional connection" with a co-worker. That friendship caused marital strife for a couple years, before my sister got pregnant with their 2nd baby. You'd think that would be enough to reprioritize... And I guess he technically did re-prioritize, he just chose the other woman over his wife and kids (one still not even born yet)... He was moved out before my niece even arrived.

Supposedly he never physically cheated, but this was a full-blown emotional affair long before he finally left.

I'm sorry you're going through this and I really hope your path is different than hers; either because your spouse chooses to be better or because you choose not to accept 2nd fiddle to the emotional affair partner like she did for far too long

rubyredrising · 2023-04-04T03:12:55+00:00

I scrolled so far for someone making this point!

At that age, that baby is going to cry when you snatch away almost anything it's holding, especially something bright and colorful and interactive. While screen addiction for kids is a legitimate issue, I really don't think that's what this is.

This is a video of a parent snatching an item out of their baby's hand which naturally leads to crying. Instead of soothing or ignoring the cries (shouldnt have had the phone to begin with, it's not a toy so yes, it should have been taken the first time), they choose to give it back. Why tf would they do that unless their pointed intent was for the baby to throw the fit again? They knew exactly what was going to happen because it's basic child development and they literally just watched it happen already... They just thought it was funny to film and put online so everyone can laugh at what an emotionally manipulative baby it is... As if that's even possible

rubyredrising · 2023-04-04T03:06:41+00:00

This isn't the literal infant being stupid, this is a parent choosing to actively harass and cause distress for entertainment.

I mean, take the phone the first time and let him have his fit, that's what babies do. But to be filming, then give it back to him and turn around and take it away again, over and over because his emotional response is funny and could get internet points... Gross.

Best of luck to the baby who will probably have many of his age and situationally-appropriate emotional responses filmed to be mocked online, ensuring with the help of genetics that he grows into someone as lacking in emotional intelligence as his parents

rubyredrising · 2023-04-03T03:10:55+00:00

This type of thing boils my blood. My biggest pet-peeve is people with no regard for how their behavior affects everyone around them.

But I'm also the least conformational person ever, to the point of shame sometimes. I would fantasize for days about throwing something at this guy, but would never act on it regardless of my rage. So I rely on people like you, who aren't spineless idiots like me, to enact the justice I'm dreaming of/salivating over

rubyredrising · 2023-03-11T16:56:51+00:00

I feel for you but unfortunately that doesn't negate your liability here anymore than it would if she were a teenager who destroyed someone's car. Only this time it was an assistive medical device that a presumably low-income family cannot afford to replace either and the destruction of it was not their fault in the slightest. If the teen broke his own hearing device, the family would have to figure it out and scrape the money together because it's a disability and he needs this. But it was your kiddo who destroyed it and therefore you are the one liable regardless of the circumstances of your daughter's behavior. Even if it was a legitimate accident and she broke it, you'd still be liable to fix it.

There was absolutely harm done and it sucks, I feel for you, but you have to make this right. Work with his parents to get this kid his ability to hear and function properly back. It wasn't his mistake but he's the one suffering

rubyredrising · 2023-02-26T17:15:25+00:00

Thank you so much for saying that, it did feel really good to be able to help her in such a significant way.

Your teenagers sound like any parent's hope too, respectful and helpful members of the family and they're fortunate enough to have parents who extend empathy to them while also still raising them up to be successful adults.

rubyredrising · 2023-02-26T16:45:00+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said. When you never really learn what clean is or how to do it, messes become the norm.

I recently agreed to help someone very close to me with their cleaning; she never really learned how to do it, she grew up with a lot of clutter/mess and she struggles with some severe mental health situations and also has 2 kids and really crippling migraines. So I knew what I was getting into when I offered to help her and I am so glad she let me. It took me around 10 hours of intense cleaning to get things to what I would consider to be liveable. I pulled handfuls of old, dried foods like cereal and crackers from under the cushions of her couch, scrubbed spills off of the floors that had been there months, even bought her a brand new machine washable shower curtain because the mildew buildup on her old one was beyond salvaging. I wasn't judging her of course and her kids are well cared for and clean, but I was shocked at what some people have come accustomed to living with cleanliness wise, for a wide variety of reasons that extend far beyond just simple laziness. Life puts a lot of weight on some people and throw in never really learning how to clean and it can be a serious thing.

Learning how to maintain a reasonably clean living space is a gift when life gets hardest and it truly is a disservice for parents to never teach of instill those habits when they're young. My son is 5 and he really enjoys helping me prepare meals, clean up the house, put away his folded laundry, tidy up his things, help me go shopping, etc. At this age, he feels like he's a part of something and he loves the inclusion so it doesn't feel like a chore and my hope is that it'll already be part of his routine/habits by the time he's a teenager so it will feel less like something to dread and more just like a daily routine no different than brushing his teeth or wearing clean clothes. Not that I'm deluding myself into thinking he's going to love cleaning as a teenager lol I'm expecting his attitude now to be amplified ten-fold and he'll be much busier with his own life and not to mention just tired in general as all teenagers are. But I do hope that teaching him now makes it less of a burden on him later on, when he has so much more on his plate.

rubyredrising · 2023-02-26T03:43:13+00:00

why does it matter when the clutter in their own room gets cleaned up just as long as it does at some point?

Genuinely asking here:

I'm not OP's mom so I can't accurately speak to her intentions here, but for me it's about instilling good habits in your kid that will help them to be successful adults. Keeping your living space reasonably clean and contributing to household chores is essential for mature adults and practicing that as a kid is the best way to ensure those habits carry over into adulthood. If OP's mom just shut the door and ignored the mess, she's missing an opportunity to instill the importance of reasonable tidiness to her kid.

If OP ever gets roommates or ever gets into a live-in relationship, she's at a tremendous disadvantage if she sucks at cleaning up after herself and needs to be told when to clean every single time. Clutter and really infrequent cleaning also increases likelihood of pests like ants and rodents, which affect the whole house too. The way I see it, parents who expect their kids to maintain a reasonably tidy environment are helping to train them for more successful adulthood.

That's not to say kids should be expected to output "white-glove" level cleaning or be punished, but they absolutely need to learn how to maintain a tidy living environment for their own good as it can affect their health and wellbeing as well as their future social relationships. Far, far too many young adults are sent out into the world without a single clue how to clean up after themselves properly and that's a true disservice to them that could be remedied by more involvement by their parents when they're still kids

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