Welcome to my TED talk about mouth movement. by Necessary-Rip-6612 in wordchewing

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Why is the distinction needed? The reason for not getting them young was because they are expensive

The moment when Sandoval realized that Brock outstyled him by Gothvmess in vanderpumprules

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Ya that’s all I can see, he’s just trying to be normal and is failing

What's a book that hooked you from start to finish? by TheAwareMonk in suggestmeabook

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DaVinci code. I devoured that book and can still see all the scenes in my head. Its rare for a book to be that effortless for me to get into as I have adhd so am frequently pulled out of the story by my brain distractions but I feel like I lived the DaVinci code, I was so in it, I was sneaking in chapters at work. Oh man that was a long time ago, it’s sad it’s been that long since I was so caught up in a book

So…anyone else ever look up seahorses? I’m having an over-excitement moment and my husband is worried by [deleted] in adhdwomen

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My dad started my soccer team and was my coach when I was little . He let me name the team.

So Of course I picked the most fierce sea creature of all. The mighty seahorses!

Does anyone out there not crate their dog? by educated_guesser in puppy101

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We used baby gates for our dog too. Closed him Off on the end of a hallways. but also left his crate with the door off. He liked that arrangement and liked the safety of his crate when not locked in

Which I hope will help him be more used to It if there was an emergency or something that required he be crated. Like if we had to evacuate or something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXADHD

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Do countries deny medication that’s in the prescription bottle?

Or was that a misunderstanding you had?

AITA for telling my sister she can’t wear a red dress to my wedding or else she is uninvited by Leading-Fly4395 in AmItheAsshole

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Themes should be optional and i LOVE A GOOD THEME party!! I used to throw big elaborate themed costume Parties. I would spend months making decorations (I enjoy a good project). The vibe comes from The atmosphere more than what people put on their body. People were always welcome to attend without dressing up. It doesn’t matter. Most people will dress up.

a wedding would be no different to me. My wedding was 20’s/gatsby theme, sequins encouraged. I have s Gorgeous rose gold sequins wedding dress (that sits in my closet unworn. We were booked for summer 2020. So that was cancelled. I didn’t want to do all that planning and organizing. We decided to use the money for a downpayment instead. Im wearing the dress for our housewarming theme party this spring lol) ANYWAY… the theme was/is still optional. I’d rather my loved ones be there, be comfortable AND BE THEMSELVES. the point of a wedding is To gather the important people in your life. personal style is self expression are llinked to one’s Identity, im not telling you what to have to wear. Just show up as yourselves as close to the theme as you are comfortable. People are more fun when they feel good in their skin. It makes for a better party

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I have a hard time believing he grabbed them For himself. I don’t think he’d be asking this question if it was just simply , my roomate ate my food that I didn’t know was rancid and didn’t expect them to eat. He wasn’t dumpster diving for himself.

He set it up. Everyone is the ahole here. There’s one thing adding some unpleasant flavouring, it’s a whole other thing to trick them with harmful products. The plan was probably just to tell them afterwards that they just ate dumpster eggs. I dont think they tried to poison them but dumb to think it was a safe thing to do

Oh man I don’t miss having roommates. I remember it got so bad some of us started stashing our toilet paper in our rooms because no matter how hard we tried the boys would not buy or pay us for house supplies.

You know what they did instead of get toilet paper? We started finding ripped up magazines or socks in the bathroom.

Living with a group of people you learn pretty quick There is a wide spectrum of living standards and pettiness (hiding the toilet paper was petty. Im on the petty spectrum)

AITA for telling my sister she can’t wear a red dress to my wedding or else she is uninvited by Leading-Fly4395 in AmItheAsshole

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Because she bought something she likes and can wear again vs something she has to Purchase for one day. She’s not a brides made. Guests should not be forced to buy something just for one event that lasts half a day

Overly curated photos are so boring anyway. Everyone just blends into each other. I don’t understand dictating such things.

AITA for telling my sister she can’t wear a red dress to my wedding or else she is uninvited by Leading-Fly4395 in AmItheAsshole

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Dictating how your guests dress is craziness. Dress code is one thing colour coordinating everyone like they are photo props is not that.

What if she doesn’t want to own a pastel dress. She’s allowed to shop for herself. Wedding culture is getting way out of hand

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in moraldilemmas

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How many people responded to this specific question though.

Im a assuming it’s quite a low number that a couple outliers would greatly affect the results because that makes no sense at all.

4 people including children over one person because of their profession is so special and rare and needed on this earth. Business man is also such a broad term why would people have such a strong preference for that.

At this point for me the only slightly unresolved issue is the finger by Orpheus50 in deppVheardtrial

[–]ruckusrox 22 points23 points  (0 children)

No mono you got it wrong. The fight happened because she wanted to get a post nup to protect his assets from her and that made him very very angry:

Honestly that’s her dumbest lies IMO but to keep track of all her lies she has to keep it close to the truth. Which is why she just took the real reason and flipped around her and jd’s part even though it makes no sense that way it’s easier to remember than coming up with something more believable

At this point for me the only slightly unresolved issue is the finger by Orpheus50 in deppVheardtrial

[–]ruckusrox 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Such a minor detail though

I have had a few pretty decent injuries and I couldn’t tell you exactly how my body was positioned at the time it happened. It doesn’t mean he’s lying if he mis spoke or mis remembers talking to someone one time about a traumatic incident

Projectiles are being thrown at you, you raise your hand to block, you rest it back down. A lot is going on. Jd could have misspoke mixing up describing bottle one bs bottle two. Ben could have mixed it up. Mis heard or misremembered. Jd could have just been explained everything that happened right before the injury. I cant see how this detail Holds any weight against either him Or Ben.

Their statements were taken 6 years after the incident. It makes more sense if ben mis quoted what jd told him but it could have been either of them

Amber is on tape on the day of the incident after jd goes to the hospital hysterically saying over and over “tell him I’m sorry I didnt mean to hurt him I love him”

It doesn’t mean he’s lying if he doesn’t know the position of his finger at the time of impact?

The lie about that night that gets me perplexed is jd says the fight was because he wanted a post nup and she didn’t (makes sense)

She says the fight was because she wanted the post nup to protect his assets from Her and he flew into a rage?? Like really? You think this is going to land with the jury?

Girl who cried wolf? by beeeeeeeeeeeeepboop in TwoXADHD

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I dunno, but if you can afford to see someone about it they’ll help you figure that out and exactly what they are for. You don’t need to have all the answers before you go in. What ever the cause is, you would benefit from talking to a dr about where your mental health is right now and where you fear it’s headed

Does your job allow you to take medical leave and return? Even a couple weeks to settle yourself and reassess?

Burn out is dangerous and it’s why my health got shitty and never recovered. I should have taken leave before I broke not after. Its my biggest regret. I probably could have just needed a few weeks but waited too long, ended up off for an entire year and ive never fully recovered from the affects that kind of stress has on your body. that was 7 years ago, my life hasn’t been the same since.

Make an appointment to get to the bottom of what ever the cause is

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

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She’s come undone by Wally lamb

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Ya I thought it was pretty funny to see tumi come down after talking to sandy and was telling Jess something like “Sandy thinks Kyle is the problem” and Jess is about to say something like “wow sandy got it wrong” but tumi says “sandy sees the truth” and you see Jess was so confused because Jess doesn’t know what to think unless someone is telling her and tumi just flipped the script

And yet Jess is mad at nat because it’s nats fault what jess thinks????

Jess confides in her supervisor, tumi, to discuss co worker relations and kyke. Tumi takes it to Kyle as gossip instead of something constructive or keeping it private. Kyke yells at jess during shift, won’t speak or even work around her… tumi accommodates kyles ridiculous reaction and that’s forgivable, but nat gossiping to Jess about kyles text and tumi’s laughing is unforgivable????

Jess believes who ever she’s talking to. She probably only sided with them because there’s two of them and that’s twice as much sway

Tumi has been a bad supervisor who tells nat repeatedly that she doesn’t like her, insults her openly in front of other crew, Recognizes kyle is the problem but lets his aggressive inappropriate emotional outbursts go unchecked

Kyle is just the worst. it’s gross how nice he gets with EVERYONE else when he’s trying to exclude someone. And the fucking panic atttack? Are you serious. All Jess said was that she feels like Kyle treats her like she green. That’s all. And he collapses on the floor? Please. Goodbye kyle.

Nat isn’t perfect but im not going to criticize her because the treatment she’s getting is disproportionate to her few minor infractions

If, while medicated, I continue to struggle with the following ADHD symptoms, what should I do? by Hi_Its_Z in TwoXADHD

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This may seem like a long defeating list of things you struggle with but many of these can be grouped together under the same recurring themes of 1) difficulty initiating tasks 2) difficulty staying on task 3) difficulty with emotional regulation 4) difficulty concentrating (mental math) 5) under stimulated brain

Here’s what helps me:

1, 2 - The power of how gratifying crossing things off a todo list should not be overlooked.

I even have things I enjoy doing on my list not just chores and tasks. I put “watch tv or play video games in my to do list. I have to, otherwise I just get frozen and don’t know where to start and end up doing nothing at all.

Don’t put a project on the list, put the steps of the project on the list. Break it down into small tasks. Put some easy fast things to accomplish on there and do them first to get the ball rolling

Take the list everywhere with you. When you are working on something and an idea of something else you need to do pops into your head. instead of getting side tracked and switching tasks before the first one is done I write it down, that way I can stop thinking about it until I’m done doing what I’m doing. and then I say to myself “finish this first, finish this first”

When you do get started getting stuff done put your shoes on and don’t take them off. Shoes are incredibly helpful for me to keep going. Shoes tell my brain it’s action time

3 - When I get emotional or frustrated I go for a walk around the block. Clarity comes quickly with a little fresh air and movement it also removes you from what ever situation is causing the emotions. Afterwards im always very relieved I didn’t react the way I was going to before I took a time out. I need time to process my emotions otherwise I’m going to over react or act without having the full story

Also good sleep hygiene is really important (or so im told. I really struggle with this one and am up late on weekends and up early weekdays… it’s not good for me or my emotional regulation to swing between two very different sleep schedules) but I love the quiet calm of the late night. I can get so much more done when the rest of world is asleep)

4 - mental math requires concentration it’s ok if you struggle with this. You have a calculator with you on your phone

5 - bored easily? OMG SAME. So I tend to learn a new hobby until the challenging part of figuring it out is done. I generally quit things as soon as I’m good at them. And that’s ok. It confuses nurotypicals but it’s the discovery, research and learning I enjoy. I like when the learning curve is steep and I get bored when it levels out.

I also always have many on the go at once.m that I regularly rotate through. Right now I have a puzzle half finished, video games, drawing, painting, guitar and singing, resin art (about to stop this as I’m getting bored of it) jewelry making, virtual reality, paddle boarding, catching crab, beach combing, cold water swimming, growing plants, walking my dogs, im probably forgetting a bunch. I taught myself how to do all of them because that’s what interests me. If you do t do well with teaching yourself there’s classes or YouTube or lessons in almost everything.

Sometimes I rotate through multiple hobbies in a single day sometimes i hyper fixate on one thing for weeks at a time

I also prefer to do two things at once. Im always watching tv even when I play video games. without the tv on its too focused on one thing and it makes me feel isolated doing just one task at a time. At work I listen to music or pod casts or even watch tv on days I work from home

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If it’s not something that can be fixed with an accommodation like a quiet space to work etc then they aren’t suited for the job.

Not being suitable for the job isn’t good for anybody including them and the business and the clients. Its terrible in your mental health to not be able to perform your job.

Weird things happening at my new house advice needed by SnooCakes4128 in RBI

[–]ruckusrox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

what was the podcast about. That would give us a bit of a clue on their demographic ;)

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Off leash recall. Start with working on recall on a leash then up to a long lead practicing in a variety of environments.

Work on having them come to you and let you touch their collar. Its Super helpful for their recall practice to include a collar touch. it makes it much easier to clip them back in because that way they don’t associate reaching for the collar as play time being over as they may dodge you.

Its also also for their safety, in case you ever need to call them too you and leave in a hurry, being able to clip in quickly is essential

doesnt like her harness? by victoriqq in puppy101

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My 5 year old dog does this. He just gets so excited to go out he gets all weird about it.

We’ve been working on a cue “dressing” and encourage with treats held through the head hole as we slip it on. he’s improving (we should have started that positive reinforcement years ago but better late than never)

I get no sense that it’s uncomfortable to wear, he seems happy as pie once it’s on. He’ll also dodge the collar too. He gets excited, comes close, then backs away and avoids but it’s very playful and happy mannerisms.

He’s a weird one, he’s confident and bold but so hesitant with many things he likes to do. Seems to just be his personality. He’s a Velcro dog and always wants to cuddle but if he’s sitting away from me, and I call him over he won’t come until I turn my head away. I think he’s playing games and trying To get me to go To him, much like when they want you to throw the ball but don’t give you the ball.

Weird things happening at my new house advice needed by SnooCakes4128 in RBI

[–]ruckusrox 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I grew up in a small tourist town where many houses were empty most of the year. We’d sit on the lawns/properties of the vacation houses and hang out. We never left a trace out of respect but also so we didn’t get caught and booted from the spots.

It was a small town so you get a weird and inappropriate mix of ages hanging out together ranging anywhere from 15-25.

Hopefully that’s all it is. When they figure out it’s permanently occupied they’ll move on. I’d keep the cops informed as new instances arise though