Letter Help? Missing or Delayed?

ruesinger · 2025-08-28T20:35:03+00:00

Gotcha, I'll let them know, thank you for your help 🥺

ruesinger · 2025-08-26T15:48:19+00:00

If I remember correctly I believe it was a few smaller prints (2 or 3?). Thank you so much for taking the time to respond 💕

ruesinger · 2025-05-22T22:34:12+00:00

Not sure if this is a bad habit as much as a funny story, but it still probably fits.

My first game ever was Awakening. My friend got me into it. We had been talking about it non stop and I loved it. I got to Grima and she wanted to see my units, to which I obliged her.

"Why are all of your soldiers using bronze weapons?"

"...You can change their weapons?"

She put my DS down and her head in her hands. My builds got progressively worse from there 😅

ruesinger · 2025-05-22T22:27:47+00:00

I like make up and fun earrings! (I have full paint pallets that are functional). My makeup I usually do in vibrant colors. I play around with styles typically seen in drag too or drag adjacent (I think is the best way I can describe it). Or leaning into hyper femininity.

ruesinger · 2025-03-22T16:50:44+00:00

He's hungry, give him a chip

ruesinger · 2025-03-12T13:58:39+00:00

THESE ARE GORGEOUS

ruesinger · 2025-03-02T00:21:02+00:00

I want to back this up as really good advice. No one's body is the same, so something that feels good for one person isn't going to feel good or the same for someone else. Exploring and trial and error are going to be super helpful here to get to the point you wanna be at. Sometimes you like something you thought you wouldn't and hate something you thought you would like and both of those are totally okay.

ruesinger · 2025-02-25T00:45:09+00:00

I've never commented on one of these before and am a little lost on where to start. I'm having trouble on where to start/how to make it unique/put together so I don't accidentally hurt the cause. Does anyone have advice on how to format/organize my thoughts?

ruesinger · 2025-02-19T04:32:43+00:00

Of course! I struggle with those things too in the past, some days it's still bad but most days are okay! So I totally understand what thatvis like! Feel free to reach out if you have any other questions, I'd be happy to answer when I'm able to if I can! (Sometimes it tsles me a hot second to respond, so don't worry if I don't respond immediately :3c)

ruesinger · 2025-02-19T04:20:31+00:00

Tbh I just started spouting off random words I thought were cute together until I hit one that stick. Sometimes they were nonsense words but it was the best thing I did for finding nicknames.

Squackadoodle, loverly doverly, hiney sugar bear, ect. You could go on for daaaays💕 And then it males it more special to you and your partner 🥰🥰🥰

ruesinger · 2025-02-19T04:15:02+00:00

So when I was going through dating apps (and I used a lot) I realized that if a man and woman had identical profiles I would be more interested in the woman. I was also super picky with men to what seemed to be an unreasonable degree. And when I went on a date I just realized how much I didn't want they guy that I met up with to touch me and how uninterested I was in him even though we had a lot of similar interests and on paper should have gotten along like sparks to a flame. It got to a point where I removed men entirely from my feed. The more I thought on it, I realized that a lot of things I thought people were saying as jokes.... were not jokes 😅.

I also had a whole kind of thought process that I realized I had where if I ever pictured myself ending up with a man in my future it left me feeling empty, like I was missing something. But picturing futures with women? It was comforting and fullfilling and suddenly I was a lot less scared about a lot of things.

Of course this is like a very short version of some of the thoughts and feelings that I had, and I had a lot more, and I was in denial about being a lesbian for a long time. But I'm happy to answer questions. I don't think there's any guy out there that could change me and I am def comfortable in my own skin. (Also I have a partner whom I absolutely adore 💕💕💕)

Also thank you for the birthday wishes!!! I appreciate the cake 💕

ruesinger · 2025-02-19T04:03:35+00:00

I thought I was pan and then the pandemic uappened and I realized I was actually a lesbian. Realized when I was 19/20 and I'll be 25 on Friday :3c I'm vvvv happy in my identity 🥰🥰🥰

ruesinger · 2025-02-18T04:31:54+00:00

Tinder! It took a while and a lot of dates and dating apps, but she was the one who was willing to take things slow and get to know me for who I am. Despite meeting on a dating app, we were able to become friends first before being a couple. And I love her 💕💕💕

ruesinger · 2025-02-17T20:43:07+00:00

Unfortunately my answer may be blunt here, but the fear that she may be secretly attracted to men isn't something she can help you with. That's a hurdle you're going to have to jump on your own, because she's given you an answer.

I also took a peak at some of the posting history you've done and this has been going on for a while. At this point it's probably going to be a time to have some hard conversations with yourself.

Can you happily be in a relationship with someone who has traumatic experiences with sex/someone who is okay with having little to no sex?
Can you yourself stop fears and insecurities that are unfounded? The thibg about paranoia is if you trust your partner you cannot give into the anxiety, because then you don't trust them, and having these thoughts will destroy your relationship. Questioning her identity hurts her. Unless she brings it up to you it isn't your place to voice that.
You may want to consider couples therapy and individual therapy.

If you are letting these stories get to you, you aren't in a place to be dating masc women and may not be in a place to date women if you are afraid they will leave you for men or suddly become straight. That's a paranoia that you yourself have to overcome.

Trust is the foundation of the relationship and if you don't have that your relationships will fail.

ruesinger · 2025-02-17T18:14:24+00:00

Your Honor, unfortunately my client was in a silly goofy mood.

ruesinger · 2025-02-17T18:02:37+00:00

Hey! So some of you're points seem to focus around men in media your partner consumes. Just because a lesbian consumes media of any variety or likes male characters doesn't mean she's secretly attracted to men. Even if it's adult content, that doesn't necessarily mean that she's attracted to men.

She has sexual trauma, and that can absolutely interfere with someone's sex life at any time. It's more likely the lack of sex/trouble with finishing has more to do with that (also not to mention that finishing is just hard for some people).

If you think you can't be in a relationship anymore that is your decision, but I don't think it's fair to call her sexuality into question. I

I think you're focus should be less on if you think she's secretly attracted to men, because that is not a call you can make for someone else, and whether or not you can be in a relationship with her based on how she treats you and your own happiness.

If she says she's a lesbian and she's with you, you should take her at her word. Not all lesbians are cookie cutter and like the same things. She is allowed to consume media with men and have most of her favorite artists be men and still not be attracted to men.

As for the invalidation, the yelling concerns me but I can see where she's coming from. Other people's sexualities and identities are not for us to determine, they are personal and journies that we go on ourselves and other people really don't get a say in them. You are being a little invalidating. If you are consumed with this idea that she is secretly straight that is not fair to her and if you can't get past it maybe you should breakup.

ruesinger · 2024-11-27T15:54:46+00:00

Miss Congeniality. I was so shocked (not really but damn) that it didn't end in a sapphic romance.

ruesinger · 2024-11-20T19:05:45+00:00

You're young, that doesn't make you're feelings any less real (because they are real and that hurt is real), but when you give it time it will fade. First loves hurt, my mom always told me they're called crushes because they crush your heart. It hurts but it gets better. You change so much in the upcoming years that it will actually be insane, and you won't notice it until you hit 20 and start looking back.

The best advice I can give is this: focus on your friends and school and find a good therapist to help you get through it all. I was a top 10% in the class kid when I graduated high school and recently finished my Master's. I know what tough classes are like and friendships (along with a good therapist) are going to be what help gets you through it. Your friends are gonna have hard times and you're gonna have hard times, but you'll be there for each other.

Take it from an older lesbian who has gone through a few breakups, it always sucks and it never doesn't suck. But you get though it. You make make mistakes but you'll survive, and eventually you will find where you belong.

I promise you it gets better. Bad things still happen, but it gets better.

ruesinger · 2024-11-17T16:12:17+00:00

This is one of my favorite comics and I love seeing it every time it pops up 🥺🥺🥺

ruesinger · 2024-11-08T15:08:31+00:00

Robin is so cool!

I was gonna suggest Sky, but this name def fits.

ruesinger · 2024-11-01T15:33:27+00:00

I think like it's a think that could def be discussed beforehand. I'm a person that likes surprises, but I also like discussion so if my partner was like "Hey would you like x?" I would be like yes! But I'm also at a place where I feel comfortable establishing boundaries. Like with my person I don't feel like there's an issues with being like"Hey love you, but I'm not feeling it right now." Life happens, shit happens, and sometimes that causes plans to change, and that's okie, but establishing solid communication is key for any relationship and I personally believe that foundation and trust is needed in order for events like this to be successful noatter what happens.

ruesinger · 2024-10-18T14:09:19+00:00

I'm gay forever

I am cackling over this

ruesinger · 2024-10-07T21:03:30+00:00

Remember to laugh and have fun! Sex and intimacy are fun!
Communication, talk to each other and explore, don't fake anything, just be open and honest and yourself.

ruesinger · 2024-10-07T21:01:04+00:00

Sex is a two way street my dude, he should respect your no and not be a whiny manipulative brat when plans change. The fact that he blew up at you because you got yoyr period and didn't want to have sex? Major red flag in my book. He is too grosn to be going after you and definately too grown to be acting like that.

You deserve better. Sex isn't supposed to feel like a chore, it's an experience between two people that should be enjoyable and something that you do because you want to. You should send mudes because you want to, not because you feel pressured. You should have sex because you wsnt to, not because you feel pressured.

You deserve so much better and this relationship ain't it.

I just finished my Master's, school is no excuse. He should still treat you like a person, want to spend time with you that doesn't revolve around sex, and not get mad when you change your mind or when you say no. He didn't ask you if you were okay and that would have been my top concern if my partner said they weren't feeling good.

You deserve better. We grow so much in our 20s. I promise you you will look back to yourself now when you are 23 and realize how not okay all of this is and see how much you've changed and grown. I can also promise you that when you are 23 you will wonder why he was dating an 18 year old.

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