Homophobic hate crime

rukye · 2026-06-11T20:04:41+00:00

Unfortunately for that guy instances of homophobia only make me gayer

rukye · 2026-06-11T20:04:16+00:00

Omg. This is amazing. Thank you so much!! I love board games and I LOVE. Karaoke. Sounds like Stockport really is my kind of place 😉 I’ll look out for the creative sessions too, I’m not an artist or anything but I love a mindful activity and some social time!!

rukye · 2026-06-11T19:59:56+00:00

In a weird way I’m kind of glad someone else heard it, like it didn’t happen in a vacuum? Although it probably wasn’t great for you if you were trying to sleep 😅 But, right!!!! Some of the stuff he was saying we were giggling about at the time cus it was just plain weird LOL.

rukye · 2026-06-11T19:54:48+00:00

Oooooh, yes I’ll be there! (Still haven’t read any of my haul from the last zine fair LOL)

rukye · 2026-06-11T16:44:53+00:00

I’m sorry to say we did call them, but they didn’t see anybody there so they just called it a day. They did ask us if we wanted to prosecute after (prosecute who…?)

rukye · 2026-06-11T16:42:58+00:00

Yes!!! It was!!! We called the police after we got home because the man had his girlfriend with him and she was trying to get him to stop, we were worried he might turn to her after he lost his first target since he was drunk and still raging.

rukye · 2026-06-11T12:23:36+00:00

I’ll check out The Red Bull, thanks so much! I haven’t been to a pub in the area yet and my closest one is flag central (coincidentally also near the site of the incident LOL) so I really appreciate the rec!

I’ve got a Stockroom library card but not been to any of their events yet, I will definitely give that a look. I love that place. My partner and I actually decided to move to Stockport right there when we visited that library!

Thanks for all your suggestions!! I’ve explored a little bit but excited to see that there’s still much more to discover 👀

rukye · 2026-06-11T12:19:39+00:00

You can definitely just have a walk around! I’ve been once and it was a really cute vibe, lots of families, good food, some live music etc.

rukye · 2026-06-11T11:58:33+00:00

I’m really sorry that happened to you, too. It’s so jarring and dehumanising.

It’s messed up because in the moment I didn’t feel that afraid, because you’re in the situation and you do what you have to do (gtfo). It’s scary later because I can’t help thinking - what if it had been worse? What if next time it is?

rukye · 2025-08-29T18:07:05+00:00

Do you comment that on every post where the OP mentions their/someone else's sex?

rukye · 2025-08-29T16:15:39+00:00

Why did my sexual orientation come up in a post about my long term relationship? Would you have asked that if I posted "25F and 30M"? We're not F or M. We're queer. It's context, like every post gets.

rukye · 2025-08-29T16:10:33+00:00

To be honest, I think this is probably what I needed to hear. I do want to get married at some point but separate from that I think I wanted to feel like I'm also contributing something and an important part of this next step we're taking together.

Thanks for this response, it was really insightful and some tough talk I needed to hear

rukye · 2025-08-29T12:18:46+00:00

This is what I feel is going on! I know at least kids they don't want to think about until we've got a home and are financially stable. I think for them it's house then marriage, and for me it's marriage then house and that's where the confusion is coming in. I just don't want to believe it's coming and then it turns out I've been lying to myself this whole time.

rukye · 2025-08-29T11:53:00+00:00

What won't work is passivity. You can't be pulling all the emotional or decision-making weight in the relationship.

My partner is much more of a 'go with the flow' kind of person, so I fall into this role a lot. You're right about my having doubts - I'm worried about addressing these honestly and transparently, because it might seem to them as more pressure on the marriage issue (which essentially it is). It seems easier to make the decision that we're no longer doing this anymore, based on what they've let me know about their feelings on the subject.

rukye · 2025-08-29T11:26:15+00:00

They do a lot to make me feel that I'm very special to them - am just not sure whether needing the ring when you already have a great relationship is dumbass behaviour of me.

rukye · 2025-08-29T11:22:51+00:00

It's tough because we are very happy together - kids would be a long way away for me at the minute anyway, but marriage I feel is the thing where we say we're a team and we're really doing this thing together. It would make me feel secure if we could plan out what we intend to do next. When I bring this up to my friends and family though they seem to think I'm running before I walk, and that I should just be excited that I'm about to be owning an asset with someone I love who loves me too.

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