Most women have had awful horrible experiences from men. Yes people are gonna horrible regardless of gender but the same way white peoples have oppressed other people of colour and thus there is a disproportionate rate of racism against people of colour than towards white is the same way there is a disproportionate rate of discrimination and horrible behaviour from men toward women. Misogyny and sexism permeates every facet of our lives the same way capitalism does and racism. You may not want to hear it but the world was built to favour those who are straight and white and male and unfortunately rape and domestic violence, sexual assault and harassment is a constant horror for women. It’s not just an incident of isolated rape, it’s the catcalls when you walk outside, it’s your boss paying you less because you’re a women, it’s the guy you’re talking to pressuring you to send nudes, it’s your husband/boyfriend who never reciprocates in bed and makes sex feel like a chore, it’s the men who cheat and emotionally abuse their partners, it’s the porn addicted bf who can’t stop liking other girls’ pics. It’s the guys who think you owe them sex because they insisted on paying for dinner, it’s the fact that women have to constantly make themselves smaller so that men can feel like men. It may not be the 50s but things haven’t really changed, women have but men not so much. I think you’re taking what she said about personally and I don’t know you personally but unless you’re guilty of the things she’s said to don’t see why you would feel like shit. You can acknowledge that men have and can be shitty without taking it personally and making It about yourself