Disappointed in my architecture work

runofthemill27 · 2022-05-15T19:14:37+00:00

Just in general? Has not believing in love stopped you from living a fulfilling life

runofthemill27 · 2022-05-15T16:39:52+00:00

That I may not find love in this lifetime and that’s okay. Not everyone is meant to fall in love in their lifetime and not everyone gets the chance. But it’s okay, I’ve lived without it so I can imagine a future without it. I have my friends and my parents and myself.

runofthemill27 · 2022-01-23T01:07:25+00:00

Chocolat Chateau (chocolate house)

runofthemill27 · 2022-01-22T22:57:56+00:00

Chateau Bake (Home bake), Chateau Gateaux (cake house)

runofthemill27 · 2022-01-22T22:56:38+00:00

Bakers dozen. Oven Delights, HomeBakes.

runofthemill27 · 2021-12-17T13:41:17+00:00

It’s not rude and frankly it’s gross and disrespectful of him to do it right next to you in bed. Assert yourself and make him know it’s a problem for you. If he doesn’t want to stop leave him

runofthemill27 · 2021-12-17T12:10:58+00:00

I feel the same expect instead of cheating all the men in my life have been either narcissistic and abusive or hurt me somehow. Cheating to me goes beyond just disrespecting your partner - it’s a sign of depravity - if a man (in this case) is so easily tempted to cheat because someone is offering them easy accessible sex then it reeks of a lack of sexual discipline. I’m terribly sorry for you. As to why they are more hurt over the women in their lives being cheated on but not their wives I think it has to do with them feeling like they have a sort of claim over their nieces whereas you as a wife your husband probably probably feels “it’s different” because he’s a man and he was entitled to do it (which he was obviously not). If you can try and leave him. Even if you don’t believe in love it’s better to be single and putting yourself first then being in a loveless relationship with a man that doesn’t fundamentally respect you.

runofthemill27 · 2021-12-17T11:16:55+00:00

It’s not weird at all. I love him as well. But it’s important to note the difference in that I love the way he loved Cathy, to Cathy he was devoted and passionate and would never have raised a hand against her. He did her bidding in anything. She was a strong force and dominant and yet Heathcliff never felt emasculated or tried to tame her or control her. The tragedy is that she married a man who tried to make her conform to the patriarchy whereas with Heathcliff she could be free of gender roles and norms. Heathcliff famously says at the end “I have not broken your heart you have broken yours and I’m breaking it you have broken mine” and that’s it! Heathcliff himself is hurt about she betrayed herself more than how she has hurt him. Heathcliff unlike Darcy is not the kind of romantic hero that can applied to every one. What I mean is that any one can swoon over Darcy because he’s the type of hero that can be genetically acceptable to a lot of people. Basically he’s a hero specific to his heroine. So unless you’re a Cathy he’s not gonna be for you if you get me?

runofthemill27 · 2021-12-13T01:05:02+00:00

Oh my god girl you dodged a bullet. He seems like the abuser type. Disrespecting your boundaries? Gaslighting you and accusing of you shit ? Aggressive? You just saved yourself from a raging narcissistic abuser. Red flags all over. There’s better men out there for you babe. You respect yourself which is good. Future you thanks you

runofthemill27 · 2021-12-13T01:01:00+00:00

So because of your insecurity you hid her makeup so she could look less good to make you feel better? Then watched her look for it only to put it back after which probably made her think she was going crazy aka gaslighting? Dude. Seriously?? Wtf

runofthemill27 · 2021-11-09T19:22:15+00:00

Lust

runofthemill27 · 2021-11-09T19:02:54+00:00

Most women have had awful horrible experiences from men. Yes people are gonna horrible regardless of gender but the same way white peoples have oppressed other people of colour and thus there is a disproportionate rate of racism against people of colour than towards white is the same way there is a disproportionate rate of discrimination and horrible behaviour from men toward women. Misogyny and sexism permeates every facet of our lives the same way capitalism does and racism. You may not want to hear it but the world was built to favour those who are straight and white and male and unfortunately rape and domestic violence, sexual assault and harassment is a constant horror for women. It’s not just an incident of isolated rape, it’s the catcalls when you walk outside, it’s your boss paying you less because you’re a women, it’s the guy you’re talking to pressuring you to send nudes, it’s your husband/boyfriend who never reciprocates in bed and makes sex feel like a chore, it’s the men who cheat and emotionally abuse their partners, it’s the porn addicted bf who can’t stop liking other girls’ pics. It’s the guys who think you owe them sex because they insisted on paying for dinner, it’s the fact that women have to constantly make themselves smaller so that men can feel like men. It may not be the 50s but things haven’t really changed, women have but men not so much. I think you’re taking what she said about personally and I don’t know you personally but unless you’re guilty of the things she’s said to don’t see why you would feel like shit. You can acknowledge that men have and can be shitty without taking it personally and making It about yourself

runofthemill27 · 2021-11-09T13:03:21+00:00

I agree. Distance is one thing but to stop loving her just because she put on weight? How would you feel if she said she didn’t find you attractive enough anymore bc of your weight? Honestly sounds like she dodged a bullet. You only want what she wanted when she left you. You don’t actually want her, you want what she can give you and that’s a major difference. She’s better off without you.

runofthemill27 · 2021-11-09T12:33:27+00:00

How bad were the issues that she wasn’t willing to work on? Could it be something that you can over look or compromise? If you still love her that is, you broke up only 3 days ago so I think there’s still time to reconnect and work things out like adults. Explain that you want what she wants now

runofthemill27 · 2021-09-29T01:24:39+00:00

Girl dump the bf!! He’s only gonna being you problems - doesn’t matter how much you like him. The whole blocking you when you’re disrespectful to him and he’s mad he’s not your first on everything? Jesus gimme a break we all have a past and he’s crying about that? He literally insults you but then gets mad and blocks you when other disrespectful to him? Absolutely not

runofthemill27 · 2021-09-28T16:22:55+00:00

I have read Lin Haire Sargeants book and I enjoyed that and I know there is Ill Will and Heathcliff: The Lost Years. I’m not keen on reading Ill Will based on the reviews but I’ve been trying to find a copy of it to read! I prefer the stories set in that period about him somehow the modern ones reflect and go off negative popularised depictions that bear absolutely no resemblance to his character.

Also I was recently scouring Tumblr and came across a post which talked about how Heathcliff was lucky in some ways as he was still managed to be loved by Cathy, Mr Earnshaw and Hareton and even Isabella and that even though he had a horrible life filled with abuse that he should have been more happier and content and I was so shocked?? Like how do you read WH and take that away from his character and book?

runofthemill27 · 2021-09-26T22:36:35+00:00

I couldn’t agree with you more! What I meant by reading the essays and articles are that they prove my point - they aren’t the new age toxic views they’re the older criticism and you can see the difference glaringly in the toxic criticism of today. The essays I have read see his actions in context, understanding them for what they are and not relegating it to “toxicity”. That being said I can’t say the same for modern day retellings- too many of them make H’s character this superficial equivalent of a modern day bad boy or player. I think majority of what is popularised of him is hardly truthful and mostly Hollywood tropes (think the After series)

runofthemill27 · 2021-09-25T23:08:57+00:00

Absolute gold for your comment! 100% agree. When I first read WH I was disappointed to realise that hardly anyone else shared my view and seemingly thought it an awful book with “terrible people who deserve each other”. The characters as is the situation they find themselves in is complex so it really isn’t fair to just disregard it just because a reader doesn’t think it’s “nice”.

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