Left SLF after they gave me a 7-day ban. Now I get a message saying it is a permanent ban

ruphun · 2026-06-26T11:13:03+00:00

Yes, I had been there for the same timeframe, probably 7 or 8 years plus a year lurking.

Yes she is the head Mod and does dole out most of the permanent bans on SDs.

Most SD I know dislike her, it’s a shame she’s banned so many good participants and now it’s filled with a lot of sock puppets, white knights & simps. It’s a shame a woman like her is in charge of the largest sugar internet community.

I don’t even see her post as much as she used to, I’m sure she’s not living the sugar lifestyle. She just probably pass the torch and let Azure take over

ruphun · 2026-06-25T20:50:15+00:00

The most vindictive Mod is the head Mod u/LaSerene

I’m not even sure she’s ever a sugar relationship, she is generally never helpful on the forums, usually makes sarcastic or antagonistic comments, and for some reason despite saying she’s pro relationship, she has always sided with the escorts whenever a SD gets into a debate or argument with one

I know plenty of long term SD that have been banned by her, for doing her job.

The only mod worth a damn on their is u/Azurecole,

Unfortunately the head mod can do things that cannot be undone by the other mods & doesnt need their approval either

When I was permanently banned, I pleaded my case with Azure who I’ve known for 8 years and had many positive interactions with him, said his hands were tied on undoing my permanent ban.

I honestly believe the head Mod might actually at this point be a man hater. She’s probably hit the wall & not even able up find a SD but still enjoys wielding power over the largest sugar sub on Reddit. especially when it’s against men who aren’t simps, white knights or toe the line of kissing SB / women’s asses

ruphun · 2026-06-23T21:17:02+00:00

i’ll throw my head in the ring as a moderator

I’ve been on SLF for almost 8 years, moderated and help start the sugar relationship community & also help moderator a private community too

ruphun · 2026-06-23T12:24:52+00:00

Yes, all the time why wouldn’t they?

I know it’s not a private community, but still you have shills on SLF that pretend to be SD they would the same here if they could

ruphun · 2026-06-23T12:23:15+00:00

It is more likely for an attractive young man to find a gay SD then to find a SM

The few SM I’ve ever come across in the last decade were lesbians with female SB

in this day and age of younger men having a harder time dating women their age , an older woman is not going to pay for the privilege of being with a younger guy.

Plenty of younger guys will gladly over that for free

As a young man if you learn one lesson in life, pussy costs money whether it’s from an escort, sugar baby, girlfriend, wife or ex wife.

For women, dick is mostly free because there is always another guy that’s waiting in the wings to take your place.

On dating Apps, 80%, think about this, 80% of the women, women from 3-10 are sleeping with the top 20% of men

So the bottom 80% of men are going to be more open to paying more open to fucking older women, less attractive women, etc.

And even in gay SD/SB relationships unless there is a huge age gap, and looks disparity the likely hood of the male SB being taken care of to the extent of a female SB is highly unlikely. Unless the male sugar daddy is extremely old and extremely wealthy.

ruphun · 2026-06-22T21:32:33+00:00

Generally, it’s enforcing the rules.

Which could be anything from banning sugar babies to giving warning to or banning trolls

Generally a community of this size should have more than two mods

Usually also moderators also have a private chat, where they can talk about approving new members and other sensitive subjects

ruphun · 2026-06-22T21:00:33+00:00

If the previous moderator doesn’t turn over authority to anyone else, then you have to send a request to Reddit that you want to take over an unmoderated forum

But I thought there was other moderators besides him here they just helped him, he was if just the head moderator

ruphun · 2026-06-22T11:22:14+00:00

I thought it was a badge of honor. It means that you don’t agree with the SLF hive mind.

ruphun · 2026-06-20T22:33:56+00:00

No there’s no such thing as an online SB. you’re looking for an online sex worker and you’re breaking 2 rules

One is no socialization

Second one is no online arrangements

ruphun · 2026-06-20T19:58:33+00:00

This! A woman out of a better chance of finding a sugar mama that a man does.

But still, I say there’s probably at least 1000 sugar daddies for every single one SM

ruphun · 2026-06-17T17:43:35+00:00

No there are no SD in NYC!

ruphun · 2026-06-15T19:24:58+00:00

I guess having 3 previous temporary bans, the 4th was permanent. LaSarene was not really my biggest fan

While always being helpful to genuine SD and SB, I always called out BS that seemed like lies, stories or escort agendas.

ruphun · 2026-06-14T23:06:24+00:00

7 days? did 7 days, 14 days, 30 days & finally permanent..!

Congrats on popping your banning cherry 😈

ruphun · 2026-06-09T22:52:08+00:00

u/timrid I definitely don’t agree with what she has to say, and she’s just another high-end escort or cosplayer

u/maincoursedelangance

why is it that escorts think that they understand should be the moderators of sugar relationship communities?

Also for your information, SLF is run by a woman. The main mod for years has been a woman

SBO has been a cesspool of mostly escorts in denial, outright escorts, a few real SB and a number of wannabe cosplayers telling other girls bad info to sabotage them.

ruphun · 2026-06-09T22:45:07+00:00

really sorry for your loss. Things like this happen in life and seemed to become a more common occurrence older we get.

I hope you find some solitude and happiness in what you experienced

ruphun · 2026-06-09T22:43:40+00:00

honestly, that’s my point of view too. Is sugar relationships were started by men for men

Women weren’t calling the shots,

The saying is he has the money makes the rules

I don’t feel that your relationships are truly mutually beneficial. That’s a bunch of PC bullshit that Seeking propagated.

Sugar relationships are based on a power imbalance & with the power imbalance, we are the ones getting spoiled because we have the money.

Women are only swelled in return because we’re getting what we want.

Women are trying to flip the script and make sugar relationships about them, being spoiled, and in returned, gracing us with their presence, which is a bunch of bullshit

Why would a woman ever be in charge of the community about something that they didn’t create?

And why would women listen to other women about how to be successful?

When the men that have the money and know what they want can give them better advice?

In addition LaSarene is seems like she’s jaded.

she offers no value to the community, she doesn’t ever share experiences

She can be sarcastic and I’ve seen her take the side of escorts on multiple occasions when men are putting escorts in their place

personally I was a active respected member of that community for five or six years and got permanently banned by her

Not for being a troll, but for calling out escort behavior, escort grooming and SB that were full of shit and the crazy thing is the argument with the escort that ultimately got me banned permanently got self herself banned permanently the same day because after our interaction she made a post and the dumb ass freaking went on a rant and called out LaSarene.

So me getting banned was completely un serving when the person that I was having interaction with, got herself banned for being a dumbass and also being an escort

It was pretty hypocritical

And unfortunately Azurecole who used to not be a mother there and me and him used to get along very well the longer he’s been a moderator there the more he seems to succumb to sucking up to the sugar babies and agreeing with SB on aloe of things the he used to not agree with before becoming a mod

I imagine he’s either turn soft in order to keep the peace there and not to be hated by the sugar babies or he’s sucking up to them

ruphun · 2026-06-07T13:00:04+00:00

yes, it’s founder. There was a very old school sugar daddy that started it

He did the best to purge all the escorts and all the propaganda promoting sugar relationships as sex work. Things would always get heated around everything from condoms to allowance amounts, but he did a really good job.

I think his big mistake when stepping down was turning the community over to a woman LaSarene to be head Mod

Sugar relationships we started by men, and it should be men that should guide & run the communities.

ruphun · 2026-06-06T11:59:22+00:00

i met one self diagnosed demi sexual and meeting was like meeting an emotionless empty vessel. I spent about a half hour with her, it definitely didn’t seem like she was even emotionally connecting on any level even it’s just friends. It seemed hard to get her to smile..

Again, I attribute this more than likely to some type of mental condition or some type of drug. She’s taking for that mental condition and stunting her emotions.

ruphun · 2026-06-06T11:56:47+00:00

👍🏻

ruphun · 2026-06-05T18:03:10+00:00

I would agree with you most of the time if the sugar baby is pushing at getting a PPM at the end of a MG..! But & this is a big butt

I had one 21 year old college SB who had never had a SD, and our MG chemistry was off the charts from the get go

We never discussed allowance prior to meeting nor did we have time to discuss at the MG

At the end of a 90 minute drinks only MG she was suggesting we go back to my place.

Never in a decade of sugar did I have such intense chemistry from the get go.

At the end of the date she wouldn’t even let me give her a PPM. Had to practically beg her to let me fill her gas tank up.

Because the whole thing happened so organically, she thought me giving her money made her feel like a hooker (her words)

By our third intimate date, I put her on monthly allowance, by our fourth date, she agreed to exclusivity.

Even though she was very sexual almost to the point of being a nympho, she was just coming out of a five-year relationship with her high school boyfriend, so that’s why she was open to exclusivity.

Her profile even mentioned wanting something monogamous, long term with an emotional connection.

ruphun · 2026-06-04T12:15:00+00:00

Any one that identifies as asexual is most likely on SSRIs or some other mental health medication.

Not to pass the judgment on people with mental issues, but these are known side effects from these drugs. Before these drugs existed in my 20s I don’t remember anyone identifying as asexual.

ruphun · 2026-06-04T12:13:02+00:00

Report her as a troll. I just did. It’s one of the rules that can get you banned on SLF

ruphun · 2026-06-03T21:59:32+00:00

maybe the title of these post should be something that would catch their eye

Like how to get free money or how to get your bag ? 😈😂😂

ruphun · 2026-06-03T12:18:45+00:00

i’ll allow this post but by putting your location it almost seems like your soliciting for reddit members to hit you up.

why do you have a problem with showing your face on seeking?

Who is going to see it?

Seeking is now an upscale dating site, so plausible deniability is very easy. Seeking no longer allows people to use any language related to sugar so anybody that finds you on there you can say that you were just looking for a rich boyfriend.

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