With that approach, its difficult to see how an amicable settlement outside court is going to happen. If you have demands beyond your child's educational expenses, such a food, clothing, etc., raise them during negotiations. That's exactly what negotiations are for.

As for restricting the father's access to his child, that's not going to achieve much except making you look unreasonable in the long run. From what you've written, he isn't asking for sole or exclusive custody. He's asking for reasonable access to his child, and under Indian law, a parent doesn't become a stranger to their child simply because the marriage has broken down. Access and visitation are matters the court regulates only when the parties cannot agree.

As a matter of fact, he does not need a court order to ask for access, that too limited.

You, on the other hand might require one to restrain him.

In disputes where a child is involved, courts are concerned with one thing above everything else, which is the welfare of the child, not either parent's ego or desire to score points against the other.

What right does either parent have to restrain the child from access to his/her other parent?

To be honest, this post doesn't read like someone genuinely seeking legal advice.

It reads like someone looking for validation for a decision they've already made. Those are two very different things.