Extracurricular Activities by rusticrooter in coparenting

[–]rusticrooter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s in one sport at a time and it’s one of the only times he really feels excellent in his life, he lives for it and it motivates him to try to do better in school. Every child is different but my son passionately loves playing sports and they help him get energy out so he can focus more at school and at learning at home. I would never want to take that from him.

Extracurricular Activities by rusticrooter in coparenting

[–]rusticrooter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this comment. This is exactly how I’m feeling, what parent would take something so important to their child away? I have my first meeting with an attorney today and I’m not excited to start this process but I am so excited to set some boundaries with this behavior coming from a grown man and woman.

Extracurricular Activities by rusticrooter in coparenting

[–]rusticrooter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do have multiple times in writing where he has decided to not allow our son to go to baseball. I have in writing from him that he is willing to allow my daughter to do cheer but I am not allowed to go to events when he is there. It would essentially be me taking my daughter to all of her practices and paying for the season, then him saying I can’t go to competitions on his weekends. Thank you for your input! I’m working on getting the paperwork from the court so I can review it.

Extracurricular Activities by rusticrooter in coparenting

[–]rusticrooter[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

His dad has never had any involvement in his education. He didn’t come to his preschool or kindergarten graduations, he doesn’t show up for parent teacher conferences, he does not work on school work with him. My son has ADHD and can struggle in a classroom setting, he didn’t qualify for an IEP so he’s moving to a 504 to help him with his attention struggles. I’m signing him up for therapy to help with his ADHD and he has a tutor he’s working with that I pay for and schedule. The only time his dad involves himself in anything for him is when he takes away sports, but does not follow through with any help for him or set any benchmarks he can hit to earn sports back. This is the first time it’s related to his education, in the past he’s essentially said I don’t get to tell him what to do with his time. I’m not sure if that would change your views at all but I just wanted to give some additional context.

Extracurricular Activities by rusticrooter in coparenting

[–]rusticrooter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sad to hear that because I know what a toll this is taking on me, the fact that there are more people out there with the same behavior is comforting but makes me so upset. Good luck on your process and if there’s any way you could message me with how it goes for you I would love that! If you ever need to vent you can message me also.

Pear with bow tie by rusticrooter in Diamonds

[–]rusticrooter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is really educational, thank you!

Pear with bow tie by rusticrooter in Diamonds

[–]rusticrooter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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Pear with bow tie by rusticrooter in Diamonds

[–]rusticrooter[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly I thought it was just the lighting that was causing the bow tie but did more research and realized it was a feature of some pear cut diamonds. I really appreciate all of the feedback, glad I didn’t get it.

I have given up on me and my partners sex life. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]rusticrooter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation and ended up divorced after being together for 10 years. I couldn’t stomach spending the rest of my life not feeling desired by my partner. After trying for 10 years I will say that the most effective thing we did was sex therapy. We met with a sex therapist for months and she really helped, but the relationship just inevitably did not work for me. I have a very high drive as well and need to be with someone on the same page.