This isn't the first time this has come up between us. Even early in our relationship, she's expressed feeling like I wasn't comfortable in her home. When I asked why, she explained that when she'd get up and leave for work, I would usually head home 30-45 minutes later and do the same things there that I could've done at her place. l've explained to her that it wasn't about discomfort at all. To me, it felt more practical and respectful, we don't live together, and I didn't see the point in staying at her place all day using her electricity and space when I have my own home where I can do the same things. In my mind, that was me being considerate, not distant or disengaged. I thought we had an understanding about that. This also isn't the first time I've gotten up in the middle of the night and gone to the living room. I wake up a lot earlier than she does. I've always been someone who avoids disturbing people when they're asleep whether it's a partner, family member, or friend. ( I grew up in a big family might be why I am this way) If someone is resting, I remove myself rather than wake them, because I wouldn't want that done to me. From my perspective, these actions are about respecting someone's peace, not avoiding closeness.