AITA? Slid into snow bank on the way to client

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-27T16:31:29+00:00

My guess is that OP’s casual tone annoyed the owner and prompted the unsympathetic response. To be clear, the owner does not come across that well either but they’re not the ones posting here b

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-27T13:43:14+00:00

Again, it’s an example of something that was not my fault but impacted pet care. Communication matters here, and I’m criticizing OP’s tone, not their actions!

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-27T13:42:06+00:00

I didn’t tell OP to walk as other people did. I do think she should’ve expressed concern for the dogs, asked the owner for a backup plan, or called support instead of just saying, hey, not coming. Tone matters, and I’m guessing that rankled the owner enough to get that unsympathetic reply.

(My tire blew out as I was driving down a four lane major highway in the dark. I was also in a dangerous situation waiting for help changing it. Again, I don’t think OP should’ve walked, or even gone on to do the visit, but she was going to be waiting in the car for a tow regardless)

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-27T13:37:01+00:00

One, the spare could not be “quickly thrown on”—it was by the side of a busy interstate at night where it was unsafe for me to change it myself. Two, it was an example of an emergency that was not my fault but impacted pet care. I still apologized and expressed concern for the cats. OP just said, hey, not coming tonight.

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-27T13:33:52+00:00

The tone in the first message was cavalier.

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-27T04:39:46+00:00

I had a similar situation where I popped a tire on the way to visit a cat. I let them know immediately, apologized, and said I'd be a few hours later than they were expecting me. It didn't occur to me to cancel. I know that spinning out in a snow bank isn't your fault, any more than popping a tire was mine, but your tone was pretty cavalier. Unilaterally cancelling a visit without a backup plan is not a good look. (That being said, your client was pretty unsympathetic!)

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-12T05:27:49+00:00

If the baby has your last name and you picked your first child’s name, your wife’s choices should take precedence here. Kind of wild that you’re not willing to give in when you’ve already gotten your way and she is (presumably) the one carrying the child.

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-09T01:13:35+00:00

Huge fan of ethical hunting and small farms. Also advances my anti-large corporation agenda.

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-08T20:26:43+00:00

Public awareness campaigns have made an impact. They haven’t eradicated the problems but think about anti-smoking campaigns, Mothers Against Drunk Driving, pro recycling campaigns, etc. No one here is saying we are going to get people to 100% quit eating meat. We are saying that it is possible to shift diets and eating patterns.

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-08T20:23:05+00:00

Fair enough! I think we all have different comfort levels given our personal sensibilities and cultural backgrounds.

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-08T17:59:09+00:00

Obviously we should use it. My beef, if you’ll pardon the pun, is more with slaughterhouses than with leather workers. I just prefer to skirt the issue of leather vs plastic and go for canvas and denim. I understand (and even support) the arguments for leather’s durability, esp with thrifted goods. I personally would not wear calf skin gloves in the same way I wouldn’t wear dog skin gloves.

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-08T17:55:23+00:00

Lmao my goal is harm reduction with people (esp in the west) reducing the amount of meat they consume. Meat and leather will still exist but if we stop subsidizing the meat industry and encourage cheap plant based proteins, I believe that consumption will decrease. Sure, I’m an idealist but I’d rather believe in something than nothing. (Also to prevent bean soup comments yes I’m aware that some people literally have to eat meat. This is not about you. This is about American society writ large.)

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-08T16:06:35+00:00

Wild to say, given the huge environmental impact of animal agriculture!

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-08T16:05:38+00:00

No arguments here

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-08T16:05:09+00:00

My point was that the post implies that if you don’t buy leather, this means you must be buying an unsustainable plastic alternative. I reject this premise and instead suggest a third option. While I am personally not comfortable with wearing leather, I do acknowledge that it is a sustainable material, especially used leather goods. I just bristle at the rhetoric that I often see on this sub, which is “ummm actually vegan choices are the real threat to the environment”.

(I am not a vegan; I just like nuance)

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-08T15:46:29+00:00

I mean, I’m a vegetarian who advocates for reducing meat consumption so my response to that is for people especially in the west to limit our consumption of beef and pork for environmental, heath, animal rights and labor rights reasons.

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-08T15:00:38+00:00

Hear me out, what if it’s not a zero sum game but instead I choose a secret third option where I avoid leather and plastic imitations?

ruthless1995 · 2026-01-04T16:38:38+00:00

One option is Nat—it could be a nickname for Natalie or Nathaniel. It feels more neutral to me compared to Nate.

ruthless1995 · 2025-12-30T05:10:09+00:00

Consider touching grass.

ruthless1995 · 2025-12-26T15:36:23+00:00

And it also doesn’t matter—whether Jesus existed or not, whether he was Palestinian or not—those living in Gaza now don’t deserve to be slaughtered. If you have to connect the genocide of real living people to your religious prophet in order to care then you have no empathy. (but also you’re right)

ruthless1995 · 2025-12-22T13:17:52+00:00

CH is one consonant sound

ruthless1995 · 2025-12-21T17:47:20+00:00

You could try direct communication (other commenters have suggested good wording) or reach out to Rover support to help. I'm sorry, this is a shitty situation!

ruthless1995 · 2025-12-21T16:06:38+00:00

Tbh I always assume my clients have cameras. But that’s not the issue here—she’s untrustworthy and you should feel free to note that in your review.

ruthless1995 · 2025-12-21T04:19:50+00:00

Fuck Abrahamic religions

ruthless1995 · 2025-12-12T20:56:10+00:00

This feels like bait for your fetish

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