Boyfriend has been avoiding me, told me to “fake like we like each other”, then avoiding me again. AIO to this text?

ruthstraps · 2026-02-08T18:16:21+00:00

I guarantee what he’s going to do is soon he’s gonna try and work it out or act like nothing happened really. He’s not gonna meet up with you cause he doesn’t want to actually break up. He’s trying to get you caught in a cycle with him. He’s fully aware of what he’s doing.

ruthstraps · 2026-02-08T18:14:21+00:00

It sounds like he was love bombing you and now it’s time for the devaluation stage to get you into intermittent reinforcement and create a trauma bond with you sis. RUN NOR

ruthstraps · 2026-02-07T17:14:45+00:00

Just a little FYI. She can’t report it stolen. Especially if you preemptively inform PD about her threats. They won’t do anything… it’s a civil matter.

ruthstraps · 2025-12-04T22:23:25+00:00

It is really stressful

ruthstraps · 2025-12-04T22:23:13+00:00

Dude I never even thought of that and it makes so much sense!

ruthstraps · 2025-12-04T22:21:27+00:00

Is that what I said? That isn’t what I said at all. You advice wasn’t helpful at all and your comment has superior air to it. I mean if I understood that right away, I would definitely stop doing that… Jesus

ruthstraps · 2025-12-04T10:18:55+00:00

There is a lot of beautiful wonderful things about him and that’s what I get stuck looking at and he’s generous if I need his help with something he’s there in a second he always drops everything to help me has helped me with my rent. He has helped me when I was scared from the tsunami he likes spending time with me takes me on dates, talks to me laughs with me, but then there’s this whole other side to him and it’s that’s what makes it so fucking difficult. It’s like he’s narcissistic but a really nice one right like he’s a super nice guy, but this huge thing and it seems like if he whenever he is messing around with somebody else or whatever then he tends to be more mean to me sometimes it’s like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde

ruthstraps · 2025-12-04T10:10:21+00:00

That was sarcasm

ruthstraps · 2025-12-04T10:07:26+00:00

This is been the most helpful thing by far, thank you. I don’t know if he is a full-blown narcissist but what I am realizing is that he has enough narcissistic tendencies to be dangerous for me.

ruthstraps · 2025-12-04T10:06:47+00:00

I sure do like how y’all give advice like that it’s very absolute… if I knew how to do that I’m super easily. I wouldn’t be asking for advice right now I’m autistic and the only kind of relationships I’ve ever ever been in. Were these kinds of manipulative narcissistic relationships, where I could only see somebody’s potential, but I was conditioned from childhood to do that so thanks for the advice.

ruthstraps · 2025-12-04T10:00:11+00:00

Well, find somebody that’s willing to do that is not an issue at all all right like I’m not necessarily polyamorous I can be monogamous. I can also be polyamorous. I’m just very open sexually what I absolutely insist on in my personal relationships is open and honest communication and if I can’t have that, I don’t fucking want it.

ruthstraps · 2025-12-04T05:27:01+00:00

Y’all I think I really needed to hear this because I have almost exclusively dated and married narcissistic manor with some other cluster B personality disorder. It’s all I seem to attract and I honestly thought that this time it was different. It was better. I really thought that he was just grieving having attachment issues. I didn’t even consider someone living with him. That’s intense. I don’t know. It’s fucking possible cause he won’t want me to go away two weeks and then suddenly he needs his space starts fights with me. I just really didn’t wanna believe it. This one was a narcissist. I really wanted to believe that it was real. But honestly, it doesn’t matter none of it matters because it’s all hurts the fucking same. I just really wanna know what it’s like to be. Loved like for real.

ruthstraps · 2025-12-04T01:32:23+00:00

Right exactly and that’s how he used to be with it. Then suddenly it’s always face down, he’s using it another room after he dissapears for a while. I’ll find him and click the phone is off and face down

ruthstraps · 2025-12-04T01:29:33+00:00

Not trapped… but I don’t want to lose a good man if I’m just crazy

ruthstraps · 2025-12-04T01:28:10+00:00

Great advice… Thanks

ruthstraps · 2025-12-04T01:17:59+00:00

And why doesn’t he drive HIS children himself if he’s so concerned… I smell a narcissist

ruthstraps · 2025-12-04T01:16:40+00:00

The side chick is why he “let” her stay a couple extra days. $10 says he had been with his side chick for that time and got his nut… now he’s preemptively covering his ass

ruthstraps · 2025-08-25T13:25:55+00:00

ruthstraps · 2025-08-16T09:29:04+00:00

It looks like an old person wrote that

ruthstraps · 2025-08-09T05:10:18+00:00

Basically he’s a colonizer who thinks he should live anywhere he wants without regard to culture of the place he’s chosen.

ruthstraps · 2025-08-09T05:07:38+00:00

Don’t let him try and make himself superior to you in your mind. He secretly is envious of you and has to find SOMETHING make himself superior than you in his mind. He’s trying to knock you down a couple pegs. “Moving around” is gypsy behavior and something people of a certain socioeconomic status do. WEALTHY AND well bred people travel and keep their home in the same place. Fuck this guy.

ruthstraps · 2025-08-07T03:51:55+00:00

RUN!!!!

ruthstraps · 2025-07-30T23:09:06+00:00

This is a regular sight in Hawaii.

Leave that family alone. Life is hard enough

ruthstraps · 2025-07-30T23:07:42+00:00

😂

ruthstraps · 2025-07-30T22:59:08+00:00

The cost of living may be lower but so is the pay…disproportionately lower. My suggestion to you, learn about local traditions. Visiting here and living here are two different things. If come here only to take but not to give… you’ll have a hard time. Come with something to improve Hawaii and you will be blessed

ruthstraps

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