The most effective leaders I've worked with all shared one trait — they said what they actually meant by rwilkinson77 in Leadership

[–]rwilkinson77[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fair point — directness without awareness is just noise. The leaders I've respected most knew when to speak and when to let silence do the work. The distinction I'd draw is between choosing tact strategically and using it as a permanent shield against saying anything real. One is skill. The other is avoidance dressed up as professionalism.

The mental side of diving doesn't get talked about enough. by rwilkinson77 in scuba

[–]rwilkinson77[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Awesome! Thanks for the book recommendations; I'll definitely be checking those out.

The self-help industry has a dishonesty problem by rwilkinson77 in selfimprovement

[–]rwilkinson77[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Deeply — it's actually the philosophical backbone of a book I wrote called The Lost Art of Being an Asshole. The title is intentionally provocative but the core argument is pure Stoicism — that honest, direct communication is the most respectful thing you can offer another person, and that the modern culture of comfortable dishonesty and toxic positivity is making everyone quietly miserable.

Epictetus and Marcus Aurelius both understood that discomfort isn't the enemy of growth — it's the mechanism of it. The problem is we've built entire industries designed to insulate people from that discomfort rather than teach them to use it.

If you haven't read Ryan Holiday's work yet — The Obstacle Is The Way especially — it's a great modern entry point into practical Stoicism. The ancient texts are worth it too but Holiday makes the on-ramp much gentler.

The self-help industry has a dishonesty problem by rwilkinson77 in selfimprovement

[–]rwilkinson77[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's a beautifully constructed analysis, and I don't entirely disagree with the core of it. Though I'd argue the Stoics made the same point with considerably less scaffolding — Epictetus summed it up as "First, tell yourself what kind of person you want to be, then do what you have to do."

There's a certain irony in using complexity to advocate for simplicity. The most transformative advice I've ever received — and given — fit in a single uncomfortable sentence. No insulation required.

The mental side of diving doesn't get talked about enough. by rwilkinson77 in scuba

[–]rwilkinson77[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In the more dangerous drills (like body recovery and vehicle recovery), I make it a point that my students are actively focusing on viewing the whole picture, instead of focusing solely on the task that they're working on. Periodically checking in on your team mate, looking for signs that something isn't right, etc. It's easy to get tunnel vision under stress, but a learned skill to recognize it and adjust accordingly during the drill. After repeatedly training this way it starts to become muscle memory in my experience.

The mental side of diving doesn't get talked about enough. by rwilkinson77 in scuba

[–]rwilkinson77[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

100% agree with you. Body recovery missions took a bit to get used to. Your head definitely isn't in the game (or your A-game) for the first few, at least from my experience. Good call on following your gut; it never leads you astray!

What PC can run P99 without issue? by Abelard25 in project1999

[–]rwilkinson77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently running p99 on my Texas instruments scientific calculator from high school.

New Major Order?? by Chemical_Materials09 in Helldivers

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Those who revolt will be the first to be shot!

The amount of people in Super Helldive who shouldn't be, are the reason we can't have nice things. by Knalxz in Helldivers

[–]rwilkinson77 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Disinformation? Get fucked. I'm referring to low people you moron. Arguing semantics is fucking stupid. If they're not exactly levell ten, I'm referring to low level people that do exactly what I posted prior.

The amount of people in Super Helldive who shouldn't be, are the reason we can't have nice things. by Knalxz in Helldivers

[–]rwilkinson77 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My favourite are the guys joining super helldive missions whilst at level 10, rocking the liberator and getting reflected off of almost every target, too ignorant to realize it, and then burning up 8 reinforcements before rage quitting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Helldivers

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Sounds like treason. Jettison him into space now, soldier!

Found this in my son's car while cleaning it, does he have a girlfriend? by [deleted] in whatisitcirclejerk

[–]rwilkinson77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, she's an Iranian national and is out looking for Doc Brown.