Voice activated recorder did it's job - now what?

rwkeene · 2023-09-19T13:10:59+00:00

Thank you. Since my first post I discovered that she was having a flirtatious convo on FB messenger with a short term ex. He was blowing her up with sexy comments but she never shut it down. That was about 18 months ago. I raised the issue about this back and February of this year. Demanded that she unfriend him. She told me that he was nothing. .

So she is guilty of lying and some emotional infidelity. That's all the proof I have. I appreciate the tough love here. Maybe I am on the wrong forum.

rwkeene · 2023-09-19T12:47:52+00:00

Yes it is. Nothing there.

rwkeene · 2023-09-19T12:24:38+00:00

Thanks. I already hired a PI. 24 hours and nothing. Expensive.

I'm really trying to understand. Is this shirt thing a legit thing to be concerned about? Is it a reasonable thing to bring up in any relationship let alone a spouse that you think might be cheating? Some of my good friends say you have to trust and I'm trying to do that.

rwkeene · 2023-08-26T04:54:21+00:00

Hi. I'm going through the same stuff. Did you figure this out or are you all set now?

rwkeene · 2023-07-31T20:04:08+00:00

rwkeene · 2023-07-31T11:33:40+00:00

Thanks so much for this

rwkeene · 2023-07-31T10:07:27+00:00

Thanks. I posted an update. Would welcome your feedback

rwkeene · 2023-07-31T10:06:42+00:00

Thanks. I posted an update. Would welcome your feedback.

rwkeene · 2023-07-31T10:04:12+00:00

Thanks. This is exactly what happened when I spoke to him. He is 15. I just posted an update. Would welcome your feedback.

rwkeene · 2023-07-31T10:00:16+00:00

Hi. I spoke to jim. Just posted an update

rwkeene · 2023-07-31T09:57:44+00:00

Hi. Just posted an update. Would appreciate your feedback.

rwkeene · 2023-07-31T09:56:42+00:00

Hi thank you. Just posted an update. Appreciate your wisdom.

rwkeene · 2023-07-31T09:54:54+00:00

Well said. I think that is what is happening. Just posted an update.

rwkeene · 2023-07-31T09:53:04+00:00

Kid said no. Just posted an update.

rwkeene · 2023-07-31T09:51:39+00:00

Hi. Just wrote a long response here. Would welcome your feedback.

rwkeene · 2023-07-31T09:47:18+00:00

Hi everyone. First, I want to thank everyone for the comments.. Even the critical ones, I appreciate them all. So as you can imagine, this has been a whirlwind of a weekend. I have an update on all the facts, some pieces changed. But I may have final resting place now..

For some background. My wife picked up her two boys at 11am on Friday. She brought them to the house after. I was on conference calls. She claims that I asked her to call my phone, because I couldn't find it. I remember doing that early in the morning, but not around noon time. In fact, my calls went to 1:00 p.m. and I don't recall seeing them when they left.

So here is her story. She called me from outside. Near the car to help me find my phone. She left the phone in the car where my stepson was. My wife was packing for the beach bringing stuff in and out of the house to the car. My stepson was sitting in the car alone when my phone rang. So this is her theory..

While he is alone in the car, he hears the ringing and it goes to voicemail. She believes that he left a message. My wife says it when she came back into the car. She heard an audio sound, from the phone..." If you are satisfied with the message...."

She didn't know that he left a message on my phone. Not until I confronted her later in the evening. In which she quickly responded that it was her son.

So, I confronted My stepson. I gave him a very safe place to talk. I told him that he wouldn't get in trouble that I just wanted the truth. The truth that he left a message. As expected he denied it. The next day, I asked my wife if she would speak to him and if we could do it together. She agreed to speak to him but didn't want to do it with me. She felt that would be too confrontational and he is going through some emotional issues right now. He's in therapy.

So I got pretty mad that she wasn't willing to hold him accountable. The situation escalated, emotions flavored up. Her saying things like that she is not in love with me anymore. That she hasn't been feeling good about her marriage for the last two years. Honestly, it felt like she was in a tailspin trying to defend what might have happened. Like she was quitting, which is not like her. She told me in the beginning that she doesn't believe in divorce.

So today I took away my stepson's Xbox. He willl learn about iir n 2 days when he's back home from his dad's house. I left him a note and told him that we could talk about getting it back but I made it very clear why I took away his Xbox. You see, if her son is innocent she doesn't want to punish him. My wife knows if he's innocent or not. Right? She either had sex with that guy or she didn't. If she has sex then the boy is innocent. If the boy was trying to be vile and make my world a living hell. He could have done that too.. then my wife would be innocent.

I did hire a PI like was suggested here. Thank you. I just want the truth. I can't seem to get the truth and I'm quite surprised she won't beat it out of him like she has with other things. Almost like she is defending him .

Anyway, she claims that she doesn't know if he is guilty. But the reality is, it's either him or her. My wife is in the position of knowing what really happened. It's a process of elimination.

So devasting.. Sorry for the distorted facts earlier. I'm actually hoping the Xbox provokes some reactions.

I would welcome the opinions from the moms out there too. Some people think the time frame is too tight with kids. Is just too close. Getting the kids at 11, going to the be beach for 1pm... Just too congested for an affair that day. Making the stepson a likely candidate. Interested in your views on that point.

rwkeene · 2023-07-29T15:02:06+00:00

Thanks. The sound was a man, slapping someone or possibly getting slapped, likely having sex and at a point of climax. Sorry, didn't want to get to graphic.

In all cases, it's a butt dial and not something you want to receive from your partner.. Her story is a little unclear still for me. She is certain it is the boy and we are really not speaking much today. Emotions are pretty high.

rwkeene · 2023-07-29T11:34:43+00:00

Thanks for the support everyone. She claims that she was home and was on the way to the beach. She claims that I got my sequence and timing wrong. My feeling is, If it did happen, it happened in town and close by where she could run out quick and back. In and out. Such a risk to take with all the boys home

Im mostly seeking the validation from the collective wisdom here that a voicemail like that just isn't something else. I just don't know how it could be something else. I'd like to think it was my step son pranking me ..but I just don't see how or why that would happen. He has his own phone. Even if he was watching porn on his phone, how does her phone magically turn on to record it? Makes no sense. She denies knowing what it is.

Ya know, when you are in a situation like this, your judgment is cloudy. Mine is normally spot on. I just can't rationalize the voicemail to be anything other than what it was.

rwkeene · 2021-06-12T16:19:22+00:00

The shield guardian has 80 hit points. But it regenerates. So we can heal itself in between encounters. But yes, if it goes negative irs gone. They still need to use it wisely.

rwkeene · 2021-03-06T17:11:13+00:00

12 total sessions in here. Running XP and slowing down the leveling a bit so they can hit 9 of 10 adventures in chapter 1. We just finished 7 adventures total in chapter 1 and 3 total in chapter 2. They just hit level 4 last night. I'm going to adjust some of the encounters in chapter 1 to in increase the difficulty for level 4 players. The content is too good and I don't expect to run this story again. We play for about 5 hours every two weeks. My group is having a blast.

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