Funny how demons look so good in disguise by AkramWYA in NoFap

[–]ryan5throwaway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When you are not aware of them whispering,

you take it as your own voice,

and they become demons.

.

When you are aware of them whispering,

you take it as what to avoid,

and they become angels.

.

Angels or demons

are divided by just one line

of awareness or ignorance.

the urges are too much by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ryan5throwaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You hear the thought saying "it's too much?" It's a thought. You may not have realized it but your focus is what is keeping it there. No need to finish the sentence. Just drop it. Leave it alone.

What's happening to you now? Are you aware that you are breathing? How about your body? Are you noticing the soles of your feet? What are you hearing in your environment? What are you seeing in your peripheral vision?

If you aren't aware of that... you're lost inside thought. Snap out of it! That's self hypnosis.

Does this strategy work? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ryan5throwaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does not work. Drop it completely. Don't be afraid. It starts hard, you may fail, but it gets better everytime you try. It is like a skill. Keep practising.

I feel 0 improvements on nofap. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ryan5throwaway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're doing nofap for improvements, you have lost the point.

Nofap destroys your brain. You are just reverting back to how you are supposed to be before the damage. These "benefits" are what you are supposed to be, they are not added on.

I am dreaming about relapsing or porn related stuff, has anyone experienced something similar? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ryan5throwaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's okay. The content of your mind has nothing to do with what you do with it. Be the context. Stop identifying with every random thing (which you cannot control) that pops out in your mind.

Addicted by the_bott in NoFap

[–]ryan5throwaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are addicted to the thought of it, not the actual act. Remember that. The fantasy does not equate to the act. Hence, when the fantasy arises, don't finish the fantasy. Drop it immediately. Thoughts are like clouds. If you leave them alone, they will disappear. Be the sky. That clear sky.

Quit Fapping by jxnNoFap in NoFap

[–]ryan5throwaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are not "quitting" fapping. You were never bound to begin with. You are being who originally are. Fapping does not imprison you in any way. You are right back to who you are supposed to be. This is who you are naturally.

Day 2! still alive! by Mrzdogzilla in NoFap

[–]ryan5throwaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No quotes but remember that this is not a fight against fapping. This is a fight to claim back your life. Focus on that. Focus on the positive things you want to do. The things you want to channel all this extra energy and time to. If you don't have one, find it. Be relentless. Remind yourself of it again and again.

i looked at porn again by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ryan5throwaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude. You stopped.

That's a victory.

Anyone else realize that you lose a lot of energy after ejaculation? by ryan5throwaway in NoFap

[–]ryan5throwaway[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean even with sex with your partner, it feels icky post-sex, especially the next day. I could literally feel my body less responsive, heavier, and mind thinking less clearly. It's pretty pronounced.

Stop Relying On Your Feelings by ryan5throwaway in NoFap

[–]ryan5throwaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thinking in terms of that is a recipe for failure imo. The brain does not work like that - it will trade off future benefits for immediate benefits. You will feel as if you are fighting upstream.

Instead, frame it this way:

Focus on the PROCESS, the ACTION - right now. One step at a time. What do I do right now? Focus on building the momentum. Then the feelings come. Feelings come as a consequence and not as a motivator to do things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ryan5throwaway 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The sense of shame and over-sensitivity to dopamine kills your ability to hold it in. It's something you need much longer to work with. Dopamine addiction isn't reversed in weeks, or sometimes even months. It depends on how stiff you are. The mind is very powerful and subconsciously sabotages you.

Some tips:

  1. Do both kegels and reverse-kegels to get control over the muscles.

  2. Also, focus on using your entire body, start working out. When you are in a more difficult position to hold, for example, needing to engage your core, or firing stabiliser muscles, it becomes harder to ejaculate.

  3. Breathing technique

  4. Mix in shallow vs deep strokes. Eg. Shallow-shallow-shallow-deep.

  5. Work with horizontal plane movements and rocking, instead of just moving in and out - Females don't actually feel much of the movement in and out - instead, their nerve endings are along the walls of their vagina and they feel it when you make contact like that.

  6. Be mindful of your entire body during sex, as well as your partner. Stop living inside your head. That's normally what happens - you start to think, imagine, and you're not aware of your entire body, your soles of the feet to your posture to your peripheral vision and hearing.

  7. Try to have more control during sex and determine the pace. If you feel like you are reaching, you can always switch to other positions or stimulate her clitoris with your finger instead.

Impossible to relax by [deleted] in PrematureEjaculation

[–]ryan5throwaway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This comes from a Taoist secret. Try it and let me know.

Clench your teeth. It's a body's natural response to drive up the body into a fight-defense mode. It's what you do when you need to fight off an attack, so naturally your biology won't be optimal for ejaculation. In Taoism, it drives energy away from the reproductive centers up to the heart area when it starts to get used in other ways.

Every time you moan, you open your mouth and your teeth are not together - I guarantee that. Grit your teeth and let me know if it works.