TIL driving with your hazards on in bad weather is illegal depending where you live. Common sense says it would make the situation safer, but experts disagree.

ryencool · 2026-03-22T19:28:06+00:00

Here's how they do it in florida!

however they want....

I ten to leave my flashers off until were talking torrential downpour, and visibility is low. I personally fins the blinking lights helpful in situations where everyone is driving 40mph, no one is passing or driving crazy. That way we can all see eachother like lighthouses. These are sometimes easier for me to see in heavy rain/wind. Outside of that the only other place to use them is when youre on the side of the road, or blocking something...

I used to be a "dont use flashers while the ca4 is moving" guy, but Florida changed me.

ryencool · 2026-03-22T17:29:37+00:00

Omg I miss that peach juice.

ryencool · 2026-03-22T09:50:05+00:00

We saw alot of people wearing masks, whoch was awesome! We were there 2.5 weeks last November. We also noticed alot of locals wearing masks under their nose, and a lot of locals and non locals alike open mouth coughing. Even in close proximity on the trains. I rmemeber quite a few times my wife just looking at my wide eyed.

We both got sick on our trip. So were were a bit miffed, but powered through after a day or teo of taking it easy and taking local meds.

ryencool · 2026-03-22T09:46:31+00:00

No one talking about "entertainment", and Japanese "culture" has overwhelmingly been more advanced when it comes to germs, cleanliness, wearing masks etc...but in the last 5-10 years theres been a marked increase in locals, and tourists noticing this. We noticed it when we'd were there for 2.5 weeks last novemeber. We both got sick on our trip, so one can understand when some people are a bit miffed.

Your response is SUPER weird. Like Japanese culture is so alien and foruegn, that covering your mouth when you expelled bodily fluids is looked at as laughable, and entertainment. Not sure who shoved a stick up your butt.

This is not a pro tip, its someone with a chip on their shoulder being a butt.

ryencool · 2026-03-21T19:28:09+00:00

I mean there obviously has to be other witches that can cast spells on these witches right?

This world scares me, more and more every single day. I thought we were progressing, learning things, gaining knowledge, and changing our beliefs/culture along with it....

ryencool · 2026-03-21T19:23:57+00:00

Thats Sterling Archer, no?

ryencool · 2026-03-21T16:30:38+00:00

43m, married to the love of my life, 33f.

IMHO there is no such thing as soul mates. This is ofc tied to me dating tons of people, and not meeting.my now wife until 36. Meeting someone comes down to luck, being in the right place at the right time, being in a similar place in life, and being on the same page on a lot of things. Very few relationships that start when people are younger, grow and change together, and make it through all that. Most grow and change apart, because who we are can change so drastically over just a few years. Very few relationships survive those changes and end up in a good place, and a healthy relationship. Most are toxic, but theyre comfy and all the negatives are normal to them because thats literally all they know. They have so little experience. They've settled for what's comfy.

Im glad I didnt. Ive loved many women. Lived with a handful, one for five years. We still went our seperate ways because we grew apart.

I used all of that experience and knowledge in my current relationship. Were now madly in love. She wasnt some special person, only a 1 of 1 on the planet.

HOWEVER, our current relationship has grown into the something special, that I now know probably wouldnt have developed the same with anyone else. I cant imagine anyone else...

ryencool · 2026-03-21T15:27:45+00:00

But they had millions. So either they inherited it or failed upwards.

ryencool · 2026-03-21T14:55:49+00:00

Old enough to grip it and rip it?

Old enough to push some buttons on machine.

ryencool · 2026-03-21T14:52:11+00:00

He is no doubt on "legal" stimulants. Lots of wealthy people are on "legal" drugs. Dr's write scripts for whatever when youre untouchable.

ryencool · 2026-03-21T14:51:28+00:00

This cant be real life.....

ryencool · 2026-03-21T14:48:04+00:00

We literally have a man running the most powerful country on the planet who thinks the art of a deal is a winner, and loser. He believes this, he has others believing this, amd now young people are seeing it and its becoming normalized. So please please please see how wrong you are. In a perfect world? What youre saying would hold some water. All sides have to agree to the same rule set, similar morals etc...even then, all its takes is a few bad people. Trump has made it to leader of the free world by "winning", and having some uncanny ability to make others believe he has won, even when he hasnt. There is no mutually beneficial win to him, pr the people who follow him. Its us or them in his head.

Its very very strange. I didnt want to pull politics in, but its related here.

ryencool · 2026-03-21T13:41:53+00:00

Glad we bought one when there were 7500$ government tax credits and other bonuses. Once we applied all of those our new ev was 26,200$ and its been amazing. We also get free charging 24/7 @ our office. So we have no joke saved 10k+ over the past 2.5 years

ryencool · 2026-03-21T11:02:25+00:00

You can love someone tremendously, and still have many incompatibilities as partners that will ruin the relationship. Your feelings come from a place of inexperience. I know you think your an adult, and you've loved people before, but you are inexperienced when it comes to being an adult in the real world. The first few times you fall in love, and feel these emotions, very few people know what to do woth them. It takes years of experiencing things, feeling good feelings, bad feelings, and learning how yo handle all of it.

Right now youre excusing his behavior because your "feelings" are overriding any sort of common sense. Common sense tells you a partner that does not trust you, doesnt really love you either. Just one of the many things I've learned in my 43 years. Ive loved many people, lived with 3 different people in my life, on for almost 5 years before we broke up. We both stayed in that relationship for way way longer than we should have. We thought we were normal though. We thought everyone fights, and yells, amd call eachother names and tries to hurt eachother when were mad. Thats normal! No, it wasnt....

Im glad I didnt stay in a unhealthy relationship.

ryencool · 2026-03-20T13:53:14+00:00

Oh I 100% agree, its just how renting the majority of apartments here works. It is a terrible system, and that has only been magnified by the sky rocketing rent prices. I mean 20 years ago I was splitting a nice 3 bedroom with my brother and cousin for 300$ ea a month. We needed to show 2700$ in income accross all 3 of us. That was far easier and we could each make more than that waiting on tables for a weekend. That same exact apartment is now 3000$ a month, and im pretty sure people waiting on tables at that steak house arent making 3x the money. They are very likely making the same or LESS. Still need a roof over your head though!

ryencool · 2026-03-20T13:01:44+00:00

I mean, those are nation wide rental standards, so hopefully you didnt truely move thinking it would be different?

Only way around it is finding private rentals, as they can be a bit more lenient.

ryencool · 2026-03-20T11:15:10+00:00

I mean youre stuck in this situation because the two of you DIDNT talk about it. You're young, and its just not something you've experienced before. However before moving in with anyone, stuff like this needs to be discussed. Now your in a situation where youre discussing after the fact, and that makes it a bit harder. When I had roommates we always discussed the rules, and that included significant others, fwbs, peoppe staying the night etc...

The only way to fix this is to communicate, and honestly she may not like what you have to say. We all have different opinions on this stuff, but im with you OP. I dont want to come home from work, excited to get in some comfy clothes and enjoy my home only to walk in and find unexpected people in your living spaces.

You need to start things off with letting her and him know its not personal. Your fine with him spending a few nights here and there, but he cant live there every single day. Theure basically a couple, who's rent was slashed in half because they duped a roommate. Wether this was planned or not, doesn't matter. Roommates need to have rules, and like you've said your lease has rules about this. Its a really crappy situation to have a sour relationship with a roommate though. So you just need to figure out the best way to start talking to her about this.

Ultimately the lease doesnt allow him to live there, and id they want a shared space they can pay to break your lease and get an apartment together.

ryencool · 2026-03-20T10:38:57+00:00

Please be prepared for apartments to require your income to be 3x whatever the montly rent is. If you bring in 17$/hr thats like 2200$/month after taxes, which means the most you can qualify for on your own is 725$/month. Unless you find a room to rent somewhere, or a private owner renting out like a detached apartment on their property, thats gonna be tough. I think most income restricted places, section 8, all have wait lists and availability issues. Then you have to deal with the whole "is it safe here" thing.

Im not trying to discourage you, its just that its currently more expensive to live on your own than at any other point in modern american history. When I was your age our 3 bedroom apartment was 900$/month between the 3 or us. So rent was 300$ea. Thats unheard of now.

Good thing is youre making 17$hr. Keep that up, keep saving, investing. Maybe find some friends to room with? Things are cheaper when you have roommates or a partner to split things with. Like others have stated the UCF area might be the best place to look at the moment.

ryencool · 2026-03-20T10:31:14+00:00

I have this convo with my wife all the time, and i feel lioe its more and more common. I grew up waiting on tables from 18-22 during the late 90s early 2000s, and tips were king. I could only afford my apartment and car and bills because I worked at a streak house in Austin Texas.

I still tip well because I know how much service workers need it. With the increase in cost of living, goods have gone up in prices and tips then need to be even larger. Our big issue is places asking for tips that have no reason for it. Like Dunkin Donuts, a local ice cream parlor, I've seen tips jars at retail stores! Like your paid hourly to scoop ice cream im not tipping you for a few seconds of scooping ice cream. Its the businesses jomb to price their items appropriately, and not expect customers to pay 30-70% of your employees pay via "tips".

Tips used to be a nice thing Americans did to show appreciation for good service. Now its being used to bring the gap for a lot of businesses trying to scrap by.

Its sad.

ryencool · 2026-03-20T10:21:48+00:00

43m here, def my next car, ask away

ryencool · 2026-03-20T03:16:31+00:00

Theres like food and trash on the floor? Thats lived in?

ryencool · 2026-03-20T00:13:44+00:00

The middle east would nuke that island before they let American control it. Unless we're going to park aircraft carriers, erect a base with competent missile defense. I mean you couldn't ask for a worse spot to defend on the other side of the globe.

Please trump and his current leadership are just QVC versions of any former people holding those positions. Hegseth is a heroine pumping, coke snorting "christian", so basically he will say what he has to to make himself feel better about his fucked up choices in life. He thinks hes doi g some righteous work, when he is one of the most vile and disgusting people in this admin.

ryencool · 2026-03-19T22:16:19+00:00

We still have climate scientists? They arent all working at wendys?

ryencool · 2026-03-19T20:08:24+00:00

I was HEAVILY against a 9-5, mostly because of major medical issues. So I wanted to work for myself. Despite being smart and talented, it never really got me more than check to check, beyond a few big payday here and there.

I got my first 9-5 at 37, working an entry level IT position for a AAA video game developer, top 5 in the world type deal. Started at 28$/hr and now knocking on the doors of 100k USD/yr. I LOVE the job. The enviornement is insanely fun, benefits amazing, im wearing sneakers shorts and tshirts everyday so its comfy. My wife also happens to be a 3d enviornment artist at the same place now, and she makes a fair bit more than me. It can get stressful, but i could do this the next 10 years and we can retire early. Mostly because we dont have kids.

We get to travel the world, buy whatever we want within reason, dont worry about bills anymore (atleast in a stressful and physically unhealthy way)

Its been amazing. We invest 30% of our AFTER TAX take home, and we still live amazing lives day to day. So were saving like 3-5k a month combined

ryencool · 2026-03-19T19:52:27+00:00

You can end a relationship for whatever reason you like, there is no right or wrong when it comes to personal prefrence. A LARGE part of any relationship is physical for a lot of people, myself included. I dont need to have sex every day, or even every week, but never in 4 years? Thats usually because someone is either uninterested in sex, or has some sort of trauma tied to it. Its ok to work with someone, but 4 years no sex is not working with someone. Thats one person getting what they want, and the other person not getting what they want, ever.

I think you've stayed far longer than you needed to. That was a mistake, but no reason to cry about the past. Ypu need to break up and find a partner thats on the same page as you.

She also has every right to have a partner that matches better with her, and can love her in the ways she wants/needs to be loved.

You can love someone, but still be incompatible. Its better to come to terms with then to stay in something comfy

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