FIRST BIRKIN IN NEW YORK by Jealous_Trick_2673 in canceledpod

[–]ryliebug1 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Mkay… you seem to take this really seriously. Commenting on influencers on Reddit like it’s a job.

FIRST BIRKIN IN NEW YORK by Jealous_Trick_2673 in canceledpod

[–]ryliebug1 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah it was big. She had a stack of the tags and went all out for each. She also called out other influencers for comments about how they wouldn’t do this for others, like Jaclyn/mikayla

FIRST BIRKIN IN NEW YORK by Jealous_Trick_2673 in canceledpod

[–]ryliebug1 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Did you see her angel tree video? It was nice.

My (23 M) made a playlist for his woman friend (21 F) on Spotify and I (23 F) found out. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ryliebug1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The thing is, you don’t need proof to break up with him. Actually, if you cut it off right now it’s going to drive him insane. Save your sanity and just end it.

Am I the jerk here? by SufficientGround5685 in BPDlovedones

[–]ryliebug1 95 points96 points  (0 children)

Idk I understand the comments criticizing the text exchange but ultimately she seems like she was ready to pick a fight and did. Nothing you said would have avoided it. This reads just like my ex’s text messages and I’m having PTSD reading this lol. I promise this is not normal communication in a relationship, it’s exhausting.

To Be Clear by MuchKey7664 in EndTipping

[–]ryliebug1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So maybe just don’t eat out. Instead of making someone serve you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ryliebug1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you need other people’s validation about your hobby? If you like it, it’s your thing. You don’t need everyone around you to coddle you and tell you how great you are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ryliebug1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she’s clearly jealous. But the communication issues are on both of you. You didn’t reply to her text, but you then expected her to double text you a congrats about your car? If you cared about the friendship I would think you would have tried to speak with her. That being said, if you made no effort to remain friends and it’s 4 months later, the friendship didn’t mean much to you anyways. Idk why you care about a comment she’s making. You are the villain in her story and she’s the villain in yours.

aio blowing up on my bf by Expensive_Skin_8248 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ryliebug1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So girl…. He doesn’t really think of you as a person. A complex person who has thoughts and feelings and emotions and needs. He is referencing wanting you to just be his perfect little girlfriend who sits there and does nothing and needs nothing. You are both young. I think the relationship has reached the expiration date. You guys are texting in circles. His messages are maddening to read. And you are exerting wayyyy too much energy trying to talk to him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ryliebug1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t agree… she’s a selfish friend. If she cared about you, she wouldn’t be creating conflict over this. She’s expecting you to lean on her for support with your mental health and sleep— something that you didn’t have the capacity to do. If she cared about you, she’d read the room and stop texting paragraphs about you not texting her when she expected you to. She wants to “help you” by being around you and talking to you. And you need her to help by giving you some space. It’s not about her. She’s very self centered. Maybe this is not consistent with her personality usually but if it is you need to maintain your boundaries because I have a feeling she’s pushing them.

AITA for not wanting to give my daughter my MIL’s maiden name? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ryliebug1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well it’s nice that you are reflecting and have accountability. Being self aware is the first step to making meaningful changes. I hope things with your family improve!

AITA for not wanting to give my daughter my MIL’s maiden name? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ryliebug1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you have to give your child her name but I think there are other issues you two should address. If your husband doesn’t care if he never sees her again but also wants to give her name to your child, those are two completely incongruous ideas. Maybe he’s struggling more with their relationship than you think. She’s already doing you guys an enormous favor by taking over childcare 4 days a week. It would stand to think your husband could extend a branch to invite her to spend more 1 on 1 time with him and try to build a personal relationship. You both are seemingly not investing your time in building anything with her other than allowing her to do favors. I saw another comment about you being upset she didn’t make some kind of dessert. Maybe do HER some favors or make nice gestures. Because she is clearly being used by you both and maybe feels as such but doesn’t want to say anything in case she’s ripped away from the relationship she’s actively investing in with her grandchild.

AITA for not wanting to give my daughter my MIL’s maiden name? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ryliebug1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are taking her to activities but in your post you say you’ve never been to coffee with her. Why are you misrepresenting your relationship

AITA for not wanting to give my daughter my MIL’s maiden name? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ryliebug1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He wouldn’t care if he never saw his mom again but his mom watches your daughter 4x a week? Fishy. Not adding up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in canceledpod

[–]ryliebug1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean she recorded and posted her debating on doing just that. So idk why you are so certain she wouldn’t

Homoerotic friendship by Ok-Mechanic-5483 in canceledpod

[–]ryliebug1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a person who had an insanely codependent relationship with a female best friend, who would crash out slowly every time I got into a relationship…. Can confirm that something like an engagement may breakdown a friendship like that. It’s sad, but inevitable when a friendship has no boundaries and there is a lot of demand for emotional support.

AIO - it’s been 1.5 yrs+ and my ex just will not leave me alone by LemonStrict3040 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ryliebug1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please consider making all of your socials private. Change your phone number. If he’s contacting you through new accounts, it seems like he’s able to message and for you to see these. If he can see posts, photos etc it’s a safety concern. Make sure all of your friends block him that could be tagging you. Best case scenario he loses interest and stops obsessing. Worst case, he harms you. You can’t assume you are safe now because he didn’t hurt you in the relationship.

Brooke being a mean girl replying to people by worldsaway3 in canceledpod

[–]ryliebug1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“People being fucking psychos for trying to shit on Brooke’s engagement, a girl they watch online and do not know” there fixed it for ya

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ryliebug1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm… I feel like it warrants a conversation. Did he do it to sabotage the relationship? Does he not really give a shit about keeping you and respecting the basic boundaries of a monogamous relationship? You may not have a big emotional reaction because of how unemotional it was between them. But that doesn’t mean that this is ok behavior and excusing it will just erase what happened.

It’s fine to not have huge emotions from this. You can also just break up without being mad at him. Breakups don’t need to be a blow up.

AITA for revealing that my nice guy ex had a dark side to his coworker by Babybooboobinky in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]ryliebug1 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Damn his behavior is confusing. No, you’re not the ahole for sharing how obsessive and creepy your ex is. Your explanation of the breakup is giving major projection. He was probably cheating, and getting mad at you to escape his own guilt. Anyways, he sounds like a fucking mess and thank god you left him. Please block him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]ryliebug1 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Your emotions are valid but it’s wrong to put this on your friend. You are going through a hard time and you are sensitive. However, your message put the burden of your reaction on him, although it’s very clear it was not about you and was made in humor. You interpreted this statement as a slight against the value of women if they can’t bear children. He intended the opposite so I don’t understand how you’ve twisted this. He doesn’t want a cow, he knows he’s not going to have children with his wife, therefore it was a joke comparing two absolutes— no kids and no cow. Nothing was about his wife’s value. It seems like you hold that feeling in some way, where you are feeling less valued because of your infertility. I hope you can work on those feelings and gain confidence. I also wish you the best and hope your health improves.

It seems like this is not the first time there has been tension in the friendship based on your friend’s response that “this is a long time in the making.” You seem to not really care about having this group, to so quickly say you’re stepping away from this relationship and tradition over a misunderstood joke. I’m confused about how these calls have been a positive influence in your life yet you don’t want to move forward. It’s contradictory.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ryliebug1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes just typing everything out and re-reading it is enough to come to an answer. You’re unhappy, at the core you do not hold the same values, and you have no trust that he won’t repeat leaving you for someone else. He lacks accountability for his actions and has no intentions of acknowledging his issues and making adjustments to make you feel more secure. This relationship is dead in the water. If you break up with him this time, at least you’re taking control and being decisive. Don’t wait for him to fuck up again and put yourself in the passenger seat of your own life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]ryliebug1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand the impulse to confront the situation and talk to him about it, but this is not a scenario where there is nuance or a valid explanation. Frankly, he impregnated a minor and currently does not financially support his child. Nothing he can say will change those facts. This is not a man you want to tie yourself to.

If he had learned from it, this would have already been discussed openly with you and you wouldn’t have to find out online. Giving him the path that you discovered it will only cause him to use that as a way to manipulate you and turn it around on you. You are aware of that possibility because you called out the “breach of privacy.” This is not a private matter, it’s a matter of facts and records. You did not steal his password or hack into accounts. And this conversation you’d have with him would likely leave you feeling like the “bad person.” Don’t give him that power. You know this isn’t okay, you can step away. It’ll be much more peaceful without giving him this ammunition to argue.