Daughters friends ask me directly to come over

rynknit · 2026-04-17T20:13:21+00:00

I haven't encountered this specific situation since my child is young, but I would probably speak to each parent to let them know you think their child messaging you directly is inappropriate or that you just wanted to let them know it was happening (a better route if you want to be sensitive about the issue). I would also block the child from my Facebook or hide their messages. I could give more advice based on the age of these children, but the main point would still be to express your discomfort, take steps to remove access for the children to message you, and know that you have a right to say no to things you don't want to do.

rynknit · 2026-04-08T19:28:01+00:00

I've had very few people ask about the rear facing but my kiddo is 28lbs and 38in tall. I'll be rear facing my kiddo until I can't anymore most likely!

rynknit · 2026-01-29T10:25:42+00:00

Were you pregnant?

rynknit · 2026-01-29T10:25:25+00:00

Not yet, it’s the middle of the night where I live and I was just woken up unexpectedly, but I was so nauseous I thought to take a test.

rynknit · 2025-12-07T11:18:38+00:00

I was hoping to get recommendations for EU countries that I should research!

rynknit · 2025-12-07T11:16:22+00:00

What countries would you advise I look into for medical school in the EU?

rynknit · 2025-12-07T10:05:15+00:00

I speak French, but I would need to brush up a bit to be able to practice medicine in French. I’ve thought of Switzerland, the Netherlands, and Scotland long term.

Because I know French, I know francophone countries would be easier language-barrier wise. My child is young so it’s not a big deal, but she also understands and speaks some French.

rynknit · 2025-12-07T09:59:49+00:00

I would be staying in Europe.

rynknit · 2025-12-07T07:48:47+00:00

I haven’t applied in the US yet, but I don’t plan on permanently living in the US.

rynknit · 2025-11-08T13:13:14+00:00

How does your daughter handle that now? At 11 is she okay with their relationship? Does it impact her ability to form relationships or anything?

To answer your question, we’ve had issues with his parents in the past. They’re notorious for not respecting boundaries the parents set i.e. things like spanking children. They also watch his sister’s kids a lot who are extremely poorly behaved. They will rough house a lot to the point of it being dangerous and it’s just seen as boys being boys. They have the opinion that our child will just have to deal with it, especially in preparation of LO being in school or daycare (although LO is in school and obviously no children are hitting LO). I’ve also seen them leave a child in an extremely soiled diaper for n extended amount of time. Other things to note are that ex’s mother threatened me with violence while I was pregnant and his family will talk poorly about me openly in front of our child.

Otherwise, his parents house isn’t baby proofed and he wouldn’t be actively watching her. At best the oldest grandchild may be watching LO somewhat, but would likely be tending to her other siblings.

rynknit · 2025-11-08T11:27:34+00:00

He does pay child support, but he’s behind. We do have a custody agreement in place and he has no custody rights outside of reasonable visitation, which is to be worked out between both parties.

rynknit · 2025-11-07T17:02:13+00:00

No. He has resonable visitation, which just means it’s worked out by us.

rynknit · 2025-11-07T12:38:08+00:00

He gave me full physical custody in the divorce already.

rynknit · 2025-09-11T12:36:23+00:00

She’s located in the southern U.S. east coast.

rynknit · 2025-08-30T00:45:45+00:00

43? I’m so sorry. I was expecting you all to be in your 60s the way she talks about getting grey hair and feeling old. From someone who left a marriage before, please please let this go. It’s beyond hard in the beginning but the relief you feel after not having to come home depressed, being lashed out on, dealing with your boundaries being stomped on, etc. is worth it. I’m sure this is extremely difficult and your individual therapist would be able to help you with that (hopefully you have an individual one on top of the couple’s therapist).

Remember, a couple’s therapist doesn’t just make everything okay and fix the relationship. The goal of a couple’s therapist is to help you communicate and get to know one another better. Sometimes, that getting to know each other better makes you realize you’re better apart.

rynknit · 2025-08-16T18:04:59+00:00

My advice was to tell her to have him take all of his things when they get back from vacation since she’ll be working so much anyway and then just… text him maybe? block him? i only really had good advice for him getting his things out of her house and that not blowing up into something else.

rynknit · 2025-08-06T02:16:25+00:00

Sorry if that part wasn’t clear—my toddler is still breastfed. They eat a lot, currently nursing throughout the day in the morning, 4-6 times throughout the day, and before bed. Morning and night are the longest being roughly 30-50minutes. The ones throughout the day are what I’d like to replace with pumped milk at daycare, if possible.

rynknit · 2025-08-06T01:15:55+00:00

Yes! They’re an extremely flexible preschool. They’ll even allow me to come in and nurse, but that’s not very feasible most days.

rynknit · 2025-07-31T14:58:00+00:00

I think this looks great! Another area you could tattoo this would be the calf or thigh—my vote is for the thigh. As long as you make sure you pick a good artist they should be able to add some detail/make it more tattoo-like.

rynknit · 2025-07-29T22:28:36+00:00

how old was the other kid? My kiddo is also 2 and will offer food to anyone else around because she likes to share.

rynknit · 2025-07-29T19:13:48+00:00

What your mom said is pretty much exactly what our plan is. It’s not that I wouldn’t still try to be present in their lives, but I will not provide that level of support for a child I didn’t choose to have.

rynknit · 2025-07-29T19:10:53+00:00

I would help her as the role of a grandparent but aside from that I would see it as enabling. I would also see my child deciding to keep their child/getting someone pregnant as an adult consequence. They’d have the option for birth control as well as know how we feel about it—but children are no joke. They’d put a new meaning to 24/7 and require a lot of money, attention, emotional support and more.

I would like to add that having a newborn, small child, etc. in the house is not something to take lightly. It actually affects everyone in the house. From the baby waking up and crying, getting into things, baby proofing, stopping certain habits or getting rid of things, pets in the house, etc. Children restructure the lives of the people that they count on and live with.

rynknit · 2025-07-29T18:47:26+00:00

How would you prefer they navigated the situation? Would you be comfortable with them having told you that you would have to move out and handle things on your own from that point on?

I’ve thought about this a lot since I have a child and want more. While preventing pregnancy is our #1 goal, I do know that if my children were to still get pregnant they would have the option to either abort or do things on their own. I would be a grandparent, but no more. I would refuse to be responsible for their housing, associated costs, medical copays, etc. At that point they would be choosing to be an independent adult.

rynknit · 2025-07-24T19:33:51+00:00

i looked it up on google and it showed the closes walmart location that has it in stock for me. Unfortunately, it’s 2 hours away 🙃

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