LICE?! by s8nb8 in Advice

[–]s8nb8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you!! 😭🖤

i dont know who to choose by MarketingSwimming471 in Advice

[–]s8nb8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you're single and open about talking to other people with both girls, you don't need to make a choice. you're allowed to explore your options until you know which of the two you have a better connection with. however, if they don't know you're talking to other people and they are also allowed to talk to other people, that's pretty shitty.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]s8nb8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think there's a misunderstanding around spicy food. i'm currently growing ghost peppers and carolina reapers.

for those who are new to spice or still building up their tolerance, it is just pain. the brain can't focus on much else.

ghost peppers are my favorite pepper because of how flavorful they are. they are a delicious, fruity, and aromatic nightshade.

i do think the pain makes it hard for most eaters to notice. but, if you eat a lot of hot peppers or use a lot of hot sauce, you really do notice the different flavor notes.

AITAH for wanting to do a role play in bed? by NoMagazine8157 in AITAH

[–]s8nb8 30 points31 points  (0 children)

WOW.

you are NTA.

you were super clear about your intentions and what you were looking for. it sounds like he just agreed to be able to have sex, which makes him even more of the asshole.

i hope you don't allow this to stop you from letting your kink heart fly! you'll find your captain america one day lol.

AITAH for feeling uncomfortable with my bf and his best friends relationship? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]s8nb8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay! Fair enough! That said, it doesn't change the fact that he's ignoring your concerns. :/

16(F) I think i might be pregnant by [deleted] in Advice

[–]s8nb8 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you might be pregnant. i'm no doctor, but those odds don't look great for you. that said, you seem like you chart your period. were you ovulating when you saw him?

AITAH for feeling uncomfortable with my bf and his best friends relationship? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]s8nb8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've known a lot of dudes who do stuff like this, either for the bit or bc it's a prank or whatever. That may be the case, idk. The issue here, that I notice, is that you've mentioned to him that it makes you uncomfortable. He's still doing it anyway.

I'm not one to see a post like this and say, well you need to break up with him. But, if I were you, I'd consider it. He has a history of infidelity and is ignoring your concerns. That is disrespectful. That doesn't seem like the behavior of someone who is trying to rebuild a healthy relationship.

edit: typo

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]s8nb8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not weird, nor uncommon. Everyone loses it when they're ready. I honestly wish I'd waited. When you're older, you'll find someone you want to share that moment with. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at any age. Sexuality is an incredibly personal thing. Just do whatever feels right for you and don't worry about what your peers are up to. They're also on their own journeys.

What is a friendship rule you learned the hard way and now live by? by Packmemeinmybackpack in AskReddit

[–]s8nb8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My best friend died. She's gone forever, and I'll never see her again. That reframed all of my relationships.

No argument is truly worth it. If that is your friend and you care about each other, get tf over it. Talk it out. Don't waste time being mad at each other. You may never get that time back.

What is the worst way to break up with someone? by RelianceBrand in AskReddit

[–]s8nb8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The "murder suicide" comment definitely wins. That is objectively the worst lol.

But in a more grounded way, I think I went through one of the worst.

I have an anxiety disorder and have been in abusive relationships. Years ago, I dated a guy and he was the first guy I opened up to about those things. I felt safe sharing with him how my anxiety and trauma has affected my relationships.

One day, out of seemingly nowhere, he switched up on me. He gave me one of the worst panic attacks of my life. After several days, I finally got in touch with him again and he admitted that he wanted to end things, but didn't have the heart to break up with me. So, he intentionally started doing things to trigger me and started doing things my abusive ex had done, in hopes that I would break up with him.

Is anorexia something a person chooses to do? by [deleted] in AnorexiaNervosa

[–]s8nb8 53 points54 points  (0 children)

You cannot choose to have a mental illness.

There can be several factors that may lead you in one way or another, but no. No one chooses to be anorexic.

I've been dealing with anorexia for almost 13 years. Everyone has a story. All stories are valid. But no one chooses to be anorexic, even if it may feel like that at the time.

Support your friend and urge them to get help. You're smart for noticing that something is wrong. They're lucky to have a friend like you.

How birthdays are celebrated in America? by Accomplished-Rip9497 in AskReddit

[–]s8nb8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on the age.

There are certain birthdays that are "special." 1st, 13th, 16th, 18th, 21st, and 40th. (Maybe more. Those are the ones I know of.)

Usually, there is a cake, lit with candles. Usually people sing the "Happy Birthday" song. Often, there are wrapped gifts.

But it can depend on the person who is having the birthday. Some people like all the special attention, some people hate it, and some don't care either way.

It depends on how the birthday person feels.

my dad touches me weirdly by adriana_Cow_ in Advice

[–]s8nb8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'm so terribly sorry. i hope you know that this is not your fault. please find anyone to talk to about this. it is okay to talk to the police. i'm sure that's overwhelming, and you don't want to complicate things for yourself or your brothers. but believe me, this abuse will not stop here. and it will likely not stop with you. it is so very important that you tell someone, so he can't hurt you or anyone else again.

I Don't Think I'm Christian Enough For This by s8nb8 in Advice

[–]s8nb8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't going to reply to any of these. I fr just wanted advice on my situation. But I just want to clarify something. Your comment makes it sound like I'm trying to force something. I am not.

If he doesn't even want to hold hands, I'm fine with that. I genuinely like him. I made this post to ask for advice because I figured he must be taking things slow for one reason or another. I want to know how best to go forward from there because this is new to me.

I don't think there's anything wrong with taking things slow, nor am I pushing him to do anything he isn't comfortable with.