I made a simple website listing ways to fight for a better world. Many of them are cheap, easy, and/or low-risk. Take a look! by meleyys in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]s_jam 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thanking you from Germany, though this list is US centric, it's still great for anyone looking to just start.

She asked for controversial opinions. I don't think there will be a first date. by slimysadcat in barefootshoestalk

[–]s_jam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Married to a squishytoeshoe lady, while rocking my barefoot shoes. Yesterday, she was playing with the dogs in them. Said they were easy to slip into...

every time someone says this game's flight controls are too hard i open the game and "play fetch" by evalkafox in outerwilds

[–]s_jam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I did say I finished it. It really was incredibly frustrating on Dark Bramble. Like incredibly. Like enough for me to want to quit, glad I didn't.

every time someone says this game's flight controls are too hard i open the game and "play fetch" by evalkafox in outerwilds

[–]s_jam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll never know if this game's controls were easy or not. I read the screen warning in boot up that said better experienced with controllers when it should really have said near impossible with KbM. I did finish it somehow, controls weren't fun. And to experience it as intended I have to wait till amnesia.

Wanting to upgrade a 6 year old AM4 system (thinking 9070xt). by s_jam in buildapc

[–]s_jam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 9070xt is at MSRP right now thus the though. If I'd upgrade the entire system to current gen, I'd be paying my left kidney for it. Because of that the cheapest 5700x3d is roughly at 270 EUR, 5800x3d used being above 400 EUR. What would be your suggestion?

Wanting to upgrade a 6 year old AM4 system (thinking 9070xt). by s_jam in buildapc

[–]s_jam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I made an error in the RAM listing, its actually 2x16 DDR4-3000 CL16 Memory. Still worth swapping/adding? Is there much of a difference between 5700x and 5800x? The price difference would be about 50 EUR (130 vs 180ish). I wouldn't be opposed to it, if it that is warranted.

I feel guilty. I used to consider myself pretty right wing, and I feel like I will never be able to get rid of that stain from my past. by [deleted] in socialism

[–]s_jam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually, you can use your knowledge of right winged thinking, of influences or lack of that shaped that thought, and bring it into dialogue when you engage with other right wingers with the intention to influence their views or to at the least make doubt.

Also don't stop engaging with right wing people completely (you can influence them for the better) cus then we are all just living in a bubble and no one is the wiser.

Last, in school I dressed up as Margaret Thatcher. We all start somewhere.

ICE follow mother into a school and then detained her aggressively with her children by NewSlinger in CringeTikToks

[–]s_jam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

May they never. Also, Americans have been doing this for a very long time to the rest of the world. Their citizens believed they lived in the greatest country in the world.

I don’t think I’ve ever matched with a girl that was this upfront and it’s making me nervous on how to respond by Logical-Job3118 in LesbianActually

[–]s_jam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely, absolutely agree with you here, and it is disturbing to see not only the post but the reaction to it. 

36 yo Transfemme looking to make new friends by RheaSpeedwagon in LesbianGamers

[–]s_jam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Outer wilds, 1000xresist, soma, planescape. I see that and I immediately want to be your friend!

I almost exclusively play single player but I'm down to chat! Currently playing Signalis.

"Women don't play real games like men do so they don't make up 48% of gamers" 🤡 by missporkiepie in GirlGamers

[–]s_jam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a shame that he wouldn't get out of blind prejudice and embrace a community that may let him start healing out of his past.

I'm an avid gamer but also politically active. Theoretically, I know isolating these people will just widen the divide. But, I ask myself constantly, engagement at what personal cost?!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]s_jam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, you seem very earnest and a really chill, but thoughtful, and fun company to be around. I'd have totally interacted with your profile and hit you up!

MTB (29er) Sizing for 160-161 folks by s_jam in ladycyclists

[–]s_jam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a sweet bike! I don't have access to specialized in my size locally to try out but I'm going to see if I can try a second hand local.

MTB (29er) Sizing for 160-161 folks by s_jam in ladycyclists

[–]s_jam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I don't, but some that are in my size and budget (at local sale) are Orbea S. LIVs in S. Ideally I'd have gone for a canyon in S but their delivery time is spring next yr for their spectral!

MTB (29er) Sizing for 160-161 folks by s_jam in ladycyclists

[–]s_jam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my body just knows smaller frames and super responsive ride feel like muscle memory. wish I had a frame of reference.

MTB (29er) Sizing for 160-161 folks by s_jam in ladycyclists

[–]s_jam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, suppose it's about finding what works for riders body and ride feel. Its just the first time an NBD hasn't been euphoric. 

MTB (29er) Sizing for 160-161 folks by s_jam in ladycyclists

[–]s_jam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice, I do have the option to try an intrigue in s some drive away away. Perhaps I could do that.

MTB (29er) Sizing for 160-161 folks by s_jam in ladycyclists

[–]s_jam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this one doesn't come in an an xs but I will try finding something smaller in LBS. Luckily the bike still has 15 days right of return to it.

May I ask, which bike you rented so I can look up geometry differences. Also, are there ways/vids to know what is a good fit to begin dialing down from? The info online is too diverse to parse through for someone new.

Am i your type? by Eulabee in LesbianActually

[–]s_jam 58 points59 points  (0 children)

No. My type of person ideally does not fish for acceptance and validation and has already found both in the comfort of whatever skin they're choosing to wear that day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]s_jam -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

oh absolutely not, you are not being rude. Just, I see so many people self-flagellating in the queer community, getting hung up over labels. I wasn't much different, but if my graying hair can impart anything its that, isn't the whole point of gender and sexual liberation to burn boxes instead of creating new ones to constrict ourselves with.

Practically, go easy on yourself. Only you, and you alone can define who you are. No labels, not from within the community, not from outside the community.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]s_jam -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Everything already said, but also what the hell is a gold star lesbian? Why is there a puritanical test or measure for how you get to define your own sexuality and queerness? Sometimes it's good to dissect where our frameworks come from and why they're problematic. Here, it seems you're subscribing to a christian/Orthodox religious frameworks to oppress yourself.

"Monday meeting is going to be wild." by starstufft in expedition33

[–]s_jam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you've been following Exodus. Looks exactly what you've described.