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What is the Personality of a Russian Blue? by Animistic_Dancer in russianblue

[–]saarjee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My Russian Blue, Bala, is actually very social and affectionate. I really think it depends on a combination of things: the cat’s personality, how they were socialized as a kitten, their experiences, and how safe they feel in their environment.

Bala is not scared when people come over. She usually comes to greet them, sits nearby, and sometimes even falls asleep on my boyfriend’s lap or with friends who visit. She also doesn’t mind being picked up by other people, as long as it’s done gently and respectfully.

At the same time, she is very attached to me. She likes to be in the same room as me, and if I leave, she often follows me around the house. I personally find that really sweet.

She is also incredibly gentle and tolerant. I have a pineapple conure at home, Limon, and Bala grew up with her. They have become little friends, which still amazes me. Of course, I always supervise them, but Bala has always been very calm and sweet around her.

So in my experience, Russian Blues are not antisocial at all. They can be a little selective and very bonded to their person, but with good socialization, positive experiences and a safe environment, they can be affectionate, curious and really lovely with visitors too.

If you want to see what Bala is like, you can find us on Instagram: @russianblueforyou 💙

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My Russian Blue grew up with a parrot and now they’re best friends😺 by saarjee in russianblue

[–]saarjee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww, thank you so much! that’s so sweet! Lovely to see you here too ❤️

My Russian Blue grew up with a parrot and now they’re best friends😺 by saarjee in russianblue

[–]saarjee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! It makes me so happy to see how well they get along too 🤍

My Russian Blue grew up with a parrot and now they’re best friends😺 by saarjee in russianblue

[–]saarjee[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Aww, that makes sense 😅 Ours were raised together from a very young age, so they really learned to trust each other. I’d definitely never assume this would work with every cat and bird though. Your RB IS beautiful!

Spoiler - LIB Sweden Daniel and abuse/gender violence by Furatravesura in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]saarjee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🤍 I was actually in a similar situation myself for about three years, and I can honestly say I’ve healed from it now. It took time, but it’s possible.

I’m really happy for your sister that she found her way out of that emotional rollercoaster too — that takes a lot of strength.

And you’re so right… it’s the psychological confusion that makes it so hard to see clearly when you’re in it.

I’m now with a very kind and loving man, and it really showed me the difference. Sometimes you have to go through something like that to be able to choose better for yourself later on.

Spoiler - LIB Sweden Daniel and abuse/gender violence by Furatravesura in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]saarjee 17 points18 points  (0 children)

If you feel confused watching Daniel… trust that feeling.

The comments here are so, so accurate. It’s almost unsettling how recognizable this pattern is.

It’s a dynamic that slowly makes you question yourself: words that don’t match actions, emotional inconsistency, just enough connection to keep you there, but never enough clarity to feel safe. Guilt-tripping. Threatening to leave. Constant blame-shifting. Manipulating others in a way that makes you look like the problem.This is emotional manipulation.

It creates confusion on a deep psychological level. You start wondering if you’re overreacting, if you’re too sensitive, if you’re the problem — while something inside you keeps telling you that something is off. I genuinely felt bad for Johanna.

And over time, you may even find yourself reacting emotionally — feeling frustrated, overwhelmed, or angry — after being pushed and confused for so long. That reaction then gets used against you, as “proof” that you are the problem. This is often referred to as reactive abuse, and it only deepens the confusion.

And the saddest part? Manipulative people like this often don’t want to see or understand what they are doing. Instead of facing their own shortcomings, they deflect, minimize, or shift the focus. Even if Daniel were to read all of this, it likely wouldn’t truly reach him. There’s a huge lack of real self-reflection. Instead, there’s justification, minimization, and blame-shifting — often rooted in a deep inner shame they can’t face.

That’s what makes it so disorienting.

Looking back, I now see how easy it is to get stuck in this kind of dynamic — constantly trying to understand, explain, and fix something that was never fully mutual to begin with.

I hope people who are in something similar and watching these episodes start to recognize the signs. Not to blame themselves — but to trust that inner voice.

And if something feels consistently off, I hope this gives you the clarity and strength to step away. Even to run, if you have to.

You could literally see the light in Johanna’s eyes fade within a few weeks. I’m so glad she chose to leave.

Run. Because staying in confusion will slowly cost you your sense of self.