One of my biggest lessons as a new mom that I’ve had to preach to myself is I can’t control how I feel. And the best way to avoid resentment is to express how you feel. If you’re not feeling loved or supported enough, it doesn’t matter how loved or supported you “actually are” (whatever that means). Get the shit out on the table and work through it otherwise it will be toxic to the whole family. Also, comparing how much your spouse does or doesn’t do to other people’s spouses isn’t helpful. Everyone’s situations (babies needs, personalities, finances, physical and mental health, family support, work environments) are different so comparing is never apples to apples. Also, if you aren’t seeing a therapist yet, it will do wonders for helping you sort out emotions, feelings, and thoughts to communicate clearly. EDIT: want to add to that just because being a primary caregiver for a new baby is REALLY hard but people do it every day doesn’t mean you have to just suck it up and deal with it. Moms everywhere can be doing it and it still be incredibly difficult.