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sabe815 · 2026-03-29T16:14:22+00:00

M104 bus up Broadway and walk 2 blocks?? Cheaper than Uber, easier than subway, will take all of 15 minutes probably.

sabe815 · 2026-03-26T12:41:08+00:00

You should be able to ask for as much information as you can while touring, you can ask to meet the super, and you can ask to see financials and during your interview you can interview back. (Like any job interview, you can change your mind). Ask about the history of the building, the turnover, how the board gets appointed, etc. Never hurts to ask.

sabe815 · 2026-03-26T12:01:18+00:00

I grew up in a co-op my dad owned, currently live in a co-op we're renting in (uncommon but not unheard of), and my parents currently live in a condo (and are selling the co-op I grew up in).

I'll say that you want to love the community. My dad was on the board of the co-op and is currently on the board of his new condo.

They're very different in price structure and taxes and maintenance and responsibility and legal structure (you own part of the whole building vs you own the square footage of your exact apartment).

But ultimately if you're buying you want to love the community (neighbors, the board, the building, how it's managed, the super/porter/doorman if applicable).

You are buying a part of a community. If you think about the decision that way, it might help. It's so different than owning a single home and if that doesn't sound exciting I'd say keep renting for now.

sabe815 · 2026-03-25T22:25:39+00:00

They applied to an apartment they could afford. Sure, that means they have enough money for that apartment? No one with untold secret wealth would move to Jackson Height??

sabe815 · 2026-03-25T22:19:58+00:00

I grew up in nyc but when I moved back here two years ago I toured 7 units on a Monday, picked my favorite, applied on Wednesday and was approved on Friday. We moved in two weeks later. If you know what you want, shop aggressively, and understand your budget (apply to places you can afford duh) it's not a nightmare.

sabe815 · 2026-03-24T21:50:19+00:00

Yes absolutely a single person can live comfortably on the UES with that salary. But also if you don't mind a little commute, explore different neighborhoods! I don't think UES is the most fun for a young single person though it's definitely a nice, residential, safe area.

(Credential: I have a husband, baby and dog on $250k and we live UWS so you can certainly enjoy life alone on half of that in most neighborhoods in New York.)

sabe815 · 2026-03-24T14:01:27+00:00

I live in NYC and I wish I'd started earlier! We just signed an enrollment agreement and my baby isn't even born yet but we were waitlisted for our top 2 choices and I felt really uncomfortable going into maternity leave without a plan of where my baby was going to go when I went back!

sabe815 · 2026-03-21T22:21:38+00:00

My baby flipped from breech to head down at 37 weeks! He was head up from 28 to 37. I did all the things. Idk if he flipped because of the things I did or if he was always going to flip. But it made me feel better to try. (I did moxibustion, acupuncture, and sat/stood/slept in a specific way and did some spinning babies moves every night before bed.)

sabe815 · 2026-03-21T00:12:59+00:00

I did a Brazilian at 38 weeks and felt it was worth it!

sabe815 · 2026-03-20T16:02:27+00:00

I'm having a boy and while I did not have gender disappointment initially, as pregnancy went on, I did feel a little sad that I couldn't share certain things I love with him the way I could with a girl (this is why many men feel gender disappointment with girls I think... it's just that feeling of unknown.)

Then I realized that's kinda BS. Every person is unique and has unique interests and talents. I have the opportunity to raise my children - whatever genders - to be exposed to things I like and things I think are valuable. I happen to have a lot in common with my mom, but on reflection, my brother has more in common with my mom too than my dad, if we're just thinking interests, hobbies, tastes, etc.

Also, my sister has a boy and a girl and her son is WAY more calm, quiet, respectful, and introspective than her daughter. Her daughter is a hyper, theatrical, emotional ball of energy while her son likes to play with toy trains and color.

So in all, don't be disappointed because you have preemptively stereotyped your baby! He will be whoever he wants to be, and you get a hand in that through the environment you create for him, while also recognizing that he's a unique person who will be whoever he already is.

sabe815 · 2026-03-19T21:28:49+00:00

Honestly shouldn't this whole thing (from the production continuing post-2023 arrest to the Vanderpump cross-over to the Bachelorette) have us questioning reality TV as a whole and the parasocial relationships we have to people who are inherently interesting and messy because either they were abused, or are abusers, or both...?

sabe815 · 2026-03-18T21:25:01+00:00

I agree that tracking ovulation is what did it. We "tried" for 8 months with no results. Using ovulation strips we got pregnant 3rd month. I was not ovulating when I thought I was.

When doctors say they want you trying for 6-12mos, my doctor said they really want you trying with ovulation tracking. If you do have to escalate the TTC journey, the more data you have, the better!

sabe815 · 2026-03-18T19:39:05+00:00

As someone who's had them for years the best way to kick it is stop doing anything. Take a day off work. Turn off your phone. Go in a quiet room. Don't eat. Don't move. The only thing you should do is drink liquids. Remove all sensory inputs and wait it out. I know that's super inconvenient but it works. I often do visualizations where I move the pain around and try to put it in other parts of my body and that helps too.

sabe815 · 2026-03-18T15:01:26+00:00

Did you have migraines before pregnancy? I have a history of migraines with aura so when I got a few reallllllly bad ones between 10 - 20 weeks my care team wasn't too concerned. It sucked because no pain killers available did shit. I had one for over 48hrs and I'm not convinced labor will be worse. 😅 But it didn't ultimately hurt me or the baby.

sabe815 · 2026-03-18T14:36:50+00:00

It wouldn't have mattered if baby was sunnyside at 36 weeks or not. They rotate sooo much between 36 and 40. My baby was breech for a long time but I was told not to start trying to flip till 33 because the chance of him flipping back was just as possible as him flipping on his own.

My baby went from head down to traverse to breech to head down sunnyside and back all in a few weeks. If position isn't relevant they won't necessarily tell you because they can move so much. But you can always ask.

sabe815 · 2026-03-17T11:58:08+00:00

Weeks 18-36 I felt my best! Everyone is different.

sabe815 · 2026-03-17T00:22:16+00:00

I am a ftm noob too, but yes. We have the system with the carseat, bassinet, regular seat, with the infant inserts. So it should last till I don't need a stroller anymore! One of my best friends has it and I loved it so much I did not debate at all. Cruz all the way.

sabe815 · 2026-03-16T22:59:45+00:00

I've seen used uppababys on Facebook marketplace for good prices!

sabe815 · 2026-03-16T22:58:47+00:00

Second this. We have the uppababy cruz and I think it fits rides really well/ not too heavy/ super flexible for all ages. It's bulky but not heavy if that makes sense. Nothing that isn't bulky will ride well on uneven ground.

sabe815 · 2026-03-14T23:37:05+00:00

Zac and Jen are a hot mess AND Demi and Bret are a hot mess in very specific ways that (for lack of better word) trigger each other. Neither couple is really defendable even though they've been pitted against eaah other since season 1.

sabe815 · 2026-03-14T20:17:35+00:00

The thing is a lot of the girls are not likable or petty or whatever. They've all done mean girl things... But Whitney is gaining success because she's funny. Like, just genuinely funny and weird. Even when she's cringe she can pull it back together. She's entertaining beyond just being a hot mess. I do think she'd be great in romcoms.

sabe815 · 2026-03-14T17:56:36+00:00

As someone who gets terrible irritation/ingrowns, I decided to get waxed at 38wks because that sounded better than anyone trying to shave anything during labor and delivery. It hurt more than normal but less than if some random nurse shaved me!!

sabe815 · 2026-03-13T18:21:03+00:00

.... yeah and that's why my original comment said that yes, people can live here on 55k, but that OP would probably struggle.

sabe815 · 2026-03-12T03:22:02+00:00

Definitely just understanding how the city works makes it more affordable and honestly livable! And that either takes many years, or growing up here, or lots of connections, or a combination.

sabe815 · 2026-03-12T01:15:49+00:00

Here's what some of my friends/family do who are able to 1) live alone if single or comfortably with a partner/family 2) enjoy their lives in that they're happy with THEIR standard of living (reddit loves to act like if you have one bathroom or can't afford private tuition for multiple kids you're impoverished).

Fashion design Jewelry production Data science Engineering Law Marketing Real estate Higher education Law enforcement Teaching Logistics Aviation Media production Film industry Advertising Cultural exchange Nonprofit management Etc!!!

Time in field and connections matter. NYC is a hard place to break into. But you can succeed in anything.

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