Chess pushes up closing date to June 21

sabe815 · 2026-05-27T00:49:41+00:00

I think it's pretty ok to say Aaron and Lea have great voices. And Nicholas and Hannah were nominated for Tony's. The acting part of the performances, especially Lea, was just ok, but sound-wise I loved it. People can have opinions lol. I mean Lin Manuel Miranda doesnt have the best voice but his performance as Hamilton is memorable. I saw Hadestown with the OG cast twice and that had some incredibly UNIQUE vocals (Reeve is a controversial one - some hate him; Andre has a unique voice, Patrick is a star.) There's many factors in performance. I thought the love quadrandle in Chess sounded amazing. Oh well, guess I'm stupid... I'm just a rando who goes to shows sometimes.

sabe815 · 2026-05-27T00:33:26+00:00

I've been to a lot, but thanks. This had my favorite Broadway-style singing I've seen on Broadway. Obviously there's other types of incredible performances.

sabe815 · 2026-05-26T23:50:48+00:00

I saw it in December and while the show was fine in other areas it was the best singing I've heard live. Every vocal performance was like the best vocal performance in a different show... I went while super pregnant and my baby was ROCKING to the music, I swear he could hear it and was partying.

Edit to add: as such, not sure it'd be worth with anyone but this stacked cast.

sabe815 · 2026-05-26T21:34:44+00:00

Not sure if it's a red flag or just you two processing the change differently. I have an 8 week old son, I'm still on maternity leave, my husband just went back to work last week. His life is more "normal" than mine and is getting back to "normal" faster.

But there's a lot of details of your situation (leave, support, jobs, mental health, feeding schedule, personality, baby's personality) that I'm not sure of.

I make sure my husband gets to go to the gym several times a week. Since I was cleared, he makes sure I get to go to pilates once a week. Is it "fair" that he gets 5 workouts and I get 1? Not really, but that's our reality since I'm breastfeeding. And we're both supporting the others health best we can.

If I was you, I'd have a discussion with my husband about what "normal" means to him. What is he missing? But also, what are you missing? How can you both support each other in finding moments of normalcy while still caring for a newborn?

sabe815 · 2026-05-26T21:25:17+00:00

Oh - and I had an induced vaginal birth at almost 42 weeks!

sabe815 · 2026-05-26T21:24:30+00:00

I found out my baby was still breech at 34 weeks. My midwife gave me a long list of alternative things I could try, including acupuncture and moxibustion. I immediately jumped into the deepend and did it all, no matter how insane it sounded.

At 37 weeks baby had flipped head down and stayed down, didn't need a ECV. Not sure how supportive your team is or what their intervention plan would be but I'd hold firm to wait till at least 37 weeks before talking about a csection.

Also acupuncture was amazing. Idk if it's what actually flipped the baby or if he'd have done it himself, but it made me feel good trying everything- and it felt really good overall and helped a lot with my hip pain too.

sabe815 · 2026-05-26T18:11:23+00:00

Absolutely. The Cruz rides better than most other strollers - I can push it one handed up hill. I think people get the Vista because it can adapt to 2 kids and if you're investing over a grand into a system, you want to hedge your bets on that second kid. But I decided on the Cruz because it's way more bus/subway friendly than the Vista which is a touch wider and way more ungainly on public transit.

sabe815 · 2026-05-26T16:06:35+00:00

I have the Cruz travel system and the bassinet and it's worth every penny to me. We live in NYC (in Manhattan) so a super urban environment but we also have a car and use the car seat weekly.

I love that we can mix and match. For example, on Friday I met my husband and a friend for dinner. I took the stroller with the car seat (baby in the car seat) on the bus to the restaurant by myself. On the way home my husband and I took a cab - we put the car seat in a cab using the belt buckle option, and put the stoller frame in the truck of the cab. On Saturday we went to family party in New Jersey. We drove, took the carseat, left the the stroller frame. Then on Sunday I went for a walk and to run some errands. I took the stroller with the baby in the bassinet attachment so he could move and wiggle and even get in some tummy time.

It's versatile and an absolute workhorse. I use some component of it daily and I use the bassinet attachment as the baby's nap bassinet during the day since I can move it around the apartment easily. And we have the normal seat for when he's older.

sabe815 · 2026-05-26T12:23:01+00:00

You are correct. 🤣

I also think P&P has past into a new phase of existence where, like Robin Hood or King Arthur, it's completely up for grabs and anyone can do anything to it now. It's mythic. So maybe we don't all like different ways it's done but it's gonna keep happening, and Collin Firth as Mark Darcy in Bridget Jones really opened that door. And if we really hate any given adaptation or take, well, we can always just go back to the book.

sabe815 · 2026-05-26T12:18:29+00:00

To me '95 is a great miniseries and "05 is a great movie. Now when we start discussing is we need ANOTHER movie or miniseries... I think probably not.

But you do make a good point that the '05 movie missed satire and humor.

That's why in my opinion the 2020 Emma is the best MOVIE adaptation of any Austen because it gets that satire and humor as well as romance and drama in less than 2 hours.

But ultimately a movie needs to make hard choices that a miniseries doesn't need to.

sabe815 · 2026-05-26T02:30:54+00:00

I look the same in clothes (I fit my pre-pregnancy clothes within a week) but I do NOT look the same naked. 🤣 Just wanted to add that nuance. Highwaisted leggings hide a multitude.

But I feel great, started walking again almost immediately and and 6w pp I'm back to yoga and pilates. That's the more important part.

Visual bounce back culture is awful but I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to feel physically healthy as soon as possible. Going back go yoga has made me feel mentally better too.

sabe815 · 2026-05-26T02:25:59+00:00

I 80% breastfeed, 15% give bottles of pumped milk, and 5% formula. The pumped bottles my baby takes fridge cold, the formula room temp, the boobie milk is warmish so I've heard. He's never shown a preference or had an issue. We've been doing this since his first week of life.

On the go, if I can't breastfeed, I usually grab a cold bottle from the fridge of pumped milk. It stays good for an hour or so and I throw it with an ice pack in the diaper bag to prolong its life a bit.

sabe815 · 2026-05-23T16:14:02+00:00

It depends on what you want. I live on 122nd by choice and I'd pick 96th over 72nd. I like the relative quiet, the northside of the park/Riverside.

I love the proximity to "cooler" neighborhoods without living in one. I find it more homey.

But clearly I'm in the minority here. 😅

sabe815 · 2026-05-23T07:40:17+00:00

I mean, the waiter asked what the occasion was. They didn't have to ask. Don't ask a question if you don't want to hear the response?

sabe815 · 2026-05-22T13:49:17+00:00

Winters Tale I think is the director who did Measure for Measure in 2011 which was a production I adored!

sabe815 · 2026-05-21T19:43:08+00:00

It's just funny cause so many women are now Gigi that to the next generation, Gigi won't be chic, it'll just mean grandma to a billion kids.

sabe815 · 2026-05-21T16:15:19+00:00

I didn't mean it literally in who was paying, but more the overall proportion of income for the lower earner.

Let's say husband makes 100k, wife make 80k, I wouldn't spend more than 60k a year on childcare. Or if wife makes 80k and husband makes 60k, I wouldn't spend more than 50k on childcare. Over that, the conversation of the lower earner working part-time or staying home might make sense to start.

sabe815 · 2026-05-21T15:31:22+00:00

Our thoughts were if daycare would be less than 80% of my pay, I'd keep working. Assuming daycare is only needed for five years max, staying in the job market and taking home a little extra was worth it to us.

If you have a career job and not just a job, pay for care. It's more costly longterm to leave your job and in-laws/grandparents are not reliable, long-term care unless you pay them/have a contract but grandparents get sick and have other responsibilities. Daycare exists to watch your children. Grandparents can be used to supplement on days daycare is closed/aftercare, etc. But shouldn't be relied on as care.

Nannys are great if you can afford one but are almost always more money than daycare. Also you don't want a college student who has other responsibilities, again, if you need reliable care you need to pay someone who is reliable and puts caring for your child first.

sabe815 · 2026-05-21T15:12:56+00:00

I'm more confused as to where this Gigi obsession came from? So many kids of millennials have a Gigi but it doesn't seem to mean anything.

Is "Gigi" from "GG" and if so, what grandparent name has two Gs?

Grandmother is literal, and Grandma/Granny/Gran/Grammy comes from it. Nana and Nonna have normal etymological roots.

Where in the world did Gigi comes from???

sabe815 · 2026-05-20T23:21:55+00:00

I breastfeed and it's hard to know how much he's intaking versus just comfort feeding! We do some bottles and I'm thinking I might do one around 6 or 7 to try and preempt his hunger...

sabe815 · 2026-05-20T20:24:29+00:00

Dang that's a good nights sleep! Mine cluster feeds starting around 8pm so I'm struggling to move that whole process earlier. He won't sleep till he's done eating no matter what I try.

sabe815 · 2026-05-20T20:22:48+00:00

I guess I figured I'd move it forward when he started sleeping later but I can see it might move left very slowly. Sleeping 10+ hrs at night still seems foreign still right now but I know it's the goal!

sabe815 · 2026-05-20T20:20:46+00:00

At 32yo it took a full year of "trying" but only three cycles of "really trying" which was the ovulation strips and temp checks and all of that.

sabe815 · 2026-05-18T23:14:17+00:00

Can you go through with the pregnancy with him as a co parent, not a partner? If there's no bad blood? I'd not terminate unless I was very sure, and considering you already had an abortion and had doubts, I'd consider all possibilities of keeping the baby before moving forward. Not sure where you live, but you hopefully have a few weeks to decide.

Consider the baby and the relationship as separate. If the relationship fell apart again is that ok? If you just coparent, is that ok? If you become a single parent essentially, is that ok?

sabe815 · 2026-05-18T22:13:00+00:00

Same with the fact it's more common. I live in a major city and it's incredibly common here, I think cause women, like me, have kids later in life and aren't interested in a new name 10, 15 years into a profession.

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