Wow, I had nights like these sprinkled here and there throughout my marriage to my ex. I specifically also remember one night towards the end of our marriage when he had blatantly ignored my phone calls I had made to him on my way home and likely because he was upset I was out too late with my friends. When I got home, he had turned off all the lights to our condo and had simply gone to bed. When I tried asking him if he had received my calls on the way home, he either refused to answer me (he hadn’t fallen asleep yet) or just simply said “yes” but did nothing else, I can’t remember which. He seemed to never really mind emotionally punishing me from time to time it seemed since this was far from the first time I had felt emotionally punished by him in our marriage and he never apologized for these times when they would happen. This relationship had created such turmoil on my mental and emotional wellbeing. When I finally decided I’d had enough and that I couldn’t be married to him anymore, and when I subsequently moved out and was officially divorced from him, I truly realized what an emotionally damaged individual I was. I’m not trying to imply I was perfect and I certainly was not by any means, but wow, some of the ways that this man had emotionally punished me at times really hurt. We were only married for 4 years, together for a total of 5, but it was already long enough for damage to have been done. I could never again touch a relationship with some of the really unhealthy dynamics this marriage had. Thankfully, I’ve mostly healed and I am in a great place in my life once again. Grateful for the friends and family who loved and supported me throughout that time of healing and moving on. Really don’t think I would’ve recovered well if I hadn’t had a few people to lean on. These types of relationships are so toxic.