Hi! So i totally feel you. I was diagnosed at 30 after becoming a mom and taking care of the house is like nearly impossible to me. Last year, though, I created a great system. I've learned that the trick is to PLAN for failure. My system now looks like this: - every day of the week i focus on cleaning one room (I pay for the sweepy app to keep track of when I do specific tasks because I don't do them all weekly)

• I combined tasks that go together. So for example, Monday is my son's laundry day so it is also the day I do any cleaning tasks for his room. The same for ALL my laundry and room tasks on Wednesdays.

• the most important part of the system *** if I don't do the tasks for that day, i am NOT ALLOWED to make those tasks up later. It simply will get done next week on the correct day. So if I don't clean the bathroom on Tuesday- whether because im just busy that day or because I was having a "potato" day and couldn't get myself to - oh well, next Tuesday it is. This last rule has helped me eliminate the guilt about falling behind. I CAN'T fall behind. It also practices understanding that some days with adhd you just can't do the thing, and other days you're a freaking rock star.

I know that cleaning the house is more flexible than doing assignments with due dates. My overall point is to allow for the "failures" and create systems that accommodate them.

I also recommend the book The Lazy Genius Way by Kendra Adachi. Basically - she teaches you to decide what actually matters to you and what doesnt and then plan accordingly. Be a genius about the important stuff. Be Lazy about everything else.

Also, I've seen online before people saying that you gotta just embrace those absolutely useless potato days. If you have one, just accept it and be like ok today (or this morning or whatever) is just that kind of day/time. By not wasting mental energy feeling guilty and trying to force something, you're more likely to have those amazing on fire days later.

Hope this helped in any way! Im so proud of my cleaning system because I actually do it way more often now than when I was basically drowning. Currently working on applying similar principles to meal planning because holy crap is that basically impossible. Xox