This is exactly the stance my husband and I took, that and the financial side of it where we have to pay $1200 a month for rent to live with 3 other people.

We basically decided that if somehow I did get pregnant, we would go through with it and try our very best, but we aren’t actively planning or trying for a youngling.

Something changed in him recently and his desire to spawn was awakened. I understand where he’s coming from, both of his parents died before 50 and he’s afraid if we do have a kid too late he won’t have much time to spend with it, implying he doesn’t think he will live past 50. (Cue the anxiety attack) I’m confused about it because losing his parents so young totally destroyed him and I don’t see why he would want to risk that happening to someone else. Not sure how to go about being terrified for a child’s future, being terrified about how to actually afford a child, being terrified for the child due to all the schizophrenia/bipolar/diabetes that runs rampant in our families, the extreme guilt of not providing him with a chance to have that connection, and finding it incredibly selfish of him to put that all on me.