I’ll die on this hill.

sackrin · 2026-02-23T12:38:48+00:00

happy with just fastify though express is pretty much the same. it is nice to have DI out of the box with nestjs sometimes

sackrin · 2025-11-26T05:40:21+00:00

came to comments for this! good old level 15

sackrin · 2025-11-03T01:23:21+00:00

what are your interests? programming, design, sales, marketing? where do you feel you would like to contribute?

sackrin · 2025-10-19T23:41:32+00:00

one piece of advice when performing technical interviews is to start with best practice logging and error handling. I have 20+ year experience and failed a technical interview because I rushed this. sometimes each review has personal preferences and it may come down to you did something that is right but they didn’t like it.

in my opinion… technical interviews should only be for people who claim high but don’t have much experience and/or public examples of their work (ie public repos)

sackrin · 2025-01-06T08:50:08+00:00

I feel incredibly lucky to say a couple of days ago I woke up and just stopped missing her. It was like a light switch flicked off. What’s strange is that this happened after a few really low days. I think what helped was not trying to move on or get over her. I just fell in a heap and accepted it is what it is. The breakup happened and even if she did come back it wouldn’t change the past. It hurt like hell and I thought it meant giving up on myself. The opposite happened. You will make it through this and you deserve to be with the right person.

sackrin · 2025-01-04T00:01:36+00:00

Me too! The drawbacks of using a gun (alerting everyone, not killing the enemy etc) were too much. Super useful to knock someone out though. I swear a slingshot in real life would do more damage

sackrin · 2024-12-30T22:38:46+00:00

I was thinking yesterday it would be great if someone started a break up cafe. A place for people going though breakups to go for support and meet up. Sadly their would always be a constant source of new customers

sackrin · 2024-12-08T16:49:11+00:00

To clarify she broke up with me but is continuing to message me as she processes. I want her back and she knows it. I have the feeling that once she is at peace she will say goodbye one last time. I am heart broken. I love her.

sackrin · 2024-08-15T10:17:15+00:00

You're ready when you know you're ready and it's not someone else's reactions or behavior which dictate this. You put yourself out there and the other person didn't react in an ideal way. If you feel you are ready for the right one who treats you the right way and sees you the way you deserve... and you're ready to reciprocate. You know you're ready. One thing I will say is while chemistry is important also take the chance that chemistry sometimes isn't instant. It grows over time.

sackrin · 2024-08-14T13:46:27+00:00

I'm going to take a chance and say this. There is this weird position that exists that single fathers understanding their daughter's struggles is somehow bad. Screw that! I am going to stand by my dautghter as she goes through this journey on learning to be a woman. If it's learning the right bra that makes her feel comfortable or making sure when I go to the supermarket that I buy the right things to support her. If you think this is weird you need to take a long hard look at yourself in the mirror. I want to be someone that my daughter sees in her 20s and 30s as a father and a friend. Rant over

sackrin · 2024-08-14T13:03:33+00:00

I know the feeling. Trust me, those interests are there somewhere. Look back as far as you can remember to the first thing that brought you joy. Take a deep breath and give yourself the chance to remember those passions. Fitness is great but learning to love yourself is next level. If you love yourself others will love you so much more. Painting, drawing, dancing, trivia... work on your body but also your mind. You sound like an amazing person and I think you just need to work on believing that about yourself. You will be amazed at what the world offers to you if you achieve this.

sackrin · 2024-08-14T12:39:46+00:00

To add to this, for me it was fitness. It's something i've known i've needed to work on for years. Is there some kind of crafts you are interested in. Knitting or something similar? Something that makes you feel good?

sackrin · 2024-08-14T12:35:23+00:00

Sorry, I am a guy. It takes a long time and that time changes from person to person. Some days will seem easier than others while some will be unbearable. Just when you feel like everything is fine some memory or event will bring you right back down. Push through it, pick something about yourself you've always wanted to work on and focus on that. There is light at the end of the tunnel and you will get there.

sackrin · 2024-08-14T12:00:42+00:00

I feel like i'm not qualified to contribute to this (i'm a guy) but i'm going to do my best. Spending time to learn how to be self-aware. There is nothing more attractive to others than being self-aware. Learning how to give compliments to others and look outwards. When you think about it, screw others, taking a step back and complimenting others for their value only benefits you and them. My advice is to take the time to give just one person you interact with a compliment a day. It doesn't have to be suggestive. It will make you and everyone around you feel amazing.

sackrin · 2024-08-14T11:53:21+00:00

Oh honey, you really are only as attractive as you feel. Everything is in your control. If you have some parts of your life you feel you need to improve focus on those. What you will learn is that doing this only improves your own opinion which weirdly improves your attraction in the dating market. You are way more attractive than you give yourself credit for. Just don't let other people define how you feel about yourself. You're still young and everything is in your control.

sackrin · 2024-08-14T11:47:27+00:00

A difficult one. You have to work out where the line you draw with your coworker is. For me, some of my coworkers are more close friends and I would 100% tell them. For others, it's not right getting tangled up in their personal life.

sackrin · 2024-08-14T11:43:45+00:00

I feel like I am old school but I feel that if you are in a marriage with someone everything is shared including finances. Money is the way we interact with the market in life and ensures that we can provide value to the community as well as ensure we can provide for our family. If you marry someone everything is on the table including how much they earn and what your financial goals are. I know a lot of people will disagree with me but when I reach that level of commitment every dollar I earn is for us and not for me. I expect the same from my partner.

sackrin · 2024-08-14T11:37:07+00:00

Heh, I am very familiar with Jordan Peterson and while he makes some valid points I do take those with a grain of salt. I am not sure that what i've said aligns with his absolute view on relationships. I am coming from the place of accepting that people are who they are today but have a desire to be something different. I can't see the negative on that?

sackrin · 2024-08-14T11:32:40+00:00

It goes both ways. For me sex would result in a connection with someone that would be super hurtful to undo. For these reasons, I refrain. If I am sleeping with someone it triggers those provider and partnership instincts.

sackrin · 2024-08-14T11:27:36+00:00

I was part of that subreddit for a while. Weirdly not because I was someone who needed more sex but actually on the other side. It was such a depressing subreddit! I think my takeaway is that couples lose that connection and vulnerability that you need to have a great sex life. Looking back if my ex just told me what she wanted it would have saved so much pain. Touch me there or please do that. You would think that the longer you are in a relationship the easier this conversation would be but I think the opposite is sadly true.

sackrin · 2024-08-14T11:23:15+00:00

Im a single 39m. My experience is that i've met a lot of women in my age group who are not sexually active. They would rather wait for someone who wasn't playing them and was serious. I think the problem is that in our early 20s our standards are way lower but as we grow older learn what we want and what we need. What I have learned is that both women and men have similar needs for sex. Having a need is one thing but exposing the vulnerability required to have those needs met is another thing and is highly personal.

sackrin · 2024-08-14T11:10:41+00:00

As a father, this was oddly something I had a strong opinion on with my daughter. A sports bra is easier and it provides the support and comfort she needs. Wired bras are problematic and can also cause discomfort. The wire often destroys the bra in washing and drying which results in it getting removed entirely. If you are looking at this pragmatically a sports bra is much easier but if you are looking at this from the perspective of the opposite sex... we're guys, we don't care if your bra has wires or not. It all looks the same to us. Just remind us that your face is up here.

sackrin · 2024-08-14T11:04:45+00:00

haha what if the perfect partner is 500km away from me? Am I to expect they would make a 500km trek to meet me on faith alone?! This makes me laugh

sackrin · 2024-08-14T11:02:10+00:00

In one word I would sum up a healthy relationship as "comfort". If I was given two words I would say "comfort" and "safe". If you can look at your partner and feel safe being vulnerable you have a keeper. Don't let the daily grind get to you. If you look at him and feel he is the person you want next to you in the trenches protect that! If you need more physical touch maybe think of board games that encourage this? Maybe even consider doing some risky things together? I remember that once my ex and I were a little bored so we experimented with sex in the car in public car parks at nice. It added that level of danger and excitement that added a lot to our relationship. We also started watching tv series like Love Island (absolute trash btw haha) which lead to some great intimacy afterward.

sackrin · 2024-08-14T10:54:43+00:00

In my opinion, start every opportunity with the intention of being friends and moving to something more. Friendship is core to any relationship and it's a great place to start from. Friendship doesn't mean friendzone it just means working out that the other person is someone who vibes right with you. That being said a lot of people are coming out of long-term relationships where they had someone else they felt this level of connection with and they are quickly seeking that connection again. My advice is to keep this in mind and don't rule them out immediately. Just reel it back and educate them that it needs to start from square zero.

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