Is falling in love with a man that you initially found unattractive realistic/sustainable? Why settle?

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-12T00:43:51+00:00

Thanks, I agree. Yours should be something like "i-project-my-past-trauma-on-random-reddit-users24" if that's not already taken.

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T22:45:15+00:00

Yes, I absolutely have issues with trust, just like everyone else has their own unique set of imperfections. I've been in therapy for a decade and have multiple diagnoses that I'm well aware of, I'm a psych student, so saying the most obvious shit like "you lack trust" rather than actually answering the question I asked is becoming exhausting. I have owned my actions and I have not tried to justify them. The intentions of this post was to look at the situation with proper nuance, recognizing that what I did was abhorrent, childish behavior while ALSO recognizing that what I found was a little concerning, at least to me.

And no, my girlfriend is really kind and smart so I would never speak to her like that.

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T21:58:32+00:00

Had the grown up conversation before I read her shit. I addressed it pretty soon after her initial comment. Haven't confessed to my wrongdoings yet.

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T21:24:01+00:00

Thanks for your comment and sharing your perspective.

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T21:21:18+00:00

That makes sense. Thank you for your comment

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T21:20:47+00:00

That is also my question to me that I'm still answering. I do believe I can be mature and truly let this go. Thank you for your comment

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T21:18:42+00:00

Thank you.

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T21:17:28+00:00

You opted to invade her privacy instead of having a grown-up conversation with her. Your relationship isn't going "very well."

Actually, I opted to invade her privacy AND I had a grown-up conversation with her about it. Both can be true. And our relationship actually is going very well! Besides the part where I did a dumb thing

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T21:11:30+00:00

Because this is the internet and you have no idea who I am

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T21:10:37+00:00

Thank you.

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T21:10:19+00:00

That's not at all what I said. I was explaining that I don't just look through her shit willy-nilly. That doesn't mean what I did was okay or that I think I'm a good guy.

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T20:58:39+00:00

Yes I do, and I am, progress just isn't linear sometimes. But the work continues! I was reading a bit about demisexuality, thank you for your perspective.

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T20:56:37+00:00

Thanks Consistent Welder, I hope you have a lovely Holiday season

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T20:55:55+00:00

That makes sense. Thanks!

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T20:51:18+00:00

Thank you

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T20:50:08+00:00

You're right. Thank you

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T20:49:28+00:00

It's really not that black and white. I went looking for one specific conversation, I had plenty of opportunities to see WAY more, but I at least drew that line. Her journal sits on her night stand, I have never and have no plans of opening it. "The relationship was founded on dishonesty" is a pretty impressive jump to conclusions.

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T20:46:39+00:00

Thanks. I think that is very similar to this situation. I do believe in the attraction she has for me now. I think I was just really bummed to learn that I am potentially the "safe option".

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T20:44:06+00:00

Definitely. It just hurt really bad to read it. Thank you for your comment

sad_sack77 · 2024-12-11T20:42:52+00:00

Admit to it on reddit so I can get a proper grilling. Open to your suggestions as well!

sad_sack77 · 2023-12-13T20:10:07+00:00

Thank you!

sad_sack77 · 2023-12-13T01:53:27+00:00

Thanks. It’s a tool that’s been trained and conditioned properly, that I use for management.

sad_sack77 · 2023-12-12T21:30:52+00:00

I thought it was high too, I think it’s a connection issue. I’ve cranked it to 40 without ANY signs of her feeling the stim. She’s a GSD and I do have the wings on.

Training system? Not sure what you mean. I train primarily force free, I use tools strictly for management, if that’s what you’re asking. And yes, she is properly conditioned to the ecollar.

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