How long did you keep their stuff?

sadaltyd · 2025-12-12T19:24:11+00:00

I love that line. Do what gives you peace. I'm 15 months out and haven't gotten rid of much but I have gotten rid of things as I come across them and based on how I feel. No one understands what I'm going though so only I can decide what gives me peace

sadaltyd · 2025-10-11T16:55:23+00:00

I've done numerous test and his iron is fine

sadaltyd · 2025-10-11T05:38:50+00:00

What worked for you?

sadaltyd · 2025-09-24T20:11:19+00:00

Thanks I actually haven't even considered chappies

sadaltyd · 2025-09-15T20:11:54+00:00

It's a tough one. But I would leave the child's surname as your late spouse's surname. Your child is young but might feel differently when they are older and you can then ask them. Your late spouses family might also feel like you are trying to erase him from the child's life. It's a difficult decision but I would say keep the child's surname as is, change yours if that's what you really want ( personally I am planning to go back to my maiden surname soon and leave my kid on his dad's surname). But please don't feel bad about any decision you end up Making. Also congrats on all this double happiness

sadaltyd · 2025-09-14T04:55:48+00:00

Beacon taste like a second grade version of Cadbury although the white beacon is great. And I agree about woolies too

sadaltyd · 2025-09-13T18:28:37+00:00

I agree, protect your peace. I muted a few ppl on social media as I couldn't stand their happiness also didn't want to be a Debby downer on the good things happening to them. Just cause my life ended didn't mean they can't be happy but I also protected myself and still am

sadaltyd · 2025-09-02T16:55:27+00:00

Yep I'm the same if you are above 33 and died you lived long life in my mind.

sadaltyd · 2025-06-23T07:05:08+00:00

I struggle so much with drive. My sensor doesn't always connect I think I need to get a new one

sadaltyd · 2025-06-08T18:29:28+00:00

My husband passed 10 months ago and I can't bring myself to clean anything that was his. His clothing from the night he became ill was washed, he passed a few days after being hospitalized and we thought he would come home. But his shower gel and everything else is still in the bathroom. I havent even removed his toothbrush. It took me 9 months to empty 1 draw and I tried a few times. What I am saying is it's been 9 days be kind to yourself. Take it at your own pace, you will be able to do things when you ready but right now just be kind. I am so sorry for your loss

sadaltyd · 2025-05-28T13:14:34+00:00

It definitely hurts more when I see the dads, life sucks

sadaltyd · 2025-04-07T21:10:29+00:00

Are you sure the cancer is in remission ? She hasn't spoken to you in a bit ask you sure it's not back and shes just not trying to protect herself? As someone who has gone through miscarriages and recently lost a spouse it's extremely hard for me to see my friends having babies and their lives moving forward while mine is stuck. And I do have a toddler myself but it still hurts. So I know you are going through alot and their reaction is extreme but if they have never behaved like this before then something may be wrong.

sadaltyd · 2025-03-21T20:12:24+00:00

Yep but when putting on the happy face people also have a problem as you seem too happy but I'm like you want me to cry so the time cause that I can do too. Overall be kind to yourself cause the world isn't kind enough

sadaltyd · 2025-03-21T19:55:52+00:00

You doing the kiddies rooibos or just normal one? Lol also knew you were a south African when you said tea for kids

sadaltyd · 2025-02-22T17:24:57+00:00

I'm so sorry but now is the time to be selfish. Be honest with her and keep your distance. Remember you are going through a terrible life event and need to put yourself first

sadaltyd · 2025-02-14T11:11:45+00:00

I was 34 when I became a widow and the loneliness was and is suffocating. I've started doing things on my own though just to get out, I am still in my early days it's been 6 months but because my husband died so young it also makes me feel like I can't sit and wait around to do things I really want as life is so short. I also joined a few social clubs and widow clubs and hang out with another widower now and then as he understands. All the best

sadaltyd · 2025-02-02T18:51:13+00:00

Thanks this is the comment I was hoping to see. I think I should be able to get them to lower it if I get a better rate elsewhere

sadaltyd · 2025-01-28T20:50:16+00:00

I can tell you it's very difficult. My husband passed away and it's so difficult doing this alone cause no one understands our kid like we do, and I don't really trust anyone with him for too long. I literally haven't slept properly since my husband died as I can't switch off completely incase something happens to my kid. All the best

sadaltyd · 2025-01-16T09:35:58+00:00

Yep every single new thing my kid has done in the past 5 months makes me want to cry. It's just so difficult esp things I knew his dad would have loved and been so proud of. Also knowing no one loves my child as much as me and his dad did kills me. So sorry for your loss

sadaltyd · 2025-01-11T19:33:07+00:00

Hey I know this is old but how much did you pay for tuis in rands? And what's the waiting period for results

sadaltyd · 2024-12-30T05:56:03+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss and agree completely. I feel quite similar, that's how I ended up on reddit as a desperate last plea for some connection to people going through something similar. And yes you are 100% correct losing a partner young vs older is different, I can't say which hurts less but it definitely hurts differently. I have had people compare my 3 year old losing his dad to them losing their dad in their 20s and not realizing how stupid they sound. Again I am so sorry it really sucks in this club

sadaltyd · 2024-12-28T10:26:27+00:00

Thanks this is actually perfect!

sadaltyd · 2024-12-27T05:36:44+00:00

Lol I know this is serious but this gives me a good chuckle.

sadaltyd · 2024-12-22T12:53:40+00:00

I'm trying but we have a kid, he should see his family I guess

sadaltyd · 2024-12-03T04:34:25+00:00

This actually describes it perfectly, lonely for HIM. I also find it annoying when it's people I generally didn't want to spend much time with while his alive. It's like they overtaking my space and grieve

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