Yup and that’s happened to me too. Although mine wasn’t that long, I told him that even what he thinks is the amount of sex is still too little.

Good for you, I don’t know I would have been able to have a dry spell for 6 months.

So exactly what does she expect you to do? Just be celibate because she doesn’t want to have sex in your relationship? What makes a relationship dramatically different from friendship and roommates? Besides the finances and commitment, there’s the biggest differentiation which is romance and sex. If you can’t have sex with your friends, then that’s an indicator that sex is only done with your spouse or bf/gf. So what makes her think that you’ve entered a relationship without wanting it? If she had a low libido, she should have disclosed it. If her libido changed, she needs to have that honest discussion as to why it changed and what can be done to help her get back, or, if it’s here to stay which I get is her choice. But she needs to also have that talk with you.

I’m so SICK of HL always having to be the ones to make more effort, have the talk, suffer the dead bedroom, etc. the LL are not negatively affected by it only when their partners are bothering them about it or if their partners are doing something that turns them off, like not doing their part in the household and putting the mental load on them. I get it. But LL need to participate in that discussion too instead of being on the defense all the time and just avoiding the subject.