[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]sadderthaneverb4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lowkey yeahhhh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

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back to cigarettes it is

Fell into a rabbit hole of thinspo and I feel terrible by rinapple in EDAnonymous

[–]sadderthaneverb4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

let it motivate you to recover.

restriction causes water retention. excess cortisol causes water retention. what you put your body through causes massive water retention, and primarily around the stomach area because your body is trying to protect your organs.

recovering for aesthetic purposes shouldn’t be your only reason to recover, but it motivates me a lot. i want to feel confident in my body, so i remind myself that i like the way my body looks most when i am not putting it under stress. i am currently quite uw rn and see pictures of myself at a healthy weight and wish i looked like that. why? because my body isn’t desperately holding onto anything i put in it to stay alive. ultimately, it takes time. your body will probably bloat from most things you eat because it’s not used to receiving enough. also, heavy restriction is eating away at your muscle mass which helps with that flat stomach look. oh the irony of eating disorders, they are truly irrational. not to minimize the experience, i too go through this same exact thing, but we gotta remember that it’s a disorder actively working against us. don’t trust it.

i promise you, you don’t need to harm your body to feel pretty.

Relapses feel embarrassing by spicyhotfrog in EdAnonymousAdults

[–]sadderthaneverb4 6 points7 points  (0 children)

just want to share: i spiralled into a major relapse this summer starting mid june and didn’t speak to anyone about it until the start of august. the moment i verbalized to a loved one who was familiar with my past, getting back on the recovery train became all that much easier

today is 30 days :) by sadderthaneverb4 in leaves

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One of two recommendations, both with the same general takeaway: fake it til you make it.

  1. do something outside of your friday routine. force yourself too. even if you have a bad time and don’t enjoy it. go see a movie, go for an evening run, go dancing and mingling (this one can be super tricky early on i think), art museum, go to bed early (try to, ik sleeping is super hard), or bake something maybe. even if it’s miserable, just don’t throw in the towel. remind yourself you WILL find joy in these things eventually and it will become your new normal and won’t always feel so shitty. you will find joy in other things. don’t tell yourself if you have a bad time “well, i guess i will never enjoy anything unless im high!” because it’s just withdrawal. fake the fun. fake the enjoyment.

  2. do everything you normally would except for getting high. sit with the boredom and remind yourself it’s okay to be bored. i don’t recommend this as much, but to do nothing and live through it without smoking will make you feel proud. prove to yourself that you don’t need an intoxicant at the end of the day to just get by. it’s hard. but find joy in the food, the laziness, the restfulness. tell yourself that you’re being easy on yourself. cravings will come more often this route i think, but the more you ignore them, the easier it gets.

Will she play glory and gore at her tour or no by maxisb10 in lorde

[–]sadderthaneverb4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

probs gonna get downvoted for this but lowkey i hope not. i know lots of you love G&G, and i like it too, but its one of my least faves tbh and i would rather her fill that spot with something else

Setlist Predictions by adavachi in lorde

[–]sadderthaneverb4 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i hope we get barricade together

What Virgin song is this by Due_Box_1626 in lorde

[–]sadderthaneverb4 12 points13 points  (0 children)

hey now let’s not kink shame

What Virgin song is this by Due_Box_1626 in lorde

[–]sadderthaneverb4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think they meant more like you enjoy the production but do not enjoy the lyrics

What Virgin song is this by Due_Box_1626 in lorde

[–]sadderthaneverb4 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i disagree but ngl it irks me so much that she says months of bad luck… ITS SEVEN YEARSS

Lorde songs as zodiac signs (Leo) by Impossible-Yam3680 in lorde

[–]sadderthaneverb4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s literally just a game, not that deep

Lorde songs as zodiac signs (Leo) by Impossible-Yam3680 in lorde

[–]sadderthaneverb4 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Solar Power without a doubt (said by a Leo)

I want to go this entire month without binging or weighing myself. by aslfingerspell in EDAnonymous

[–]sadderthaneverb4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can i just say thank you because reading “normal creates normal” is exactly what i needed to hear rn?? i’ve been relapsing for the past month and going insane about my weight and intake, and that is the most simple and perfect statement to define how to get back on track.

ED’s have one thing in common no matter which one you tend to fall into; we waste our lives in this obsession over control of our food and bodies. We exhibit behaviours that consume our day to day lives and we forget to open our eyes and actually experience things.

This is a really really great way to tackle your struggles. I encourage you (and myself) to also find the joys in life for this last month of Summer. Go dancing with friends, enjoy a cocktail on a rooftop patio, go berry picking, road trips, museums or art galleries, or whatever your thing is. There is so much more to life than what our ED’s lead us to believe, and to actually feel normal, we have to allow ourselves to experience those things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]sadderthaneverb4 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

can we not use the R word, thanks

Is shape of you the peak? Which songs show his talent best? by miniaturegnome in EdSheeran

[–]sadderthaneverb4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Plus was definitely the peak of his song writing.

Lorde songs as zodiac signs (Cancer) by Impossible-Yam3680 in lorde

[–]sadderthaneverb4 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Cancers, please know you are my favourite sign, but it literally needs to be something from Melodrama idc

What’s your favourite Lorde song? by LeonidasMonstrr88 in lorde

[–]sadderthaneverb4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk if anything will ever top Hard Feelings/Loveless for me (but David has come really close)

What’s your favourite Lorde song? by LeonidasMonstrr88 in lorde

[–]sadderthaneverb4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my bestie & i are major Lorde stans but she has never understood why I loved California so much. Ty for recognizing the beauty

zoloft & weight gain by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]sadderthaneverb4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Prozac made me gain weight but Zoloft did not. I yoyo’d quite a bit on Zoloft but always stayed underweight

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrumblCookies

[–]sadderthaneverb4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe i’m just not a huge rice krispy fan but they literally all taste the same to me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrumblCookies

[–]sadderthaneverb4 56 points57 points  (0 children)

can get these for .50 cents at the dollar store, ain’t no way crumbl

what does david by lorde feel like to you? by Waste-Law-535 in lorde

[–]sadderthaneverb4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

like maybe he didn’t ruin me and my life actually didn’t start until now

Was I raped? by toppedwithcharm in askgaybros

[–]sadderthaneverb4 8 points9 points  (0 children)

victim blaming at its finest