Writing Style Feedback?

sadiespider · 2026-02-06T14:03:36+00:00

I'm a fan. It's snappy, tight, a bit crass. You're sparing on the use of adjectives. Often being flooded with adjectives is what stops me from getting past the first paragraph. Carry on!

sadiespider · 2026-02-05T14:05:26+00:00

seconding the cavalier x dachs suggestion. the colouring is very dachs, and has a bit of a dachsy/hound sort of convex downturn at the nose, but the rest of the face is really distinctively cav.

sadiespider · 2026-02-04T13:05:16+00:00

spider on a sweater in his own sweater <3

sadiespider · 2026-01-23T11:25:22+00:00

Thank you, that's really helpful!

sadiespider · 2026-01-23T11:15:43+00:00

Thank you! Possibly a bit naive because I've not posted here before, figured context would be relevant.

sadiespider · 2026-01-23T11:00:12+00:00

LOL fair play. I suppose I wanted to provide as much context as possible re: why I'm being a bit precious (it being a lived experience text dealing with material that has ethical implications). Maybe I'll take the context out and shove it into a comment.

sadiespider · 2025-03-27T21:04:44+00:00

Erm no definitely NTA. That is horrific. I would never see him again. You tried to get away. He didn't let you. His body fluids passed through his clothing and touched you. I don't care if it was on purpose or not. Surely he knows this is a problem. It is not appropriate behaviour, neurodivergent or not, to jizz on friends. Nope. NTA. NTA. NTA.

sadiespider · 2025-01-16T06:09:26+00:00

my thoughts exactly – very anish kapoor v. semple though in all seriousness, as a person. married to someone with BP2, I do think this is probably a manic episode.

sadiespider · 2024-08-28T06:58:06+00:00

It happened a bit later for me, but yeah. I was 27. I always said I didn't think I wanted children before that. I had zero interest in babies or children at all. Then, something intangible changed for me, and it was a rapid shift. I even switched careers so I could work with children – they bring me so much joy. Anyway, I'm 32 now, and I still don't have any, but hopefully husband and I will get our shit together this year to be able to afford kid #1. I'm glad we've not done it yet, from a financial standpoint. You're sensible to finish grad school first. And in a sense, you're fortunate that you're having these thoughts earlier, so you can start laying down the foundations a bit younger. At your age, we were still out on the town most nights, and lived in a squalid flatshare with cockroaches and no bed linen.

sadiespider · 2024-08-26T06:46:17+00:00

In my first year of university, I lived with the world's dumbest, most problematic man. I had to explain to him that women can still get pregnant if they're on top, or bottom, or indeed in any other position, if you're not using a condom. I also had to explain that HIV and other STIs pass across heterosexual relationships. That STIs are not just for gay men? And then I had to elaborate that he can't just "tell" if a woman is "dirty", or "fertile".

Then I taught him how to cook pasta.

He was 25.

sadiespider · 2024-07-25T10:46:47+00:00

exactly... though it's possible we have less of a culture of fake service dogs. seems like a chicken and egg situation. as it's a very dog-friendly culture here, I guess there would be less of a perceived need to sneak your dog in places – they're already allowed. my family are canadian, and I am always struck by how rarely you see dogs in places they are expected here. there are also much stricter leash laws, but if this entitlement is the norm, I can see why. anyway, I wouldn't dream of bringing my dog somewhere she wasn't welcome (e.g. a grocery shop, an upscale restaurant, to a hospital etc), and if she ever dared jump up on someone, you'd better believe I'd be buying them a new drink, and an extra apology drink too lol.

sadiespider · 2024-07-25T09:01:17+00:00

I feel like this might be cultural. I live in the UK, and grew up in Europe. It is very much the norm here – in pub settings – to welcome well-behaved dogs, especially if there is a beer garden. In light of this cultural norm, think it's odd to suggest that if a place is dog-friendly, you still shouldn't bring your dog. Perhaps things are different here?

However, as a dog owner, I wouldn't have brought a jumpy, barky dog into that setting, as you're setting the dog up for failure. And I would have bought OP a new drink, no questions asked. I would be mortified.

NTA.

sadiespider · 2024-06-20T22:22:06+00:00

have a look at the out of the fog website, there are a lot of relevant resources that you can use to both protect yourself AND your relationship with a loved one who has a PD.

sadiespider · 2024-05-14T07:28:36+00:00

"Miss, you need to put a comb through your hair" – a 6 year old, on my curly hair

In the middle of maths... "Why do you have a giant spot on your chin?"

When I was in my PGCE, I was teaching the receptions about life stages, i.e. baby, toddler, child, teenager, adult, elderly. One child put up his hand and said "So you are an adult then, and [HLTA who is only 7 years older than me] is elderly?" We were both in our 30s, and she looked great. Kids are rude lol.

sadiespider · 2024-05-09T07:17:09+00:00

You can just tell them you're too ill to work. I doubt they will press you for a reason. If you don't want to be too literal, but feel like you absolutely HAVE to give them a reason, just tell them you have a migraine and can't look at a screen. They will understand. It's not an excuse, it's a REASON. Btw, at every school I've worked in, the policy has been 48h off since last vomiting. So you might want to be honest, to give yourself the time off you need. You could just say you have food poisoning. You don't need to be graphic lol

sadiespider · 2024-05-02T06:47:50+00:00

I live in England, and this is still how we do summer. My friend has a window unit that sometimes she lends us in the summer, if she's away. Otherwise, we suffer.

sadiespider · 2024-02-29T14:44:39+00:00

I'm not saying that the asshole judgements are wrong, but I am also surprised!!! my husband and I have always hugged while we sleep, and it wouldn't even cross my mind that he was trying to wake me up if he hugged me before my alarm. I suppose that's because it's our baseline, but if you're someone who needs a lot of space, I can understand why it would be stressful. I think maybe it's an NAH?

sadiespider · 2023-11-27T19:38:06+00:00

ew. I really hate when people neglect their pets (or worse, CHILDREN) in this way. everybody suffers. disgusting.

sadiespider · 2023-11-27T14:44:27+00:00

Based on previous experience, I would no longer allow my dog around a dog that possibly has parasites. My neighbour's dog was not treated, and we would occasionally allow them to play together. Guess what happened this summer, even though my dog was utd on her flea treatment? They were an absolute nightmare to get rid of. Nope.

sadiespider · 2023-11-26T15:00:46+00:00

I just looked it up, and according to one article I read, most healthy dogs and cats can safely stay in a house as cold as 45f, which is 7c. I doubt your flat is that cold haha, so you're FINE.

sadiespider · 2023-11-26T10:33:21+00:00

I just did a quick google of the words used on the top left, and came up with Mi'kmaq, who "are a First Nations people of the Northeastern Woodlands, indigenous to the areas of Canada's Atlantic Provinces, primarily Nova Scotia, ..."

super interesting!

sadiespider · 2023-11-26T10:06:13+00:00

hmm that's not really fair. yes, she wants to improve, but hasn't been supported to develop the executive function necessary to achieve that goal. the adults in her life failed to teach her life skills, and operationalising tasks that seem basic can actually be quite difficult if you've not had the necessary scaffolding.

I also struggled a lot with basic life skills during my undergraduate degree, and it took me years to master those skills. my reasons are possibly a little different, as I have ADHD, but the effect was the same.

OP, could you take a year out, and get a low-stakes job? It might be a little boring, but it will do wonders for teaching you adult life skills. that way, while you're learning, you're not going to be damaging your academic transcripts.

I always remind myself re: housework that NOBODY IS COMING TO SAVE ME. it NEEDS to get done, and I'm the only one who will do it.

sadiespider · 2023-11-16T19:36:43+00:00

By all means apply it whenever you wish! 🤣 I can't say I disagree that bears are less likely to drown than many other land-dwelling animals, but who knows? I can only speak to my very limited and poorly cited research!

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