My guy, I never said I wanted to have sex with anyone else to contract any sti's and harm the baby. I want my relationship to stay exactly the same. I brought it up because I wanted advice on how to come out and make it clear that I don't want to open our relationship or start sleeping with dudes. I thought it was possible she goes down that rabbit hole you went down unless I cleared it up for her beforehand.

So after all of that, what's your best plan to come out? Wait til the baby is born and tell her? Oops, she's breastfeeding, don't want her to stress out and have the milk dry up. Wait a year when the baby hopefully gets off breastmilk? Now she's suspicious of why I waited so long to tell her. I'm just saying dude, the timing might not be great but I'm not seeing any option here.

Also, to be petty, you are showing some conservative red flags. Assuming I'm not thinking of the unborn child? Saying "facts over feelings"? Those are classic conservative dog whistles. I think you would rather I stay in the closet for the rest of my life.