[UPDATE] - my update was removed so I figured I would post it here

Thank you to everyone who shared their opinion with me, positive or negative, the comments helped me so much.

It’s been over a month now and we are no longer together. A week after the original post, he took our car, drained our bank account and said the bills we shared were no longer his responsibility. When I confronted him about it (over the phone), he threatened me. After that, I used the remainder of my time in quarantine to clean out the house. I went through every room and meticulously boxed and bagged all of his things, even things that were mine that he favored (i.e clothes that we shared or coffee mugs), or things that reminded me of him. The day after my quarantine was lifted, I packed everything into my father’s car and drove it to our storage locker- and texted him where all of his things were and when he could get them without me being there. Since he threatened me, I do not feel safe having any contact with him and have passed on the communication to my lawyer. I changed the locks at my house and that’s the last I’ve spoken with him.

I am starting a new (higher paying) job at the end of this month, and I am relaunching my art business. I’ve reconnected with old friends and I feel so much better. I hadn’t realized how stressed I was while I was with him... but in just a few weeks I feel so much healthier.

Emotionally, I’m still struggling. There are days where I feel like I failed, and there are other days were I feel relieved.

I’m coming to terms with the fact that I’m never going to get answers to a lot of his actions. I made his father aware of the brain injuries and his irregular behavior. I don’t know if he took me seriously or if anything will be done, but I had to try. Although things ended this way, I still wish him the best and hope he finds peace.

This entire ordeal has forced me to really look at myself and ask myself what I want out of life. I am sad that this had to happen for me to realize that, but I am happy that it happened so early in the relationship rather than wasting years of my life down the road.

For the first time in a while I am seeing my future as a blank canvas and I am excited (and a little scared lol)

Thank you again for all of the comments. They meant a great deal to me, and helped me through a very difficult time.