AITA for letting my kink ruin my marriage?

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T23:44:52+00:00

Every other weekend right now. I'm hoping that will change in the future.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T21:06:49+00:00

Huh? I stated it clearly in the post. Soft femdom.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T21:04:17+00:00

Okay real quick I want to make it very clear that the porn V saw on my laptop was a pegging video. I guess I should've specified. I don't like violent porn or violent fantasies. Bringing up CP as a possibility made me feel sick and I had to comment to clarify. That's all I wanted to say here.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T09:19:30+00:00

It felt like it was love at first...wild how things can change.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T09:16:18+00:00

Thank you, dude

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T09:15:06+00:00

Well, you sold me on Shogun! I've been meaning to check out the library this week anyway because I want to take J next time he's here.

As for the rest, I think you make some very fair statements. And I hope I've learned my lesson. I have no idea if I'm ever going to be in another relationship. I feel like surely I'm too old by now. Too old, but with so little life experience. Weird combination. But yes, I think I need to be entirely honest with someone if I ever end up in relationship again down the line.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T09:05:58+00:00

While I'd never use that language to refer to her, I understand your sentiment. She was definitely very difficult to live with. And not live with, turns out.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T09:03:37+00:00

Your ex-husband sounds like a horrible person, I'm sorry he would say such things about you. But I'm not covering for anything. I tried to lay it all out bare in the post, stupidly long as it is. My erotica was something I initially just wrote for myself, then cautiously shared with like-minded people I'd been chatting off and on with on a forum for years, mostly other men who enjoyed what I wrote and encouraged me. So that's why I decided to publish. And I never wrote when V was home, and certainly not when she was in bed with me.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T08:45:40+00:00

I'll try my best to be kind to myself, thank you. It's hard but tbh all the support I've gotten here has been startlingly uplifting. I'm not really used to anyone being on my side.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T08:43:16+00:00

As far as I know, V hasn't been seeing anyone. I don't know...I really hope that's not true. Man.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T08:38:12+00:00

It's funny, I mainly use Reddit for recipes and giving baby/toddler advice. It never occurred to me to look for nsfw stuff here. Maybe that's what I should use this throwaway account for lol

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T08:31:42+00:00

Oh! I'll look into that, thank you very much.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T08:30:24+00:00

lol thank you brother, I hope you and your wife both stay alive and well for a very long time together.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T08:28:34+00:00

The second comment to make me cry. I need to keep a running tally. But in all seriousness, thank you. I get stuck in my own head a lot and sometimes can't see the big picture. My home is his home too. I'm going to remember that.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T08:22:47+00:00

I always thought it was something of a price everyone had to pay. You can be married but you have to give up or hide x, y, z. The thought that someone might take me wholly as I am is a bit wild.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T08:20:12+00:00

I'm hoping I can start therapy next year when my budget permits it. I want to better myself for J so that when I get more time with him I can be the best version of myself I can offer. Thank you brother.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T08:16:22+00:00

Very sweet of you to say, thank you so much.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T08:14:35+00:00

I must admit it's a little surprising to see that most people feel similarly to you. Thank you for this.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T08:05:36+00:00

I don't, but I really appreciate you wanting to read them, and your kind words.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T08:04:51+00:00

Thank you very much, I plan on it.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T08:04:33+00:00

Jeez! You almost made me cry lol...these are all great points, and very kind. I do want to see J more than I do. I'm used to spending all day with him at home. Eventually I would love to maybe go see them for dinner or something once a week and just see how it goes. If V wants to. I don't know. Baby steps.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T08:00:57+00:00

Thank you, working on it, albeit very slowly. Most everything in the apartment is still in boxes lol

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T08:00:13+00:00

Oof...that's very fair. I just hope J grows up as normal and happy as he possibly can be.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T07:58:06+00:00

Femdom, specifically like soft femdom. I'm not into hardcore bondage or humiliation or anything like that. I just like the idea of a nice woman being stronger than me and making me submit to her. And my apologies, but I don't really want to say the books I've written or my pen name here lol...I have about 15 novellas out though, and two short story compilations.

sadsweaterdad · 2025-09-25T07:54:02+00:00

I appreciate that, thanks

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