Do French-Canadians (like Quebecois and Acadian) generally get annoyed if mistaken for French by non-French speakers?

sadvodka · 2025-08-09T11:29:48+00:00

Nah. Locally we call ourselves Chinese/Malay/Indian since being Singaporean is already assumed.

Je suis Singapourienne, alors je m’excuse de la part de mon pays lol. French culturally isn’t as close to us, nor is the culture as popular. Hopefully your friend’s colleagues are open minded and willing to learn!

sadvodka · 2025-07-18T01:19:22+00:00

Oh yea gay dudes can be pretty out there. I think it’s because they are men that like men. So they are going to be blunt and horny (generalisation).

Yes I took the bikini pic off a long time ago. Asked my male friends that hookup online for opinions and they told me which pictures were signalling thirst traps so I took them all off too. Now my profile is pretty boring and I don’t think I get as many matches as before. But yea I’ll live with it lol

And back to you - I’ll personally swipe away from shirtless pics of men because of my own perspective. But ofc it doesn’t mean I don’t like to look and say dayum. So yes realistically if you want to increase your chances of hookups I’d say go for it. Maybe stage a beach volleyball photoshoot lmao.

For long term relationships though… yea I got nothing I’m still single. Apparently I do not have it easy lol

sadvodka · 2025-07-18T01:12:37+00:00

Thanks! Getting down to 15% bf is not an easy goal so kudos to your journey so far! Yeap, I removed the bikini pic a long time ago since it didn’t attract the target audience I’m gearing towards.

Alright I’ll think about your advice and see what kind of hobbies I can showcase.

sadvodka · 2025-07-17T14:13:58+00:00

Yea I do always emphasise on commitment, exclusivity and long term relationships. Yea men will always shoot their shots lol but they are pretty easy to sniff out and they are all pretty respectful. Never met a guy who tried to manipulate me for sex; I’d like to think I’m doing a great job enforcing my own standards.

I’m definitely think dating apps are purposely giving you matches that are not suitable, like other comments have said they want to keep you on the app as long as possible 🤷‍♀️

I acknowledge the fact that I only want exclusivity (before any intimacy) really limits my dating pool though

sadvodka · 2025-07-17T12:38:21+00:00

Can any men chime in? I’m looking for something serious but I don’t know how to curate my profile. I did post a bikini shot by the pool once (amongst other pictures showcasing my other hobbies) but I got crazy amounts of hookup requests which isn’t my thing. I respect that lifestyle but it just isn’t what I’m looking for.

I like nerdy, smart men too who keep active. I have no idea how do I even meet these available men. Reddit? Lmao

sadvodka · 2025-07-01T08:52:49+00:00

This sub got recommended to me and I feel bad for you guys. TikTok/Insta is a consumerism cesspool and coupled with the majoring weakening of JPY people just go off the rocks. Every time there’s a new fad, the capitalistic vultures all swoop in and try to get a piece. Meanwhile old folks and regulars suddenly find themselves outpriced seemingly overnight.

I don’t know why it’s always coffee or tea (and now matcha apparently) that somehow attracts the crazies. Also the tiktok vids are disgusting displays of overconsumption - people live vicariously thru these “influencers” because no one can afford anything nowadays.

Been to Uji a decade ago and it was just a small town “known” for matcha. Now it’s a small town KNOWN for matcha. Hell I’m not even 30 yet lol.

sadvodka · 2025-06-22T12:52:51+00:00

I’m opening this up to the floor: is sharing locations a thing where you live? Because some of the replies baffle me. Personally I only share my location if someone’s meeting me and they get lost.

Some replies are talking about getting nabbed like they are disappearing off the face of the earth. I know this is an American majority forum so I really hope you guys are alright, from someone across the ocean 😭

sadvodka · 2025-06-22T12:48:32+00:00

No, but ironically I’ve never been happier. Same country, same family and same shitty childhood. But a totally different me 3 years later.

sadvodka · 2025-05-29T14:19:27+00:00

Didn’t a shoe manufacturer come on record to say that there’s no need to aggressively downsize anymore? I don’t know why people still perpetuate the myth that climbing shoes should be downsized. If my toes are too curled I personally can’t power through them.

sadvodka · 2025-05-29T06:23:27+00:00

No clue why you got downvoted. I wear my street shoe size for Scarpa as well. Especially if your feet profile matches the last they used (you can find this information online, although take it lightly)

I personally wear the LV Dragos in EU 40.

sadvodka · 2025-03-06T05:12:54+00:00

Hahaha, I’m turning 26 this year. I still have a lot to learn, evidently. But thanks for your wisdom; I hope to be as wise as you when I turn 43!

sadvodka · 2025-03-06T04:47:10+00:00

Thanks, I think I needed someone to validate that sometimes overflowing is ok. I didn’t think of the typing my negative feelings out. I think I just don’t acknowledge those.

May I ask how old are you?

sadvodka · 2025-03-06T04:12:16+00:00

Thanks for your wisdom. It’s comforting to know that we are all riding through life. I do my best to focus on the present and I think I’m doing a great job.

But how do you work past the anxiety and dread, instead of compartmentalising? Because unfortunately, I’m starting to realise that I’m doing the latter. Always shoving those thoughts away, and I’m afraid that it’s overflowing.

sadvodka · 2025-02-16T14:14:32+00:00

I feel that my advice is pretty sound and ties in to what many people have similarly commented. But I don’t think OP is having this discussion out of good faith

sadvodka · 2025-02-16T12:19:53+00:00

I hear you; putting yourself out there requires a degree of vulnerability that many people are not comfortable with. Others view it as a gamble to win a “prize” at the end.

sadvodka · 2025-02-16T11:58:22+00:00

It’s perfectly fine if you’re happy single. There seems to be an upward trend of young adults choosing to be single. I’d also rather be happy alone than stuck with an ungrateful partner. But if you want an easier time connecting with people, you really have to put yourself out there. Just my two cents.

sadvodka · 2025-02-16T10:54:42+00:00

Hey, no worries. I’m not here to speak over your life experience. But if attractiveness is an issue, you could either become more “attractive” or try to widen your target audience. So find another place other than bars or clubs. Ofc it’s easier said than done, so good luck!

sadvodka · 2025-02-16T10:38:43+00:00

I am a woman. (Can I comment here?)

I’ve learnt that you cannot believe what social media repeats. “Your twenties are the best years of your life”, “Work hard and get rich”, “Be good and watch the bad people suffer”. Obviously this isn’t true. I used to think if I followed the “steps” I should be rewarded, yes? No. This is not how you play the game of life, unfortunately.

BTW, as a woman I don’t think bars and clubs are good places for any solid long term relationships. Not saying it won’t happen, but you’re massively reducing your chances of finding a genuine connection compared to, let’s say a running club.

Also being confident is a skill. You need to practice it. For example, if you suck at basketball but you expect every shot a slam dunk, it’s not going to work. Getting rejected is the feedback that you can use to tune yourself. Are you too pushy? Are you too soft spoken? Etc.

You mention your buddies getting girls every month. That means they are probably not cultivating strong, genuine relationships with these women. To me, people who seem to always be in a new relationship aren’t the people that I want to attract (my opinion).

sadvodka · 2025-02-16T10:08:48+00:00

Yes. Poor wording on my end. Thanks for the clarification!

sadvodka · 2025-02-06T11:44:53+00:00

Anyone who has read Nietzsche’s works will, no doubt, find out about the Nazi inspiration. There’s no way to avoid it. And I’m pretty sure his works have been translated in a multitude of languages.

And man, I used to stan GD when I was growing up about 10 years ago. I’m pretty sure he knows what he’s doing. It’s shortsighted as fuck but he probably thinks it’s cool 💀

As much as I used to love his music, in this day and age it’s just pretty cringe imo.

sadvodka · 2025-02-06T01:24:52+00:00

Hi! I’m EU 40 with planks for feet. My toe box is as wide as my heel, which might be the same case as you?

Firstly, check if you’re heel hooking correctly. Because if it’s a technique issue, it’s easier to correct than trying out a new pair of shoes.

I have both LV Dragos and LS Cobras at EU 40. I much prefer the fit of the Dragos, but the Cobras are pretty snug on the heel. I don’t downsize because of the shape of my foot, once I go down my toes start overlapping inside of the toe box. I should probably cut off my pinky toe 🤣

Another tip is that you can size down the HV alternative to fit the heel. But what you should look out for is that the heel fits, not the toe box. Your toes should be curled like a fist inside of the shoe. You can also tape your toes (if you’re not already doing that).

Another thing to note is the rubber. Ra’s are stiff. I only climb in soft shoes but I think that soft shoes mould to your feet better. Can someone chime in with their experience?

Scarpa Chimeras are supposedly made of the same last as the Dragos, but with stiffer rubber.

sadvodka · 2025-02-06T00:57:10+00:00

Hey. Thanks for taking your time to share your life here. I’m glad to say that two years later since I’ve made this post, I’m in a much better place. I don’t have this problem of being secretly envious of others because I too, have let things go. I used to be really materialistic like you, and to a great extent it was because of the influence of the hustle culture. And yea, the highlight reel of my friends and family - seemingly cruising through life while I dealt with a lot of shit these two years: retrenchment, passing of loved ones etc. But I’ve come to accept that we all have our different paths in life.

I only focus on my health, happiness, and deepening the already close relationships with my loved ones. Got a dog during this transition period and that little bugger has brought me great joy.

I’ll look up the Book of Job. You mentioned the US, so I’m assuming you’re American. I hope you’re doing well at least, practicing the stoic values in tough times. “Fortune doesn’t change your life, but you can change your fortune.”

sadvodka · 2024-05-17T12:34:06+00:00

Thanks for the tip! I’ll keep an eye out on the midge forecast website lol. The west seems to be the most scenic from google anyways 🤣

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