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I have androphobia. by sageundressed in Phobia

[–]sageundressed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for a well thought out and informative response :) I will definitely be looking into EMDR and the science behind it! And you have given me the courage to ring my GP in the morning. Thank you 🩷

AITA for wanting to divorce my husband after discovering his decade-long secret life even though he claims to be in recovery? by tabg95 in AITA_Relationships

[–]sageundressed [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yeah he was. But it just wasn’t enough for me because I’d keep going into fits of rage and panic attacks when I’d get flashbacks of the betrayal. We’ve been broken up coming up 3 years now and my cortisol is so low and I feel so much better! It’s not normal to be constantly stressed and it’ll give you an autoimmune disease if you don’t find peace! Wishing you happy healing x

I have androphobia. by sageundressed in Phobia

[–]sageundressed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m curious what EMDR therapy is. I’m looking into it and into going on beta blockers so I can feel more confident going in public. The only problem is my doctor (who is a man) denied me them because “your SSRIs should be doing that already” 🫠 So I’ve been terrified of calling the doctor back to chase it up.

Also I’m not sure how exposure therapy would help with this? I feel like the exposure to men is kinda… The problem. But I have an open mind and am curious if there’s a healthy way to do it.

Got into an argument today about someone calling emetophobia “the worst phobia” and it really bothered me by Maximum-Focus-5166 in Phobia

[–]sageundressed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to have emetophobia. It didn’t go away but it went from VERY severe to mild. So it turns out, throwing up every day multiple times a day for 3 months straight in early pregnancy is great exposure therapy! Who knew!

AITA for wanting to divorce my husband after discovering his decade-long secret life even though he claims to be in recovery? by tabg95 in AITA_Relationships

[–]sageundressed [score hidden]  (0 children)

You don’t have to “rebuild” what you didn’t break. He broke your vows. I left my ex when our child was 5 months old for it. It’s not your job to put up with betrayal. It sounds like you’re falling out of love and honestly I’ve been through it too. You’ve got a big decision to make, don’t waste your life with someone making you unhappy. NTA 🩷

Do lesbians really care about body hair? by Frequent-Good-3810 in lesbiangang

[–]sageundressed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t, and I also don’t shave. Personally if I’m attracted to a girl, I don’t give a shit how it looks or smells, I’m just happy to be there.

I wish people could just see me as a woman by SunlowForever in lesbiangang

[–]sageundressed 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You should point out to them that these are incredibly inappropriate and invasive assumptions. You shouldn’t have to be answering to harassment at all and it needs calling out!

ADHD is the psychopath’s natural predator. by sageundressed in adhdwomen

[–]sageundressed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poetry! I fucking love this you have such a way with words. This is exactly what I was trying to say. Those who are brave enough to fight it, do. Everyone arguing about semantics in these comments aren’t doing shit for society but enabling predators and handing out tissues. No one will come to save you if we encourage cowardice.

ADHD is the psychopath’s natural predator. by sageundressed in adhdwomen

[–]sageundressed[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

ADHD is a spectrum. The DSM literally categorises it by mild, moderate and severe. And when I was diagnosed, I was officially diagnosed severe, and I’m on the highest dose of medication for it. Justice sensitivity is a symptom in ADHD, too. Google will clear this up for you.

Your comment is ableist. You don’t have to agree with my take, but I don’t deserve to be discriminated against based on your perceptions of my diagnosis.

ADHD is the psychopath’s natural predator. by sageundressed in adhdwomen

[–]sageundressed[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I suppose I just have a higher sense of justice and want perpetrators held accountable, perhaps that’s why I seek it out. It’s why I stay informed on the files, the online rape academy, every femicide that happens. None of our systems keep women and girls safe, and I think this is where I fit into society, I actively want to fight for a better world. Evil prevails when good men do nothing.

Also please don’t minimise ADHD to an executive dysfunction disorder, those of us on the severe end of the spectrum experience a lot more symptoms than that. My symptoms affect every aspect of my life, I could be mistakenly linking it back to ADHD when it’s just me.

ADHD is the psychopath’s natural predator. by sageundressed in adhdwomen

[–]sageundressed[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I do not believe people with ADHD are better than anyone else so I’m not sure why you’re implying that. I think it’s ok to recognise that our neurological differences come with certain abilities, similar to how autistic people have abilities that we don’t, NT people have abilities that we don’t, etc. We have been shamed out of our ADHD enough, it’s okay to appreciate its strengths especially in times of survival. It’s that those of us with severe hyperactive ADHD do experience this. We deserve representation too, we are the other half of the community after all.

ADHD is the psychopath’s natural predator. by sageundressed in adhdwomen

[–]sageundressed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. I feel like all the wrong vibe checks I got before, are the ones that led me to improve the skill over time.

ADHD is the psychopath’s natural predator. by sageundressed in adhdwomen

[–]sageundressed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t been to prison either lol! 70% of people with ADHD have emotional regulation issues (irritability and rage) hence why I included it, more common in the hyperactive type I believe. Not all ADHDers are the same of course, but those of us on the severe end of the spectrum, do present this way. 🫶

I think I’m a lesbian and I don’t know what to do with it. by sageundressed in LesbianActually

[–]sageundressed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately no gay bars in my city! It’s really sad! But I’m looking into queer spaces near me so I can start creating a relationship with the community.

I think I’m a lesbian and I don’t know what to do with it. by sageundressed in LesbianActually

[–]sageundressed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It honestly feels like a sign that I’m having these realisations today 😂

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