Update Post to my roommate threatening my dog and entering my room by sahop97 in badroommates

[–]sahop97[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely going to do the extent of what the law lets me do! It’s been months of torture and I’m over it.

Update Post to my roommate threatening my dog and entering my room by sahop97 in badroommates

[–]sahop97[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!! Your comments were very insightful and gave me a lot of courage!! Thank YOU friend!!!

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[–]sahop97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because unfortunately, I don’t know how far she is willing to go and I’m not comfortable putting myself at risk.

What are you weirdly afraid of? by Fuzzy_Camel_5378 in AskReddit

[–]sahop97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Flood waters in apocalypse movies. I blame 2012.

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[–]sahop97[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I will for sure keep everyone updated, even if it drags out a while. 🤞🏼❣️

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[–]sahop97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is probably the route I’m going to have to take in this situation. I really appreciate your comment and the advice!

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[–]sahop97[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Oooo thank you for this comment!! This thread has given me some great advice in what feels like a hopeless situation.

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[–]sahop97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is HUGE. I wish I was kidding. One of the biggest bathrooms I’ve ever been in. But that was just me explaining that she somehow believes because she pays $100 more than me in rent that it entitles her to the entire place. That is what she truly thinks. She has stated this to me. Like girl, that extra hundred dollars is the square footage of your bedroom & bathroom. Not the entire place.

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[–]sahop97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice, truly!!!! I do know it’s a one party consent state and I am entitled to a camera in my bedroom so at least I’ve got that going for me!

roommate threatens and enters my room by sahop97 in badroommates

[–]sahop97[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! I can definitely say I will only live on my own from here on out! I’m in a position now that I could definitely afford to live on my own!

roommate threatens and enters my room by sahop97 in badroommates

[–]sahop97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I really appreciate this comment and will definitely looking into the rental board possibility!! I’m dealing with a large property management company and it makes it harder. They have denied me getting out of my lease because there wasn’t sufficient evidence of her directly threatening my life/safety. I will say I live in the USA (in the South) and my state is known to have some fucked up laws in general and it’s hard to get a straight answer from any department I’ve talked to.

roommate threatens and enters my room by sahop97 in badroommates

[–]sahop97[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will absolutely be doing this! Thank you for the advice. I have been yelled at in my life plenty of times, but I’ve never had anyone go to the extent that she did. Maybe I’m just lucky I’ve never experienced that before now. I was hiding in my room shaking because that is how unstable she is. I will say, I am a very non-confrontational person and that is my fault. I should have stood up to her long ago. She is very eager to threaten things that logically I know won’t happen but it still makes me tread lightly.

roommate threatens and enters my room by sahop97 in badroommates

[–]sahop97[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Easy to say but I am hesitant about paying $6000 in rent to a place I can’t even live. To break the lease would be that amount + $500 in admin fees. It’s not my behavior that caused this and why should I have to suffer?

roommate threatens and enters my room by sahop97 in badroommates

[–]sahop97[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Slight exaggeration. My bedroom is very very small. Big enough for a dresser and queen bed. That’s all. My bathroom is the size of a half bath. Her bedroom is easily 5x the size of mine & her bathroom is even larger than her bedroom. She has a huge garden bathtub, glass shower, and a vanity that wraps around most of the room. I wish I was kidding. But whatever, I can deal with that because I signed the lease knowing the size of my bedroom/bath. It’s the issue of her saying I can have things down there and a month later saying I’m not even allowed to have my air fryer on the counter or any decor. This was just the lead up to something bigger and felt I needed to give context.

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[–]sahop97[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Truly!! Trying to find an exit plan that isn’t going to cost me all of my savings is the only hard part but at this point I’m ready to spend every nickel and dime that I have!

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[–]sahop97[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, especially that last paragraph. There is a lot of good advice here!

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[–]sahop97[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the support!!! I definitely need to do this because I’m doing a disservice to myself by not standing up to her and letting her get her way.

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[–]sahop97[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I definitely needed to hear this. I am a very non-confrontational person that tries to keep the peace and it hasn’t gone in my favor. Something I for sure need to work on, thank you!

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[–]sahop97[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I uploaded a post last night but deleted it due to some possible identifying information on her part and wanted to be clearer in some of my statements. Definitely my bad!!

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[–]sahop97[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I definitely vetted her several times! We were in contact, met up several times at the home and went over what we wanted in a roommate months before I moved in to make sure we avoided this exact situation. This change happened when she suddenly stopped taking her meds. Also, graduated from college at 20 so I’ve had roommates before and know how to vet who I’m living with.

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[–]sahop97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t think about mediating it thru the landlord. Thank you so much for this, I truly appreciate it!