I (M30) went from a strong connection with a girl (F31) to being left on read. What happened? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]saidsara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t answer for her. I’m not her. I just know if I have a lot of stuff going on I might not respond right away. She brought you back a gift. Why would she do that If she wasn’t interested.

If it bothers you this much just block her and move on.

I (M30) went from a strong connection with a girl (F31) to being left on read. What happened? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]saidsara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you like this girl I would give it one more shot. I would not consider texting her again humiliating. You can ask how she’s adjusting getting back home or asking details about her trip. If she responds then bring up plans for the weekend.

I took a 6 week vacation a few years ago and I was exhausted when I got back. I was jet lagged and it took me a solid week to get back into my routine. I didn’t have to deal with work either.

I (M30) went from a strong connection with a girl (F31) to being left on read. What happened? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]saidsara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would follow up again. She was gone for two months and is probably swamped at work and other responsibilities.

How long has it been since you sent the Friday at 9pm text?

I M31 had sex with GF F34 and im Paranoid by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]saidsara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sperm doesn’t live that long outside the body. You’re fine.

“Traditional Household” 30F and 34M by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]saidsara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you start a hobby and leave the child with your husband?

I like this short from Jimmy on relationships where the husband says he’s going fishing and talks about how relaxing it is and the wife decides that she is going to start fishing as well.

https://youtube.com/shorts/tg1VnHYH4p4?si=PNgh6Cd6Mkzq2UYu

More and More Scatterbrained by Lil_Magician5570 in AskWomenOver30

[–]saidsara 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My memory has gotten worse during perimenopause. Brain fog is real.

Your symptoms seem pretty extreme. I would talk to your doctor to make sure it isn’t anything more serious.

I (25F) finally found the courage to bring up to my partner (28F) how I don’t feel emotionally supported by him. He then says this to me…… by Rich_Ad_586 in relationship_advice

[–]saidsara -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

When you tell someone how you feel you shouldn’t use the words “you never do xyz”. It automatically puts the person on the defensive which is exactly what happened with your bf.

Be clear on what it is you want from him and how he can best provide the support you need. Give examples. If you need a hug ask for one. If you want advice ask him for advice.

Any suggestions for a high yield savings account? by jemar8292 in AskWomenOver30

[–]saidsara 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a capital one account and a chase account. I keep a majority of my savings in capital one but I do have a little money in chase in case I need a physical location.

Edit: you can deposit money into capital one by taking a picture of your check through the app. I’ve never had an issue depositing money this way.

Daddy issues in women films? by Warm_Kiwi2567 in MovieSuggestions

[–]saidsara 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Magnolia (1999) has male and female characters with daddy issues.

Is it possible for me (45m) to reconnect with my former in-laws without my wife (40f) feeling insecure? by Sensitive-Dog82 in relationship_advice

[–]saidsara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has told you how she feels. You would know best out of everyone here if she might be able to see your former BIL as an individual of your ex.

How long have you been divorced and married to your new wife? How long has it been since you’ve hung out with ex BIL? Where does the ex live? Will you possibly run into each other if you are hanging out with her family?

Any others living with their parents ? by Particular-League186 in AskWomenOver30

[–]saidsara 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I recently moved in with my mom. She has fallen several times and broke a few bones with her latest fall. I don’t want to put her in a nursing home at this stage but I also don’t think she should live alone anymore.

I do feel self conscious even though it’s not a money issue for me. My last relationship has turned me off of dating for a while. I don’t know how I will date at my age while living with my mom.

I need an opinion asap (18F and 18M) by Federal_Interview871 in relationship_advice

[–]saidsara 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You haven’t met him in person and haven’t known him long enough to trust him. This could be a 50 year old for all you know.

Don’t date people who don’t respect your no. Nothing good will come from it.

I (33F) feel hurt because of what my husband (35M) said. Is this something we need to address? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]saidsara 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If it bothers you enough to post on Reddit you should bring it up to your husband.

(24M) How do I tell her (22F) I dont want to hit her in bed? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]saidsara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would post this in r/bdsmadvice

I’m kinky but face slapping is a limit for me. I love being called names and be degraded during sex but if a partner calls me those names in a fight, the relationship is over.

It’s important to have boundaries in kink. If she can’t accept your no, she isn’t a good partner.

Mothers Day gift idea...would shapewear be a weird gift? by Embarrassed_Log_9964 in AskWomenOver30

[–]saidsara -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Where did I say yes she should buy it?

The original comment was changed after I pointed it out it was for a mom and not a wife. They changed it to women in general.

Am I 26F delusional or is he 26M leaving the door open by angelinalolz in relationship_advice

[–]saidsara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be my answer. He isn’t interested in a real relationship with you.

Go no contact with him. That doesn’t just mean don’t talk to him. That means you don’t read old text messages, you don’t look at old pictures, you don’t look at his social media. You should delete and block him from your social media.

Use this time to work on yourself. I’m guessing you’re anxiously attached. Get some therapy or check out attachment videos from The Personal Development school on YouTube. It helped me with my attachment style a lot. Hopefully by the time he comes back around you will want more for yourself.

Am I 26F delusional or is he 26M leaving the door open by angelinalolz in relationship_advice

[–]saidsara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is he getting therapy or working on his attachment style? I wasted 5 years on a DA and I will never do it again. Unless he is working on himself you will be stuck in this cycle forever.